Most of us were trained to look for God in the big moments — the breakthrough, the open door, the dramatic call. But what if God is most consistently present in the ordinary moments we rush past every day?In this episode, I want to share a 500-year-old practice that has quietly transformed my leadership, my marriage, and my relationship with God. It&apos;s called the Examen — and I believe it may be the single most underused tool in the modern pastor&apos;s spiritual formation toolkit.I&apos;ll take you through the history of this practice, born out of the life of Ignatius of Loyola — a soldier brought low by a cannonball who discovered that God speaks through our interior movements. I&apos;ll share the 2-question version you can start today, and the fuller 4-movement practice the Jesuits have done twice a day for five centuries.This isn&apos;t theory. I&apos;ll be honest with you about the years I spent pushing past the heaviness in my chest — misreading desolation as something to overcome rather than something to hear. What I missed cost me. You don&apos;t have to miss it too.The Examen interrupts the cycle of leading from wounds and repeating old patterns. It teaches discernment, not just decision-making. And it begins with just two questions.<a href='https://www.emotionallyhealthy.org/conference/'>Reserve your spot at our upcoming Global Leaders Conference.</a> September 30 – October 1, 2026 14th St. Salvation Army, NYC (Live Spanish Translation available)Register Now: https://ehd.churchcenter.com/registrations/events/3421612Learn more about the EH Global Leader Conference 2026: emotionallyhealthy.org/conference

<description>&lt;p&gt;Most of us were trained to look for God in the big moments — the breakthrough, the open door, the dramatic call. But what if God is most consistently present in the ordinary moments we rush past every day?&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;In this episode, I want to share a 500-year-old practice that has quietly transformed my leadership, my marriage, and my relationship with God. It&amp;apos;s called the Examen — and I believe it may be the single most underused tool in the modern pastor&amp;apos;s spiritual formation toolkit.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;I&amp;apos;ll take you through the history of this practice, born out of the life of Ignatius of Loyola — a soldier brought low by a cannonball who discovered that God speaks through our interior movements. I&amp;apos;ll share the 2-question version you can start today, and the fuller 4-movement practice the Jesuits have done twice a day for five centuries.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;This isn&amp;apos;t theory. I&amp;apos;ll be honest with you about the years I spent pushing past the heaviness in my chest — misreading desolation as something to overcome rather than something to hear. What I missed cost me. You don&amp;apos;t have to miss it too.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;The Examen interrupts the cycle of leading from wounds and repeating old patterns. It teaches discernment, not just decision-making. And it begins with just two questions.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href='https://www.emotionallyhealthy.org/conference/'&gt;Reserve your spot at our upcoming Global Leaders Conference.&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;em&gt;September 30 – October 1, 2026&lt;br/&gt;14th St. Salvation Army, NYC&lt;br/&gt;(Live Spanish Translation available)&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Register Now: https://ehd.churchcenter.com/registrations/events/3421612&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Learn more about the EH Global Leader Conference 2026: emotionallyhealthy.org/conference&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description>

Most of us were trained to look for God in the big moments — the breakthrough, the open door, the dramatic call. But what if God is most consistently present in the ordinary moments we rush past every day? In this episode, I want to share a 500-year-old practice that has quietly transformed my leadership, my marriage, and my relationship with God. It's called the Examen — and I believe it may be the single most underused tool in the modern pastor's spiritual formation toolkit. I'll take you t...

How to Find God in Unexpected Places: The Examen for Today

Free Resource: Download the Day Alone with God Guide at emotionallyhealthy.org/sabbathMost leaders I know have a daily time with God. Very few ever stop long enough to actually hear Him.There&apos;s a difference between a longer quiet time and a day alone with God. One sustains you. The other re-orders you. And if you&apos;re honest, you know the difference—because you&apos;ve felt what happens when your life gets disordered and nothing seems to bring it back into focus.In this episode, I&apos;m walking you through how to spend a half day—or full day—alone with God, and why this practice may be the most important thing missing from your leadership right now. We&apos;ll look at how Jesus, Moses, Elijah, and Anna all built extended withdrawal into their lives with God—not as a luxury, but as a necessity.I&apos;ll also share a simple six-movement structure you can use right away, along with the fears and resistances that keep most leaders from ever doing this.Your leadership will only go as deep as your life with God. You cannot give what you don&apos;t have.This episode could change everything. <a href='https://www.emotionallyhealthy.org/conference/'>Reserve your spot at our upcoming Global Leaders Conference.</a> September 30 – October 1, 2026 14th St. Salvation Army, NYC (Live Spanish Translation available)Register Now: https://ehd.churchcenter.com/registrations/events/3421612Learn more about the EH Global Leader Conference 2026: emotionallyhealthy.org/conference

<description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;br/&gt;Free Resource: &lt;/b&gt;Download the Day Alone with God Guide at emotionallyhealthy.org/sabbath&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Most leaders I know have a daily time with God. Very few ever stop long enough to actually &lt;em&gt;hear&lt;/em&gt; Him.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;There&amp;apos;s a difference between a longer quiet time and a day alone with God. One sustains you. The other re-orders you. And if you&amp;apos;re honest, you know the difference—because you&amp;apos;ve felt what happens when your life gets disordered and nothing seems to bring it back into focus.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;In this episode, I&amp;apos;m walking you through how to spend a half day—or full day—alone with God, and why this practice may be the most important thing missing from your leadership right now. We&amp;apos;ll look at how Jesus, Moses, Elijah, and Anna all built extended withdrawal into their lives with God—not as a luxury, but as a necessity.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;I&amp;apos;ll also share a simple six-movement structure you can use right away, along with the fears and resistances that keep most leaders from ever doing this.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Your leadership will only go as deep as your life with God. You cannot give what you don&amp;apos;t have.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;This episode could change everything.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href='https://www.emotionallyhealthy.org/conference/'&gt;Reserve your spot at our upcoming Global Leaders Conference.&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;em&gt;September 30 – October 1, 2026&lt;br/&gt;14th St. Salvation Army, NYC&lt;br/&gt;(Live Spanish Translation available)&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Register Now: https://ehd.churchcenter.com/registrations/events/3421612&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Learn more about the EH Global Leader Conference 2026: emotionallyhealthy.org/conference&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description>

 Free Resource: Download the Day Alone with God Guide at emotionallyhealthy.org/sabbath Most leaders I know have a daily time with God. Very few ever stop long enough to actually hear Him. There's a difference between a longer quiet time and a day alone with God. One sustains you. The other re-orders you. And if you're honest, you know the difference—because you've felt what happens when your life gets disordered and nothing seems to bring it back into focus. In this episode, I'm walking you ...

How to Spend a Day (or Half Day) Alone with God—and Why It Matters 

📥 Free Resource: Download our free guide to get started with the Daily Office <a href='http://www.emotionallyhealthy.org/dailyoffice'>emotionallyhealthy.org/dailyoffice </a> One of the questions I get asked more than almost any other is: How do you spend time with God each day? What do you do? For how long? Is there a right way?Here&apos;s the truth I&apos;ve learned over decades of pastoral ministry: there is no one-size-fits-all daily time with God. The goal was never a method—it was always a life of loving union with Him.In this episode, I take you on a personal journey through five distinct phases of my own prayer life—from intense Scripture study to intercessory prayer, from emotional health integration to contemplative rhythms rooted in monastic wisdom. Each phase taught me something essential. None of them, on their own, was the whole picture.Then I lay out six practical pillars you can use to design a daily rhythm with God that actually fits you—your season, your temperament, your calling.Whether you&apos;re a ministry leader under immense pressure or someone just trying to show up faithfully, this episode will help you stop copying someone else&apos;s spirituality and start building something sustainable and life-giving.The best daily time with God isn&apos;t the longest one. It&apos;s the one you&apos;ll actually keep. <a href='https://www.emotionallyhealthy.org/conference/'>Reserve your spot at our upcoming Global Leaders Conference.</a> September 30 – October 1, 2026 14th St. Salvation Army, NYC (Live Spanish Translation available)Register Now: https://ehd.churchcenter.com/registrations/events/3421612Learn more about the EH Global Leader Conference 2026: emotionallyhealthy.org/conference

<description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;📥 Free Resource: Download our free guide to get started with the Daily Office &lt;/b&gt;&lt;a href='http://www.emotionallyhealthy.org/dailyoffice'&gt;&lt;b&gt;emotionallyhealthy.org/dailyoffice&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;One of the questions I get asked more than almost any other is: &lt;em&gt;How do you spend time with God each day?&lt;/em&gt; What do you do? For how long? Is there a right way?&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Here&amp;apos;s the truth I&amp;apos;ve learned over decades of pastoral ministry: there is no one-size-fits-all daily time with God. The goal was never a method—it was always a life of loving union with Him.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;In this episode, I take you on a personal journey through five distinct phases of my own prayer life—from intense Scripture study to intercessory prayer, from emotional health integration to contemplative rhythms rooted in monastic wisdom. Each phase taught me something essential. None of them, on their own, was the whole picture.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Then I lay out six practical pillars you can use to design a daily rhythm with God that actually fits &lt;em&gt;you&lt;/em&gt;—your season, your temperament, your calling.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Whether you&amp;apos;re a ministry leader under immense pressure or someone just trying to show up faithfully, this episode will help you stop copying someone else&amp;apos;s spirituality and start building something sustainable and life-giving.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;The best daily time with God isn&amp;apos;t the longest one. It&amp;apos;s the one you&amp;apos;ll actually keep.&lt;b&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href='https://www.emotionallyhealthy.org/conference/'&gt;Reserve your spot at our upcoming Global Leaders Conference.&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;em&gt;September 30 – October 1, 2026&lt;br/&gt;14th St. Salvation Army, NYC&lt;br/&gt;(Live Spanish Translation available)&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Register Now: https://ehd.churchcenter.com/registrations/events/3421612&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Learn more about the EH Global Leader Conference 2026: emotionallyhealthy.org/conference&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description>

📥 Free Resource: Download our free guide to get started with the Daily Office emotionallyhealthy.org/dailyoffice   One of the questions I get asked more than almost any other is: How do you spend time with God each day? What do you do? For how long? Is there a right way? Here's the truth I've learned over decades of pastoral ministry: there is no one-size-fits-all daily time with God. The goal was never a method—it was always a life of loving union with Him. In this episode, I take you on a p...

Designing a Daily Time with God that Fits You

Take your team through the Emotionally Healthy Leader Book. Download the FREE discussion guide: http://www.emotionallyhealthy.org/leaderLet’s get honest. Power makes most of us uncomfortable. So we avoid it, minimize it, or misuse it.In this episode, Pete Scazzero shares a defining leadership failure—one that cost him deeply: relationships, trust, and a 20-year community.At the center of it? Unclear boundaries and dual relationships.You’ll discover:<ul><li>Why every leader must name and steward their power</li><li>The danger of trying to be both a friend and a supervisor</li><li>How blurred roles quietly damage teams and culture</li><li>Why the burden of boundaries always falls on the leader</li><li>What it means to do the inner work required for healthy leadership</li></ul>This is not about leadership theory. It’s about formation.Because if you don’t deal with power and boundaries, they will deal with you. <a href='https://www.emotionallyhealthy.org/conference/'>Reserve your spot at our upcoming Global Leaders Conference.</a> September 30 – October 1, 2026 14th St. Salvation Army, NYC (Live Spanish Translation available)Register Now: https://ehd.churchcenter.com/registrations/events/3421612Learn more about the EH Global Leader Conference 2026: emotionallyhealthy.org/conference

<description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;Take your team through the Emotionally Healthy Leader Book. Download the FREE discussion guide: http://www.emotionallyhealthy.org/leader&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Let’s get honest.&lt;br/&gt;Power makes most of us uncomfortable.&lt;br/&gt;So we avoid it, minimize it, or misuse it.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;In this episode, Pete Scazzero shares a defining leadership failure—one that cost him deeply: relationships, trust, and a 20-year community.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;At the center of it?&lt;br/&gt;Unclear boundaries and dual relationships.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;You’ll discover:&lt;/p&gt;&lt;ul&gt;&lt;li&gt;Why every leader must name and steward their power&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;The danger of trying to be both a friend and a supervisor&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;How blurred roles quietly damage teams and culture&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Why the burden of boundaries always falls on the leader&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;What it means to do the inner work required for healthy leadership&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;p&gt;This is not about leadership theory.&lt;br/&gt;It’s about formation.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Because if you don’t deal with power and boundaries, they will deal with you.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href='https://www.emotionallyhealthy.org/conference/'&gt;Reserve your spot at our upcoming Global Leaders Conference.&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;em&gt;September 30 – October 1, 2026&lt;br/&gt;14th St. Salvation Army, NYC&lt;br/&gt;(Live Spanish Translation available)&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Register Now: https://ehd.churchcenter.com/registrations/events/3421612&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Learn more about the EH Global Leader Conference 2026: emotionallyhealthy.org/conference&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description>

Take your team through the Emotionally Healthy Leader Book. Download the FREE discussion guide: http://www.emotionallyhealthy.org/leader Let’s get honest. Power makes most of us uncomfortable. So we avoid it, minimize it, or misuse it. In this episode, Pete Scazzero shares a defining leadership failure—one that cost him deeply: relationships, trust, and a 20-year community. At the center of it? Unclear boundaries and dual relationships. You’ll discover: Why every leader must name and steward ...

Power and Wise Boundaries: What Church Leaders Must Learn

Take your team through the Emotionally Healthy Leader Book. Download the FREE discussion guide: http://www.emotionallyhealthy.org/leaderChurch scandals don’t begin the day they are exposed. They begin years earlier—in quiet compromises, ignored red flags, and leaders whose gifting has grown faster than their maturity.In this episode of The Emotionally Healthy Leader Podcast, I go beneath the headlines to name the real issue: church scandals are not first a PR problem. They are a formation problem.Jesus told us pressure would come. He told us not to be surprised. And He made clear that what will matter in the end is not image management, but whether we have become the kind of leaders who can stand firm under pressure without collapsing.I unpack four essential pillars every pastor and church leader needs if they hope to lead with integrity over the long haul: facing your shadow, leading out of your marriage or singleness, slowing down for loving union with Jesus, and practicing Sabbath delight.This is not about quick fixes. It’s about deep transformation. If you care about the name of Jesus, the witness of the church, and finishing well, this episode is for you.<a href='https://www.emotionallyhealthy.org/conference/'>Reserve your spot at our upcoming Global Leaders Conference.</a> September 30 – October 1, 2026 14th St. Salvation Army, NYC (Live Spanish Translation available)Register Now: https://ehd.churchcenter.com/registrations/events/3421612Learn more about the EH Global Leader Conference 2026: emotionallyhealthy.org/conference

<description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;Take your team through the Emotionally Healthy Leader Book. Download the FREE discussion guide: http://www.emotionallyhealthy.org/leader&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Church scandals don’t begin the day they are exposed. They begin years earlier—in quiet compromises, ignored red flags, and leaders whose gifting has grown faster than their maturity.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;In this episode of &lt;em&gt;The Emotionally Healthy Leader Podcast&lt;/em&gt;, I go beneath the headlines to name the real issue: church scandals are not first a PR problem. They are a formation problem.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Jesus told us pressure would come. He told us not to be surprised. And He made clear that what will matter in the end is not image management, but whether we have become the kind of leaders who can stand firm under pressure without collapsing.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;I unpack four essential pillars every pastor and church leader needs if they hope to lead with integrity over the long haul: facing your shadow, leading out of your marriage or singleness, slowing down for loving union with Jesus, and practicing Sabbath delight.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;This is not about quick fixes. It’s about deep transformation.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;If you care about the name of Jesus, the witness of the church, and finishing well, this episode is for you.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href='https://www.emotionallyhealthy.org/conference/'&gt;Reserve your spot at our upcoming Global Leaders Conference.&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;em&gt;September 30 – October 1, 2026&lt;br/&gt;14th St. Salvation Army, NYC&lt;br/&gt;(Live Spanish Translation available)&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Register Now: https://ehd.churchcenter.com/registrations/events/3421612&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Learn more about the EH Global Leader Conference 2026: emotionallyhealthy.org/conference&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description>

Take your team through the Emotionally Healthy Leader Book. Download the FREE discussion guide: http://www.emotionallyhealthy.org/leader Church scandals don’t begin the day they are exposed. They begin years earlier—in quiet compromises, ignored red flags, and leaders whose gifting has grown faster than their maturity. In this episode of The Emotionally Healthy Leader Podcast, I go beneath the headlines to name the real issue: church scandals are not first a PR problem. They are a formation p...

The Scandal Beneath All the Church Scandals (And What to Do About It)

Many pastors and church leaders today feel overwhelmed, exhausted, and frustrated that their churches don't seem to be making mature disciples. The Emotionally Healthy Leader Podcast explores the paradigms and practices leaders need to transform their church culture and multiply deeply changed disciples.

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