Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick

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Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we'll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you've always wanted! Join us every Wednesday as we talk to real daters and experts about the entire gamut of modern dating and relationships – from securing your anxious attachment, choosing the right partner for you, healing from your breakup to dating in your 30s and beyond. Make sure to send us your burning dating questions as we answer them every Sunday! If you're looking for a podcast that's relatable and full of emotional support and substance, then look no further. Let us be your biggest cheerleaders as you navigate dating in this crazy Dateable world. Send us your brunchtalk questions at [email protected] or leave your question in a review! Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private 'Big Dateable Energy Facebook group. Check out our website for more content and join our Finding Your Person Program!: https://www.findingyourperson.com/ Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts

Recent Episodes

OCT 13, 2026
S23E7: When "Protecting Your Peace" Keeps You From Love w/ Amanda White
It's so easy to spit out the Instagram slogans we see everywhere like "Protect Your Peace,” “Set Boundaries,” “Know Your Worth,” “You Don’t Owe Anyone Anything” but what happens when what was meant to be empowering leaves us alone? We're discussing with Amanda White of @therapyforwomen why therapy culture on the internet has done real damage and how we can add the nuance needed to make sure we aren't giving to the wrong people vs. unnecessarily shutting people out for being human. We discuss why annoyance is the price you pay for community, how our obsession with frictionless living has made us less capable of tolerating the discomfort of relationships, and when you can heal through relationships vs. know it's necessary to take the time for yourself. Enjoy! To learn more about Amanda, follow her at @therapyforwomen and visit https://therapyforwomencenter.com/ _ Take our Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/ Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/ Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Have you ever had a time in your life where you genuinely didn’t want a serious relationship but still wanted connection and chemistry? Download the Fling app in the app store or visit fling.me today. Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE Our Sponsors: * Quince: Download the Quince App for app-exclusive offers and get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com and tell them you heard about them through Dateable to support the show! Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
59 MIN
SEP 29, 2026
S23E5: The Power of Human Connection In the World of AI w/ Dr. Melissa Perry
Is AI helping us feel more connected, or making us less willing to deal with the messiness of real human relationships? We’re joined by Dr. Melissa Perry to unpack what happens when we turn to AI to process our dating lives, relationships, and emotions instead of turning to the people around us. We discuss why AI can feel so validating and easy to talk to (and what that means for humans that can't keep up with the speed and attention it gives us!), what we actually lose when we outsource too much of our emotional lives to technology, and how to embrace technology without losing what makes human connection so meaningful. Enjoy! NOTE: This is not a pro or anti-AI discussion but rather a nuanced look at what is happening to human connection with the rise of AI. To learn more about Melissa Perry read her column on Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mindful-epidemiologist _ Take our Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/ Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/ Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Have you ever had a time in your life where you genuinely didn’t want a serious relationship but still wanted connection and chemistry? Download the Fling app in the app store or visit fling.me today. Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE Our Sponsors: * Quince: Download the Quince App for app-exclusive offers and get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com and tell them you heard about them through Dateable to support the show! Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
65 MIN
SEP 22, 2026
S23E4: The Millennial Midlife Crisis Nobody Warned Us About
What happens when the life you imagined in your 20s doesn’t look anything like the life you’re living in your 40s? We're unpacking what millennial midlife really looks like – from being single and dating later in life to navigating marriage, long-term relationships, divorce, and changing expectations around commitment and family. We discuss why our generation is rewriting the rules of adulthood, the new challenges we face compared to past generations that trigger a different type of feeling unsettled, and why midlife can be an opportunity to redefine what fulfillment looks like rather than a crisis. Enjoy! ---- Take our Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/ Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/ Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Have you ever had a time in your life where you genuinely didn’t want a serious relationship but still wanted connection and chemistry? Download the Fling app in the app store or visit fling.me today. Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE Our Sponsors: * Quince: Download the Quince App for app-exclusive offers and get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com and tell them you heard about them through Dateable to support the show! Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
61 MIN
SEP 15, 2026
S23E3: Moving Cities (And Countries) For A Chance At Love w/ Kristen Such
If you've felt stuck dating, have you ever wondered if it could be the place you live? How much does your city shape your dating life? And what do you do when you have the urge to go somewhere else....for life and love? We're chatting with Kristen Such who shares her story about moving to better align with the types of people she wanted to meet – and how that eventually led her to finding love. We discuss when to know it's time to explore different locations (and how you can do so slowly without blowing up your entire life), when moving gives you a refreshed sense of life vs the problems just follow you, and how to take the leap for someone you know is worth investing in even if all the logistical cards are stacked against you. Enjoy! To learn more about Kristen, follow her at @kristen.such and visit https://www.kristensuch.com _ Take our Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/ Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/ Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Have you ever had a time in your life where you genuinely didn’t want a serious relationship but still wanted connection and chemistry? Download the Fling app in the app store or visit fling.me today. Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE Our Sponsors: * Quince: Download the Quince App for app-exclusive offers and get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com and tell them you heard about them through Dateable to support the show! Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
64 MIN