In the final episode of the <a href= "https://sunshine-parenting.com/category/tough-twenties/" target= "_blank" rel="noopener">Tough Twenties series</a>, Gretchen (age 30), Owen (age 20), and I have a conversation about building identity capital in your twenties and how various experiences, whether professional or personal, shape our stories and can influence future opportunities. Owen shares his experience as a beach lifeguard, which, although unrelated to his planned career path, provided him with valuable life skills and discipline. Gretchen, nearing the end of her doctoral program, discusses how her camp counseling experience has been instrumental in her teaching career and her current research. We also touch on the impact technology and social media are having on our lives. Both Owen and Gretchen share steps they've taken to manage their screen time, recognizing the importance of being present in the moment and the potential negative effects of excessive phone use. They share strategies such as deleting apps, setting screen time limits, and creating phone-free times during the day. The conversation highlights the importance of being mindful of our social media usage and the displacement effect it can have on our lives. The time we spend on screens is time we're not spending doing other important things - like building closer relationships and learning new skills. We also discuss the potential future of parenting in relation to technology and the importance of modeling healthy habits for the next generation. During this series, we've reflected on the challenges and rewards of the twenties and have emphasized the importance of embracing this decade as an important developmental time of growth and learning.  I hope this series has provided encouragement and guidance for young adults navigating their own winding paths. Do you enjoy Sunshine Parenting? <a href= "https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sunshine-parenting/id1158736082" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Please take a moment to give my podcast a rating and review on iTunes.</a> <a href= "https://sunshine-parenting.com/category/tough-twenties/">Listen to more episodes from the Tough Twenties series.</a> Thank you for being part of the Sunshine Parenting community! Audrey "Sunshine" Monke

<description>&lt;p&gt;In the final episode of the &lt;a href= "https://sunshine-parenting.com/category/tough-twenties/" target= "_blank" rel="noopener"&gt;Tough Twenties series&lt;/a&gt;, Gretchen (age 30), Owen (age 20), and I have a conversation about building identity capital in your twenties and how various experiences, whether professional or personal, shape our stories and can influence future opportunities.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;div data-type="rootblock" data-pm-slice= "2 2 ["aiblock",{"prompt":"","preview":false,"block":{"id":"blk_01HK5ZD4Q567CAPMDY0Y45X42D","status":"succeeded","type":"prompt","selected_variation":0,"variations":["# Sunshine Parenting Podcast Episode Summary: Wrapping Up the Tough 20s Series\n\nIn this final episode of the Tough 20s series, we had a rich and insightful conversation with two returning guests, Owen Monkey and Gretchen Rook. We delved into the concept of identity capital and how various experiences, whether professional or personal, shape our stories and can influence future opportunities, such as job interviews.\n\nOwen shared his experience as a lifeguard, which, although unrelated to his career path, provided him with valuable life skills and discipline. Gretchen, nearing the end of her doctoral program, discussed how her camp counseling experience has been instrumental in her teaching career and research.\n\nWe also touched on the impact of technology and social media on our lives. Both Owen and Gretchen have taken steps to manage their screen time, recognizing the importance of being present in the moment and the potential negative effects of excessive phone use. They shared strategies such as deleting apps, setting screen time limits, and creating phone-free times during the day.\n\nThe conversation highlighted the importance of being mindful of our social media usage and the displacement effect it can have on our lives. We discussed the potential future of parenting in relation to technology and the importance of modeling healthy habits for the next generation.\n\nAs we wrapped up the series, we reflected on the challenges and rewards of the 20s, emphasizing the importance of embracing this decade as a time of growth and learning. We hope this series has provided encouragement and guidance for young adults navigating their own winding paths.\n\nThank you for tuning in to the Sunshine Parenting Podcast. We'll be taking a short break and returning with a new series in mid-February. Until then, here's to raising and being thriving adults."],"configuration":{"id":"blk_cfg_01HJ2RTV3BCZMN9FAQ4AQHYRVP","type":"prompt","name":"Summary","description":null,"markdown_value":null,"prompt_value":"Write a summary for this podcast episode from the perspective of the podcast host","archived_at":null,"saved":true},"prosemirror":[{"type":"rootblock","content":[{"type":"heading","attrs":{"level":1},"content":[{"type":"text","text":"Sunshine Parenting Podcast Episode Summary: Wrapping Up the Tough 20s Series"}]},{"type":"paragraph","content":[{"type":"text","text":"In this final episode of the Tough 20s series, we had a rich and insightful conversation with two returning guests, Owen Monkey and Gretchen Rook. 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They shared strategies such as deleting apps, setting screen time limits, and creating phone-free times during the day."}]},{"type":"paragraph","content":[{"type":"text","text":"The conversation highlighted the importance of being mindful of our social media usage and the displacement effect it can have on our lives. We discussed the potential future of parenting in relation to technology and the importance of modeling healthy habits for the next generation."}]},{"type":"paragraph","content":[{"type":"text","text":"As we wrapped up the series, we reflected on the challenges and rewards of the 20s, emphasizing the importance of embracing this decade as a time of growth and learning. We hope this series has provided encouragement and guidance for young adults navigating their own winding paths."}]},{"type":"paragraph","content":[{"type":"text","text":"Thank you for tuning in to the Sunshine Parenting Podcast. We'll be taking a short break and returning with a new series in mid-February. Until then, here's to raising and being thriving adults."}]}]}],"previous_block":null,"next_block":null,"error_code":null},"template":{"type":"block_configuration","block_configuration_id":"blk_cfg_01HJ2RTV3BCZMN9FAQ4AQHYRVP","prompt_value":"Write a summary for this podcast episode from the perspective of the podcast host","name":"Summary"}}]"&gt; &lt;p&gt;Owen shares his experience as a beach lifeguard, which, although unrelated to his planned career path, provided him with valuable life skills and discipline. Gretchen, nearing the end of her doctoral program, discusses how her camp counseling experience has been instrumental in her teaching career and her current research.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;We also touch on the impact technology and social media are having on our lives. Both Owen and Gretchen share steps they've taken to manage their screen time, recognizing the importance of being present in the moment and the potential negative effects of excessive phone use. They share strategies such as deleting apps, setting screen time limits, and creating phone-free times during the day.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;The conversation highlights the importance of being mindful of our social media usage and the displacement effect it can have on our lives. The time we spend on screens is time we're not spending doing other important things - like building closer relationships and learning new skills. We also discuss the potential future of parenting in relation to technology and the importance of modeling healthy habits for the next generation.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;During this series, we've reflected on the challenges and rewards of the twenties and have emphasized the importance of embracing this decade as an important developmental time of growth and learning. &lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;I hope this series has provided encouragement and guidance for young adults navigating their own winding paths.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;/div&gt; &lt;p&gt;Do you enjoy Sunshine Parenting? &lt;a href= "https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sunshine-parenting/id1158736082" target="_blank" rel="noopener"&gt;Please take a moment to give my podcast a rating and review on iTunes.&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;a href= "https://sunshine-parenting.com/category/tough-twenties/"&gt;Listen to more episodes from the Tough Twenties series.&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;Thank you for being part of the Sunshine Parenting community!&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;Audrey "Sunshine" Monke&lt;/p&gt;</description>

In the final episode of the , Gretchen (age 30), Owen (age 20), and I have a conversation about building identity capital in your twenties and how various experiences, whether professional or personal, shape our stories and can influence future...

EP. 188 [Tough Twenties] Series Wrap Up with Gretchen (age 30) & Owen (age 20)

In the Tough Twenties series, I’m interviewing young adults, answering questions submitted by listeners, and sharing resources and tips related to thriving in young adulthood and beyond. Whether you’re an adolescent or a young adult in your twenties, or you’re parenting a young adult, I know you’ll be encouraged by this series. <a href="https://megjay.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Meg Jay, PhD</a> In this episode, I chat with Meg Jay, PHD, a developmental clinical psychologist who specializes in twentysomethings. She is the author of <a href= "https://megjay.com/twentysomething-treatment/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">The Twentysomething Treatment: A Revolutionary Remedy for an Uncertain Age</a>, <a href= "https://megjay.com/supernormal/" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">Supernormal: The Secret World of the Family Hero</a> and the cult classic <a href= "https://megjay.com/the-defining-decade/" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter and How to Make the Most of Them Now</a>. Her books have been translated into more than a dozen languages and her work has appeared in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Harvard Business Review and on NPR, BBC and—maybe most important for her audience—TikTok. We discuss the positive impact The Defining Decade has had on thousands of young adults as well as a few topics covered in the book, including building "identity capital." Get in touch <a href="https://forms.gle/sVxE4PicfQhNyfBVA">Submit an anonymous question or comment for the series</a> Resources <a href= "https://sunshine-parenting.ck.page/9445e1f084">Downloa</a><a href= "https://sunshine-parenting.ck.page/9445e1f084">d</a> <a href= "https://sunshine-parenting.ck.page/9445e1f084">my “Rea</a><a href= "https://sunshine-parenting.ck.page/9445e1f084">dy for Adulthood Checklist”</a> <a href= "https://they%20emphasize%20the%20benefits%20of%20working%20at%20a%20summer%20camp,%20such%20as%20the%20accelerated%20learning%20opportunities,%20rapid%20feedback%20system,%20and%20development%20of%20soft%20skills./"> The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter — And How to Make the Most of Them Now</a>

<description>&lt;p&gt;In the Tough Twenties series, I’m interviewing young adults, answering questions submitted by listeners, and sharing resources and tips related to thriving in young adulthood and beyond. Whether you’re an adolescent or a young adult in your twenties, or you’re parenting a young adult, I know you’ll be encouraged by this series.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;a href="https://megjay.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener"&gt;Meg Jay, PhD&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;In this episode, I chat with Meg Jay, PHD, a developmental clinical psychologist who specializes in twentysomethings. She is the author of &lt;a href= "https://megjay.com/twentysomething-treatment/" target="_blank" rel="noopener"&gt;&lt;em&gt;The Twentysomething Treatment: A Revolutionary Remedy for an Uncertain Age&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;, &lt;em&gt;&lt;a href= "https://megjay.com/supernormal/" target="_blank" rel= "noopener"&gt;Supernormal: The Secret World of the Family Hero&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/em&gt;and the cult classic &lt;a href= "https://megjay.com/the-defining-decade/" target="_blank" rel= "noopener"&gt;&lt;em&gt;The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter and How to Make the Most of Them Now&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;. Her books have been translated into more than a dozen languages and her work has appeared in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Harvard Business Review and on NPR, BBC and—maybe most important for her audience—TikTok.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;We discuss the positive impact &lt;em&gt;The Defining Decade&lt;/em&gt; has had on thousands of young adults as well as a few topics covered in the book, including building "identity capital."&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Get in touch&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;a href="https://forms.gle/sVxE4PicfQhNyfBVA"&gt;Submit an anonymous question or comment for the series&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Resources&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;a href= "https://sunshine-parenting.ck.page/9445e1f084"&gt;Downloa&lt;/a&gt;&lt;a href= "https://sunshine-parenting.ck.page/9445e1f084"&gt;d&lt;/a&gt; &lt;a href= "https://sunshine-parenting.ck.page/9445e1f084"&gt;my “Rea&lt;/a&gt;&lt;a href= "https://sunshine-parenting.ck.page/9445e1f084"&gt;dy for Adulthood Checklist”&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;a href= "https://they%20emphasize%20the%20benefits%20of%20working%20at%20a%20summer%20camp,%20such%20as%20the%20accelerated%20learning%20opportunities,%20rapid%20feedback%20system,%20and%20development%20of%20soft%20skills./"&gt; The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter — And How to Make the Most of Them Now&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description>

In the Tough Twenties series, I’m interviewing young adults, answering questions submitted by listeners, and sharing resources and tips related to thriving in young adulthood and beyond. Whether you’re an adolescent or a young adult in your...

EP. 187: [Tough Twenties] The Defining Decade - Meg Jay, PhD

In the Tough Twenties series, I'm interviewing young adults, answering questions submitted by listeners, and sharing resources and tips related to thriving in young adulthood and beyond. Whether you're an adolescent or a young adult in your twenties, or you're parenting a young adult, I know you'll be encouraged by this series. In this episode, I chat with summer camp directors Andy and Alison Moeshberger. Each year they interview, hire, and train two hundred young adult counselors, so they have a lot of great insights on the skills and traits that lead to success at work for young adults.  We discuss: The benefits of working at a summer camp, such as gaining responsibility, decision-making skills, and leadership opportunities. They also discuss the accelerated learning opportunities, the rapid feedback system, and the development of relationship skills due to the face-to-face communication and round-the-clock community and communication. The importance of being coachable, be receptive to feedback and view feedback as an opportunity for improvement rather than a personal attack. How the best employees are flexible, open minded, and willing to work through the discomfort of challenges and learning new skills.  The mindset shift that young adults need to make when transitioning from a school environment to a professional setting. They note that in school, competition and high grades are often emphasized, whereas in the working world, soft skills and relational skills are most valued.  <p data-pm-slice= "1 1 ["aiblock",{"prompt":"","preview":false,"block":{"id":"blk_01HH0QJ1KZ70YNX8CF66M2GW4Y","status":"succeeded","type":"detailed_synopsis","selected_variation":0,"variations":["In this episode, the speakers emphasize the growing importance of collaboration in the modern world and how being a good collaborator is crucial for success. They highlight that working as solos is no longer the norm, and the professional landscape now revolves around collaboration. The speakers note that while degrees and specific skills are important, employers are more concerned with whether an individual is pleasant to work with and can effectively collaborate with others.\n\nTo illustrate this point, the speakers provide examples of counselors being hired by renowned engineering companies despite lacking internships. These companies recognize that individuals with degrees already possess the necessary skills, and what they truly value are people who can thrive in a collaborative environment. The episode emphasizes that the ability to work well with others and be a good collaborator is highly valued in today's world.\n\nFurthermore, the speakers discuss the significance of relational skills and soft skills in job interviews and long-term career success. They emphasize that employers often prioritize these skills over academic achievements or technical expertise. In some cases, employers don't even ask for transcripts or resumes, as they are more interested in finding individuals they want to work with.\n\nOverall, the episode highlights the shift towards valuing collaboration in the modern world. It emphasizes the importance of being a good collaborator, having strong relational skills, and being able to work effectively with others for success in the professional world.\n\nIn addition, the speakers stress the importance of being flexible in terms of one's self-concept and capacity to learn new skills. They note that when interviewing young adults for jobs, employers often prioritize soft skills and relational skills over grades or resumes. The speakers highlight the significance of adaptability and openness to learning, as these qualities are highly valued in the workplace.\n\nThe speakers also discuss the mindset shift that young adults need to make when transitioning from a school environment to a professional setting. They note that in school, competition and high grades are often emphasized, whereas in the working world, continuous learning and growth are key. They encourage individuals to be receptive to feedback and view it as an opportunity for improvement rather than a personal attack.\n\nAdditionally, the speakers emphasize that being coachable is a crucial trait for success in jobs. They explain that being coachable means being willing to listen to feedback and open to making improvements. They stress the importance of setting aside pride and acknowledging that nobody is perfect, but everyone has the potential to learn and grow.\n\nOverall, the episode highlights the significance of being flexible, open-minded, and willing to learn new skills. These qualities are seen as essential for long-term career success and for standing out in the job market.\n\nIn this episode, the guests discuss the importance of soft skills and relational skills in job interviews and long-term career success. They mention that when interviewing young adults, employers are often more interested in their soft skills rather than their grades or academic achievements. They emphasize that employers are looking for individuals who are pleasant to work with, good collaborators, and reliable in fulfilling their commitments.\n\nThe guests also mention that even in skill-related jobs, employers prioritize hiring individuals who have strong relational skills. 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It suggests that individuals should prioritize developing these skills alongside their technical or academic qualifications to enhance their employability and thrive in their careers."}]}]}],"previous_block":null,"next_block":null},"template":{"type":"detailed_synopsis"}},"rootblock",null]"> Overall, they emphasize the benefits of working at a summer camp, such as the accelerated learning opportunities, rapid feedback system, and development of soft skills. Get in touch <a href="https://forms.gle/sVxE4PicfQhNyfBVA" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Submit an anonymous question or comment for the series</a> Resources <a href= "https://sunshine-parenting.ck.page/9445e1f084" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Downloa</a><a href= "https://sunshine-parenting.ck.page/9445e1f084" target="_blank" rel="noopener">d</a> <a href= "https://sunshine-parenting.ck.page/9445e1f084" target="_blank" rel="noopener">my "Rea</a><a href= "https://sunshine-parenting.ck.page/9445e1f084" target="_blank" rel="noopener">dy for Adulthood Checklist"</a> Mentioned on the Podcast  <a href= "https://They%20emphasize%20the%20benefits%20of%20working%20at%20a%20summer%20camp,%20such%20as%20the%20accelerated%20learning%20opportunities,%20rapid%20feedback%20system,%20and%20development%20of%20soft%20skills.">  The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter -- And How to Make the Most of Them Now</a> <a href= "https://www.acacamps.org/blog/3-reasons-choose-job-camp-instead-summer-internship" target="_blank" rel="noopener">3 Reasons to Choose a Job at Camp Instead of a Summer Internship </a> <a href= "https://sunshine-parenting.com/camp-counselor-best-summer-job/">Why Being a Camp Counselor is the Best Summer Job</a> <a href= "https://sunshine-parenting.com/the-greatest-internship/">The Greatest Internship: 6 Critical Skills Counselors Develop at Camp</a>

<description>&lt;p&gt;In the Tough Twenties series, I'm interviewing young adults, answering questions submitted by listeners, and sharing resources and tips related to thriving in young adulthood and beyond. Whether you're an adolescent or a young adult in your twenties, or you're parenting a young adult, I know you'll be encouraged by this series.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;In this episode, I chat with summer camp directors Andy and Alison Moeshberger. Each year they interview, hire, and train two hundred young adult counselors, so they have a lot of great insights on the skills and traits that lead to success at work for young adults. &lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;We discuss:&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;The benefits of working at a summer camp, such as gaining responsibility, decision-making skills, and leadership opportunities. They also discuss the accelerated learning opportunities, the rapid feedback system, and the development of relationship skills due to the face-to-face communication and round-the-clock community and communication.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;The importance of being coachable, be receptive to feedback and view feedback as an opportunity for improvement rather than a personal attack.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;How the best employees are flexible, open minded, and willing to work through the discomfort of challenges and learning new skills. &lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;The mindset shift that young adults need to make when transitioning from a school environment to a professional setting. They note that in school, competition and high grades are often emphasized, whereas in the working world, soft skills and relational skills are most valued. &lt;/p&gt; &lt;p data-pm-slice= "1 1 ["aiblock",{"prompt":"","preview":false,"block":{"id":"blk_01HH0QJ1KZ70YNX8CF66M2GW4Y","status":"succeeded","type":"detailed_synopsis","selected_variation":0,"variations":["In this episode, the speakers emphasize the growing importance of collaboration in the modern world and how being a good collaborator is crucial for success. They highlight that working as solos is no longer the norm, and the professional landscape now revolves around collaboration. The speakers note that while degrees and specific skills are important, employers are more concerned with whether an individual is pleasant to work with and can effectively collaborate with others.\n\nTo illustrate this point, the speakers provide examples of counselors being hired by renowned engineering companies despite lacking internships. These companies recognize that individuals with degrees already possess the necessary skills, and what they truly value are people who can thrive in a collaborative environment. The episode emphasizes that the ability to work well with others and be a good collaborator is highly valued in today's world.\n\nFurthermore, the speakers discuss the significance of relational skills and soft skills in job interviews and long-term career success. They emphasize that employers often prioritize these skills over academic achievements or technical expertise. In some cases, employers don't even ask for transcripts or resumes, as they are more interested in finding individuals they want to work with.\n\nOverall, the episode highlights the shift towards valuing collaboration in the modern world. It emphasizes the importance of being a good collaborator, having strong relational skills, and being able to work effectively with others for success in the professional world.\n\nIn addition, the speakers stress the importance of being flexible in terms of one's self-concept and capacity to learn new skills. They note that when interviewing young adults for jobs, employers often prioritize soft skills and relational skills over grades or resumes. The speakers highlight the significance of adaptability and openness to learning, as these qualities are highly valued in the workplace.\n\nThe speakers also discuss the mindset shift that young adults need to make when transitioning from a school environment to a professional setting. They note that in school, competition and high grades are often emphasized, whereas in the working world, continuous learning and growth are key. They encourage individuals to be receptive to feedback and view it as an opportunity for improvement rather than a personal attack.\n\nAdditionally, the speakers emphasize that being coachable is a crucial trait for success in jobs. They explain that being coachable means being willing to listen to feedback and open to making improvements. They stress the importance of setting aside pride and acknowledging that nobody is perfect, but everyone has the potential to learn and grow.\n\nOverall, the episode highlights the significance of being flexible, open-minded, and willing to learn new skills. These qualities are seen as essential for long-term career success and for standing out in the job market.\n\nIn this episode, the guests discuss the importance of soft skills and relational skills in job interviews and long-term career success. They mention that when interviewing young adults, employers are often more interested in their soft skills rather than their grades or academic achievements. They emphasize that employers are looking for individuals who are pleasant to work with, good collaborators, and reliable in fulfilling their commitments.\n\nThe guests also mention that even in skill-related jobs, employers prioritize hiring individuals who have strong relational skills. They highlight that companies value employees who can work well with others and contribute to a collaborative work environment. The guests use big-name engineering companies as an example, explaining that these companies are not solely focused on a candidate's degree or technical skills, but also on their ability to work effectively with their colleagues.\n\nThe episode suggests that soft skills and relational skills are essential for long-term career success. The guests emphasize that individuals should focus on developing and improving their relational skills in any job or capacity. They mention that being a good collaborator and having strong interpersonal skills are crucial in the modern world, where teamwork and collaboration are highly valued.\n\nOverall, the episode highlights the significance of soft skills and relational skills in job interviews and long-term career success. It suggests that individuals should prioritize developing these skills alongside their technical or academic qualifications to enhance their employability and thrive in their careers."],"configuration":null,"prosemirror":[{"type":"rootblock","content":[{"type":"paragraph","content":[{"type":"text","text":"In this episode, the speakers emphasize the growing importance of collaboration in the modern world and how being a good collaborator is crucial for success. 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They encourage individuals to be receptive to feedback and view it as an opportunity for improvement rather than a personal attack."}]},{"type":"paragraph","content":[{"type":"text","text":"Additionally, the speakers emphasize that being coachable is a crucial trait for success in jobs. They explain that being coachable means being willing to listen to feedback and open to making improvements. They stress the importance of setting aside pride and acknowledging that nobody is perfect, but everyone has the potential to learn and grow."}]},{"type":"paragraph","content":[{"type":"text","text":"Overall, the episode highlights the significance of being flexible, open-minded, and willing to learn new skills. These qualities are seen as essential for long-term career success and for standing out in the job market."}]},{"type":"paragraph","content":[{"type":"text","text":"In this episode, the guests discuss the importance of soft skills and relational skills in job interviews and long-term career success. They mention that when interviewing young adults, employers are often more interested in their soft skills rather than their grades or academic achievements. They emphasize that employers are looking for individuals who are pleasant to work with, good collaborators, and reliable in fulfilling their commitments."}]},{"type":"paragraph","content":[{"type":"text","text":"The guests also mention that even in skill-related jobs, employers prioritize hiring individuals who have strong relational skills. They highlight that companies value employees who can work well with others and contribute to a collaborative work environment. 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In the Tough Twenties series, I'm interviewing young adults, answering questions submitted by listeners, and sharing resources and tips related to thriving in young adulthood and beyond. Whether you're an adolescent or a young adult in your twenties,...

EP. 186: [Tough Twenties] Being an Excellent Employee

In this episode, I share about some myths that can hold you back from living your best life. It's easy to get caught up in the pressure to conform and meet expectations of others. We can find ourselves striving for success based on societal standards or seeking validation from those around us. To live our best lives, it's essential to explore our unique strengths and follow our own path.  During this episode I share about five myths many adults base their lives on, truths that counter those myths, and what you can do now to start living your best life. It took me a long time to learn these lessons, and I really wish someone would have talked with me about them when I was launching into adulthood.  Myths that Might Be Holding You Back <ol> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> Everyone (or certain people) need to approve of our job/career for it to be “successful.” </li> </ol> Truth: Some of the older adults that you think of as being successful are not happy with their lives and regret not pursuing something they were really interested in but didn’t have the same level of prestige/income associated with it.  What to do: Chase your strengths/interests. Spend time learning about yourself and talk through ideas with a friend or trusted mentor.  Some tools you might use: <a href="https://enneagramuniverse.com/">Enneagram</a> <a href="https://www.viacharacter.org/">VIA Strengths</a> <a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/books/the-four-tendencies/">Four Tendencies</a> <a href= "https://www.gallup.com/cliftonstrengths/en/home.aspx?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=us_strengths_branded_cs_ecom&utm_term=strengthsfinder&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAiAx_GqBhBQEiwAlDNAZiR0uRu_I2Y3gvy3m8jY084H8mnBn0KysLwIzprSyEFqnsgK72islRoCV80QAvD_BwE">  Gallup Strengths</a> <ol start="2"> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> We have to make really big changes in order to reach our goals. </li> </ol> Truth: The tiny, consistent habits are the way most people eventually reach their goals. This is true for both vocational goals and physical goals. “Cramming on something for a couple of hours once in a while as just a slow, steady progression, a little at a time. <a href="https://tinyhabits.com/">TINY HABITS, BJ Fog</a> <a href= "https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/10569.On_Writing">ON WRITING, Stephen King</a> What to do: Break down an impossible-seeming goal and break it down into the tiniest step possible. Ex: Read one page of a book about a topic you want to learn more about. <ol start="3"> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> I need to start really big and do something huge for my first career-type job. </li> </ol> “I want to write a book.” “I want to start a non-profit organization.” What to do: Figure out what’s the first, very small step towards XYZ (starting a non-profit in a particular area).  Example first step: Do a Google search of the non-profit food providers in your area. Example next step: Volunteer a few hours at one of the food providers. Get an accountability partner!  Brainstorm together Is this step small enough? Circle back in a week and report on your first step, discuss your next step. <ol start="4"> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> Once I _________, then I’ll be happy. </li> </ol> Truths: We actually miss a lot of the great moments in life when we’re spending all of our thoughts on this thing out there in the future. It does feel good to accomplish things, but sometimes we feel bad after we reach the goal. <a href= "https://youtu.be/lBDN8yWyNYU?si=k4VXzOk-7Pd1BvP4" target="_blank" rel="noopener">“You’re gonna miss this” song (Trace Adkins)</a> What to do: Figure out your current “Once I…” statement that you’re believing in too much. What’s something you can replace that with? Like, what is it about your life right now that you’re really enjoying? What are you grateful for in this season? <ol start="5"> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> I’ll get to ______ later, when I have more time. </li> </ol> Truth: Regardless of life stage, your time will get filled by things you can’t control but there’s always some discretionary time. Sometimes we’re not aware of it, because we default to spending time doing things that don’t lead to better well-being. What to do: Recognize that you have the same amount of time as everyone else. Figure out what you want to prioritize and schedule it in. Cal Newport Deep Life Podcast - <a href= "https://www.thedeeplife.com/podcasts/episodes/ep-266-take-control-of-your-technology-habits/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Zero Sum Time Budgeting</a>.  One more idea: You can make time more meaningful and things more memorable by putting a little more effort into it. Laura Vanderkam’s <a href= "https://lauravanderkam.com/2023/03/thursday-reflections-on-rule-9-effortful-before-effortless/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">“Effortful Fun”</a> <a href= "https://heathbrothers.com/books/the-power-of-moments/" target= "_blank" rel="noopener">Power of Moments, Chip Heath & Dan Heath</a> In conclusion, discovering our unique strengths and path is essential for living a fulfilling and thriving life. It requires us to challenge the myth that we need others' approval or validation for our choices. Instead, we must invest time and effort in self-discovery, exploring our interests, and understanding our strengths. By embracing our uniqueness and following our own path, we can find true happiness and fulfillment. Remember, success is not measured by societal standards but by the alignment between our passions, strengths, and purpose. Get in touch <a href="https://forms.gle/sVxE4PicfQhNyfBVA" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Submit an anonymous question for the series</a> Resources <a href= "https://sunshine-parenting.ck.page/9445e1f084" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Download my "Ready for Adulthood Checklist"</a>

<description>&lt;p&gt;In this episode, I share about some myths that can hold you back from living your best life. It's easy to get caught up in the pressure to conform and meet expectations of others. We can find ourselves striving for success based on societal standards or seeking validation from those around us. To live our best lives, it's essential to explore our unique strengths and follow our own path. &lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;During this episode I share about five myths many adults base their lives on, truths that counter those myths, and what you can do now to start living your best life. It took me a long time to learn these lessons, and I really wish someone would have talked with me about them when I was launching into adulthood. &lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 14pt;"&gt;Myths that Might Be Holding You Back&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;ol&gt; &lt;li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr" role="presentation"&gt;Everyone (or certain people) need to approve of our job/career for it to be “successful.”&lt;/p&gt; &lt;/li&gt; &lt;/ol&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;Truth: Some of the older adults that you think of as being successful are not happy with their lives and regret not pursuing something they were really interested in but didn’t have the same level of prestige/income associated with it. &lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;What to do: Chase your strengths/interests. Spend time learning about yourself and talk through ideas with a friend or trusted mentor. &lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;Some tools you might use:&lt;br /&gt; &lt;a href="https://enneagramuniverse.com/"&gt;Enneagram&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt; &lt;a href="https://www.viacharacter.org/"&gt;VIA Strengths&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt; &lt;a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/books/the-four-tendencies/"&gt;Four Tendencies&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt; &lt;a href= "https://www.gallup.com/cliftonstrengths/en/home.aspx?utm_source=google&amp;utm_medium=cpc&amp;utm_campaign=us_strengths_branded_cs_ecom&amp;utm_term=strengthsfinder&amp;gad_source=1&amp;gclid=CjwKCAiAx_GqBhBQEiwAlDNAZiR0uRu_I2Y3gvy3m8jY084H8mnBn0KysLwIzprSyEFqnsgK72islRoCV80QAvD_BwE"&gt;  Gallup Strengths&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;ol start="2"&gt; &lt;li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr" role="presentation"&gt;We have to make really big changes in order to reach our goals.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;/li&gt; &lt;/ol&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;Truth: The tiny, consistent habits are the way most people eventually reach their goals. This is true for both vocational goals and physical goals.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;“Cramming on something for a couple of hours once in a while as just a slow, steady progression, a little at a time.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;&lt;a href="https://tinyhabits.com/"&gt;TINY HABITS, BJ Fog&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;&lt;a href= "https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/10569.On_Writing"&gt;ON WRITING, Stephen King&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;What to do: Break down an impossible-seeming goal and break it down into the tiniest step possible.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;Ex: Read one page of a book about a topic you want to learn more about.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;ol start="3"&gt; &lt;li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr" role="presentation"&gt;I need to start really big and do something huge for my first career-type job.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;/li&gt; &lt;/ol&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;“I want to write a book.”&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;“I want to start a non-profit organization.”&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;What to do: Figure out what’s the first, very small step towards XYZ (starting a non-profit in a particular area). &lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;Example first step: Do a Google search of the non-profit food providers in your area.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;Example next step: Volunteer a few hours at one of the food providers.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;Get an accountability partner! &lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;Brainstorm together&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;Is this step small enough?&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;Circle back in a week and report on your first step, discuss your next step.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;ol start="4"&gt; &lt;li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr" role="presentation"&gt;Once I _________, then I’ll be happy.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;/li&gt; &lt;/ol&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;Truths:&lt;br /&gt; We actually miss a lot of the great moments in life when we’re spending all of our thoughts on this thing out there in the future.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;It does feel good to accomplish things, but sometimes we feel bad after we reach the goal.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;&lt;a href= "https://youtu.be/lBDN8yWyNYU?si=k4VXzOk-7Pd1BvP4" target="_blank" rel="noopener"&gt;“You’re gonna miss this” song (Trace Adkins)&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;What to do: Figure out your current “Once I…” statement that you’re believing in too much. What’s something you can replace that with? Like, what is it about your life right now that you’re really enjoying? What are you grateful for in this season?&lt;/p&gt; &lt;ol start="5"&gt; &lt;li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr" role="presentation"&gt;I’ll get to ______ later, when I have more time.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;/li&gt; &lt;/ol&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;Truth:&lt;br /&gt; Regardless of life stage, your time will get filled by things you can’t control but there’s always some discretionary time. Sometimes we’re not aware of it, because we default to spending time doing things that don’t lead to better well-being.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;What to do: Recognize that you have the same amount of time as everyone else. Figure out what you want to prioritize and schedule it in.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;Cal Newport Deep Life Podcast - &lt;a href= "https://www.thedeeplife.com/podcasts/episodes/ep-266-take-control-of-your-technology-habits/" target="_blank" rel="noopener"&gt;Zero Sum Time Budgeting&lt;/a&gt;. &lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;One more idea: You can make time more meaningful and things more memorable by putting a little more effort into it.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;Laura Vanderkam’s &lt;a href= "https://lauravanderkam.com/2023/03/thursday-reflections-on-rule-9-effortful-before-effortless/" target="_blank" rel="noopener"&gt;“Effortful Fun”&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;&lt;a href= "https://heathbrothers.com/books/the-power-of-moments/" target= "_blank" rel="noopener"&gt;Power of Moments, Chip Heath &amp; Dan Heath&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;In conclusion, discovering our unique strengths and path is essential for living a fulfilling and thriving life. It requires us to challenge the myth that we need others' approval or validation for our choices. Instead, we must invest time and effort in self-discovery, exploring our interests, and understanding our strengths. By embracing our uniqueness and following our own path, we can find true happiness and fulfillment. Remember, success is not measured by societal standards but by the alignment between our passions, strengths, and purpose.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Get in touch&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;a href="https://forms.gle/sVxE4PicfQhNyfBVA" target="_blank" rel="noopener"&gt;Submit an anonymous question for the series&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Resources&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;a href= "https://sunshine-parenting.ck.page/9445e1f084" target="_blank" rel="noopener"&gt;Download my "Ready for Adulthood Checklist"&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12pt;"&gt;&lt;strong id= "docs-internal-guid-e49de883-7fff-11c9-aa92-2590577d2902"&gt;&lt;br /&gt; &lt;br /&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt; &lt;/p&gt;</description>

In this episode, I share about some myths that can hold you back from living your best life. It's easy to get caught up in the pressure to conform and meet expectations of others. We can find ourselves striving for success based on societal standards...

EP. 185 [Tough Twenties] Myths that Might be Holding You Back from Living Your Best Life

In the Tough Twenties series, I'm interviewing young adults, answering questions submitted by listeners, and sharing resources and tips related to thriving in young adulthood and beyond. Whether you're an adolescent or a young adult in your twenties, or you're parenting a young adult, I know you'll be encouraged by this series. In this episode I'm chatting with my son, Owen, who has just entered into his twenties. We discuss building connections and relationships in young adulthood and how unplugging from technology can help foster those connections. Owen shares his experiences as a sophomore at San Diego State University.  Highlights Unplug to Connect: Owen suggests that taking breaks from technology and unplugging can be beneficial for establishing and nurturing connections. Unplugging also allows for reflection, goal-setting, and engaging in activities that can lead to shared experiences and stronger connections. Focus on developing "weak ties" socially, as well (see Meg Jay quote below). Develop some daily habits including activities like exercising and reading. For reading, you might consider some focused reading on a topic you want to learn more about. You can become an "expert" by reading five books written by five experts in the field.  Take advantage of brain plasticity and learn new skills you're interested in, like learning to play guitar in Owen's case. Get in touch <a href="https://forms.gle/sVxE4PicfQhNyfBVA" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Submit an anonymous question for the series</a> Links & Resources <a href= "https://sunshine-parenting.ck.page/9445e1f084" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Download my "Ready for Adulthood Checklist"</a> <a href= "https://sunshine-parenting.com/highs-lows-buffaloes/" target= "_blank" rel="noopener">Sharing Topic: Highs, Lows, & Buffaloes</a> "As a result, brain regions that support executive, social, and emotional functions appear to be particularly malleable and responsive to the environment during early adolescence, as plasticity occurs later in development." <a href= "https://neurosciencenews.com/adolescent-brain-plasticity-22972/#:~:text=Summary%3A%20In%20adolescents%2C%20brain%20areas,to%20socioeconomic%20environments%20throughout%20adolescence." target="_blank" rel="noopener">Read more about brain plasticity during adolescence in Neuroscience News.</a> “Information and opportunity spread farther and faster through weak ties than through close friends because weak ties have fewer overlapping contacts. Weak ties are like bridges you cannot see all the way across, so there is no telling where they might lead.” <a href="https://amzn.to/3QZP0U5" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">The Defining Decade</a>, Meg Jay <a href= "https://www.20thcenturystudios.com/movies/free-guy" target= "_blank" rel="noopener">Free Guy Movie</a> – Mentioned when Sunshine couldn't come up with the appropriate acronym NPC (non-player character), or what some students seem to act like as they walk across campus with headphones on, heads down, and not interacting with other humans.

<description>&lt;p&gt;In the Tough Twenties series, I'm interviewing young adults, answering questions submitted by listeners, and sharing resources and tips related to thriving in young adulthood and beyond. Whether you're an adolescent or a young adult in your twenties, or you're parenting a young adult, I know you'll be encouraged by this series.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;In this episode I'm chatting with my son, Owen, who has just entered into his twenties. We discuss building connections and relationships in young adulthood and how unplugging from technology can help foster those connections. Owen shares his experiences as a sophomore at San Diego State University. &lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Highlights&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoNormal"&gt;Unplug to Connect: Owen suggests that taking breaks from technology and unplugging can be beneficial for establishing and nurturing connections. Unplugging also allows for reflection, goal-setting, and engaging in activities that can lead to shared experiences and stronger connections.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoNormal"&gt;Focus on developing "weak ties" socially, as well (see Meg Jay quote below).&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoNormal"&gt;Develop some daily habits including activities like exercising and reading. For reading, you might consider some focused reading on a topic you want to learn more about. You can become an "expert" by reading five books written by five experts in the field. &lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoNormal"&gt;Take advantage of brain plasticity and learn new skills you're interested in, like learning to play guitar in Owen's case.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Get in touch&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;a href="https://forms.gle/sVxE4PicfQhNyfBVA" target="_blank" rel="noopener"&gt;Submit an anonymous question for the series&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Links &amp; Resources&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;a href= "https://sunshine-parenting.ck.page/9445e1f084" target="_blank" rel="noopener"&gt;Download my "Ready for Adulthood Checklist"&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;a href= "https://sunshine-parenting.com/highs-lows-buffaloes/" target= "_blank" rel="noopener"&gt;Sharing Topic: Highs, Lows, &amp; Buffaloes&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoNormal"&gt;"As a result, brain regions that support executive, social, and emotional functions appear to be particularly malleable and responsive to the environment during early adolescence, as plasticity occurs later in development."&lt;br /&gt; &lt;a href= "https://neurosciencenews.com/adolescent-brain-plasticity-22972/#:~:text=Summary%3A%20In%20adolescents%2C%20brain%20areas,to%20socioeconomic%20environments%20throughout%20adolescence." target="_blank" rel="noopener"&gt;Read more about brain plasticity during adolescence in Neuroscience News.&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoNormal"&gt;“Information and opportunity spread farther and faster through weak ties than through close friends because weak ties have fewer overlapping contacts. Weak ties are like bridges you cannot see all the way across, so there is no telling where they might lead.”&lt;br /&gt; &lt;a href="https://amzn.to/3QZP0U5" target="_blank" rel= "noopener"&gt;&lt;em&gt;The Defining Decade&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;, Meg Jay&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;a href= "https://www.20thcenturystudios.com/movies/free-guy" target= "_blank" rel="noopener"&gt;Free Guy Movie&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/em&gt; – Mentioned when Sunshine couldn't come up with the appropriate acronym NPC (non-player character), or what some students seem to act like as they walk across campus with headphones on, heads down, and not interacting with other humans. &lt;/p&gt;</description>

EP. 184: [Tough Twenties] Creating Community and Connections with Owen, Age 20

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