The Hook Up

Research shows that women are getting more progressive and men are becoming more conservative - so how is this growing political divide affecting your love life? We hear your experiences of right-wing dudes wokefishing on dates, and your takes on how the algorithm is making you want to quit dating altogether - and if going boy sober is a bad thing. SHOW NOTES: Research on gender divide in politics: https://www.afr.com/politics/federal/australia-s-gender-divide-why-young-men-and-women-are-pulling-apart-20241120-p5ks5z  https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2024/nov/14/us-election-donald-trump-voters-gender-race-data  https://www.ft.com/content/29fd9b5c-2f35-41bf-9d4c-994db4e12998    Research on algorithms and toxic content: https://www.dcu.ie/humanities-and-social-sciences/news/2024/apr/new-research-shows-how-tiktok-and-youtube-shorts-are   Articles of demise of dating/relationships: https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2024/12/4b-sex-strike-american-dating/680770/  https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2025/feb/09/were-in-a-relationship-recession-and-a-lot-of-women-are-absolutely-fine-with-that DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

A lot of people think if you argue in your relationship it means something is wrong, but relationship therapist and sexologist Lucille Shackleton says it’s actually a good thing - it just depends on how you fight. In this ep Dee Salmin gets all the advice from Lucille on how to deal with conflict with your partner in a healthy way.  SHOW NOTES:  Lucille's Instagram Lucille's book All In Gottman Institute research on conflict  DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

‘Micro cheating’ is the new trend online, and everyone’s got a hot take on what it looks like. So what do you consider ‘micro cheating’? And is it worth ending a relationship over?   DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

A lot of the time if we’re struggling in our love lives, whether that’s attracting the wrong people, or ending up in bad relationships, we usually blame the other person/people.  But sometimes it has a lot to do with ourselves.  In this episode relationship therapist and sexologist Lucille Shackleton chats to Dee about the ways we can unpack our bad dating habits and create the safe and healthy love we deserve.  SHOW NOTES:  Lucille Shackleton Instagram: @lucille.shackleton  DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

From moaning names and describing your hottest fantasies, we ask you what you think about dirty talk - what you love about it, what you hate about it, and how you reckon you can level up your vernacular in and out of the bedroom.   SHOW NOTES: Articles on audio erotica: https://www.allure.com/story/sensual-auralism-dirty-talk https://www.dazeddigital.com/life-culture/article/58354/1/why-so-many-women-are-turning-to-audio-erotica-frolicme-dipsea   Dirty talk research: https://bigthink.com/the-present/dirty-talk/ https://getmaude.com/blogs/themaudern/the-science-behind-dirty-talk    DO OUR SURVEY!!!!! → https://forms.office.com/r/0UPDsRsaZ6   DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.