Parenting Neurodiverse Children: Tips from Therapist Kitty Hovatter LGMFT
JAN 22, 2026-1 MIN
Parenting Neurodiverse Children: Tips from Therapist Kitty Hovatter LGMFT
JAN 22, 2026-1 MIN
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<p>In this episode of The Joy Factor, Julie Hanson sits down with Kristen “Kitty” Hovatter, a</p><p></p><p></p><p>Licensed Graduate Marriage and Family Therapist, Navy veteran, and mother of three</p><p></p><p></p><p>neurodivergent teens.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Kitty shares her personal and professional experience <a href="https://inner-evolution.com/understanding-your-neurodivergent-child-by-kristen-kitty-hovatter-lgmft">navigating neurodivergence in the </a></p><p></p><p></p><p><a href="https://inner-evolution.com/understanding-your-neurodivergent-child-by-kristen-kitty-hovatter-lgmft">family system</a> and offers practical tools for parents, caregivers, and neurodivergent</p><p></p><p></p><p>individuals seeking support.</p><p></p><p></p><p>We discuss:</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><ul><li>How to find the right therapist for your neurodivergent child</li></ul><p></p><p></p><ul><li>What to look for in a consultation</li></ul><p></p><p></p><ul><li>The difference between therapy and parent coaching</li></ul><p></p><p></p><ul><li>Practical strategies for communication and family harmony</li></ul><p></p><p></p><ul><li>Real wins from neurodivergent families</li></ul><p></p><p></p><ul><li>Kitty’s own “joy factor” and what keeps her grounded</li></ul><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>This episode is for:</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><ul><li><a href="https://inner-evolution.com/neurodivergent-parenting-you-are-not-alone">Parents of neurodivergent children</a></li></ul><p></p><p></p><ul><li>Caregivers navigating school systems (IEPs, 504s)</li></ul><p></p><p></p><ul><li>Adults recently diagnosed with ADHD or autism</li></ul><p></p><p></p><ul><li>Anyone seeking supportive, trauma-informed, non-judgmental therapy</li></ul><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p>Key Takeaways<p></p><p></p><p></p>Finding the Right Therapist<p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><ul><li>If the connection isn’t there, ask for someone else</li></ul><p></p><p></p><ul><li>Start with a 15-minute consultation</li></ul><p></p><p></p><ul><li>Ask questions like:</li></ul><p></p><p></p><ul><li class="ql-indent-1">“How often do you work with neurodivergent clients?”</li></ul><p></p><p></p><ul><li class="ql-indent-1">“How do you structure therapy for neurodivergent kids?”</li></ul><p></p><p></p><ul><li class="ql-indent-1">“Do you ask direct questions or rely on open-ended prompts?”</li></ul><p></p><p></p><p></p>What Makes Therapy Work for Neurodivergent Clients<p></p><p></p><p></p><ul><li>Consistency and routine</li></ul><p></p><p></p><ul><li>Clear communication</li></ul><p></p><p></p><ul><li>Reduced distractions in the environment</li></ul><p></p><p></p><p></p><ul><li>Plenty of choices without overwhelming the client</li></ul><p></p><p></p><p></p>Therapy vs. Coaching<p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Therapy focuses on emotional processing and building self-awareness.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Coaching is practical and role-based, with role-play and real-life strategies.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p>Biggest Wins for Families<p></p><p></p><p></p><ul><li>The moment communication clicks</li></ul><p></p><p></p><ul><li>When parents and kids feel truly understood</li></ul><p></p><p></p><ul><li>When the family creates a shared language</li></ul><p></p><p></p><p></p><ul><li>When parents stop feeling like they’re “failing” and start seeing growth</li></ul><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p>Kitty’s Joy Factor<p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Kitty shares that her joy comes from:</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><ul><li>Baking for her family</li></ul><p></p><p></p><ul><li>The smell of earth after rain (<a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Petrichor">petrichor)</a></li></ul><p></p><p></p><ul><li>Practicing radical acceptance and focusing on the next smallest step</li></ul><p></p><p></p><p></p>Recommended Resource<p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Kitty recommends “<a href="https://bookshop.org/a/90663/9780553386691">The Whole-Brain Child”</a> for parents seeking tools to connect with their</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>neurodivergent children through gentle parenting.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p>Want Support from Kitty?<p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>If you’re looking for neurodivergence-informed therapy or parent coaching in the state of </p><p></p><p></p><p>Maryland, Kitty is accepting new clients at Inner Evolution.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Learn more about Kitty here:</p><p></p><p></p><p>https://inner-evolution.com/staff/kristen-kitty-hovatter</p><p></p><p></p><p></p>Subscribe & Connect<p></p><p></p><p></p><p>If you enjoyed this episode, please:</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><ul><li><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-joy-factor/id1108263766">Subscribe</a></li></ul><p></p><p></p><p></p><ul><li><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-joy-factor/id1108263766">Leave a review</a></li></ul><p></p><p></p><ul><li>Share with a friend who needs support</li></ul><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Visit: <a 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