Do you ever wish that you know the appropriate logical consequence to give your child (aged 1-10) for each different kind of misbehavior you see?  

• When your toddler empties the water out of the dog's bowl for the 10th time today...
• When your preschooler climbs on the table three minutes after you told them to get off it...
• When your kindergartener refuses to come to the table for dinner (and you know they're going to announce they're hungry in an hour)...
• When your elementary schooler won't get dressed in the morning (even though you know they are FULLY CAPABLE of doing it themselves) without 300 increasingly nagging, pleading, and begging 'reminders' from you...

  Wouldn't it be amazing to have the PERFECT logical consequence ready that would be appropriately proportioned to the misbehavior, and also just get your child to do the thing you're asking without you having to ask again???   But here's the thing about logical consequences: they essentially say to our child: "I don't care why you don't want to do this thing; I just want you to do it."   If we saw one adult saying that to another adult, we would call it 'emotional abuse.'   So why do we do it to our children?   Because it seems like we don't have another option to get through the day.   We actually have many other options; it's just hard to remember them all and which one to use in which circumstance.   In today's episode, I'll tell you the three main reasons why setting limits is hard (and what to do about each of them).   And if you want my complete framework for how to navigate misbehavior, with ALL FIVE of the tools we can use and guidelines on exactly WHEN to use each of them, sign up now for the self-guided Setting Loving (& Effective!) Limits for just $7. Click the banner to learn more.      

Other episodes mentioned:

182: How to get frustrating behaviors to stop 193: You don't have to believe everything you think 200: Ask Alvin Anything Part 1

Jump to Highlights:

00:52 Introducing today’s topic 02:32 Invitation to join the Setting Loving (& Effective!) Limits workshop 11:08 The number 3 reason why setting limits is so hard 12:58 The importance of respectful communication and mutual understanding in parent-child interactions, highlighting scenarios where setting limits may not always be the most effective solution 25:04 The number 2 reason why it's hard to set limits 26:02  Setting limits and respecting a child's autonomy, advocating for a collaborative approach to parenting 28:41 The number 1 reason why we find it so hard to set limits 29:12 The importance of understanding and meeting both children's and parents' needs to find effective solutions to behavioral challenges, emphasizing the negative consequences of ignoring or dismissing a child's needs 41:44  Parent Cori challenges with her son's teeth brushing and the positive change brought about by understanding the child’s need for autonomy 45:42 Three great resources (and they're all free!) for parents with the same struggles as Cori’s