How Do I Know It’s God? Catholic Discernment, Consolation, and Desolation Explained
TF S03 | E18| In this episode of Thinking Faith, Deacon Eric Gurash and Dr. Brett Salkeld respond to a thoughtful question from Grade 9–10 students at Miller High School: How can I know when God is talking to me?Drawing on the spiritual wisdom of St. Ignatius of Loyola, the conversation explores Christian discernment through self-awareness, honesty, and paying attention to the movements of the heart over time. They explain the difference between spiritual consolation and desolation, clarifying that these are not simply good or bad feelings, but experiences related to freedom, clarity, hope, and closeness to God.The episode offers practical guidance on creating space to hear God’s voice through silence, prayer, spiritual reading, Mass, confession, adoration, and the daily Examen, while cautioning against making major decisions during times of desolation. Listeners are encouraged to trust that God’s voice often sounds like truth spoken within, to remain grounded in Church teaching, and to grow patiently in freedom and faith as God continues to shape their spiritual lives.00:19 Podcast Welcome03:22 Question God Speaking03:46 Ignatius Discernment Basics05:05 Silence and Self Awareness05:58 Ignatius Story and Boredom08:21 Consolation vs Dopamine Crash10:40 Examen and Honest Reflection12:02 True Voice vs False Voice15:59 Church and Moral Guardrails18:31 Crime and Punishment Example20:52 Everyday Choices and Consolation21:45 Fruits Of The Spirit22:32 Consolation Versus Desolation23:53 Do Not Decide Desolate24:35 Dad Story And Space27:58 Lies Reduce Your Options29:03 Temporary States And Clarity31:44 Many Good Choices33:42 Discernment In Sacraments36:13 Garden Conditions For Growth38:05 God Changes Our Minds38:44 Closing Thanks And Blessing