That Feeling That Something's Missing, and How To Find It | Vinny Ferraro

How a 10-second pause can quiet the urge for more, why contentment comes through subtraction, not addition, and why a gratitude list alone can't fix the feeling. Vinny Ferraro has practiced insight meditation (vipassanā) since the mid-90s. He's the Guiding Teacher of the Big Heart City Sangha in San Francisco and has led a weekly sitting group for almost two decades. As a fully empowered Dharma Teacher thru Spirit Rock/IMS, he has taught residential retreats at various centers and currently, leads Spirit Rock's Year to Live course. In this episode we talk about: Why no moment ever feels quite good enough Whether you actually need all that wanting to get things done How to tell healthy desire from the compulsive kind Why getting what you want so rarely delivers Why "why am I like this?" might be the wrong question How to stop turning other people's joy into a story about you Why gratitude lists can still leave you reaching How to turn a wandering mind into a ticker tape parade Why we dodge the present moment like an old drug dealer The ten-second pause you can slip into almost anywhere The two-word rule for deciding what to say yes to A walking phrase that makes everything feel panoramic What to do with the sadness of remembering it all ends Related Episodes: Frank Ostaseski, What Death Can Teach Us About Living Additional Resources: Vinny Ferraro's Get the 10% with Dan Harris app here Sign up for Dan's free newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel This episode is sponsored by: Base44: Go to Base44.com/Happier and sign up through our link to get 30% off the Builder plan for your first year. Feeding America: Head to FeedingAmerica.org/Holiday right now to make a gift. Every dollar makes a real difference. Rosetta Stone: Visit rosettastone.com/happier to redeem your 20% off Rosetta Stone Sapphire. Northwest Registered Agent: Visit northwestregisteredagent.com/HappierFree and start using free resources to build something amazing. Square: Get up to $200 off Square hardware when you sign up at square.com/go/happier! #squarepod Oura Ring: Wear your best life with Oura: ouraring.com To advertise on the show, contact [email protected] or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris