Women, Men & Relationships

Have you ever felt like you're doing all the right things—vision boards, appreciation lists, meditation, inner work—and yet nothing seems to be moving? In this solo episode, JJ shares a deeply personal reflection on the space between where you are and the next version of who you're becoming. Sometimes feeling stuck isn't a sign that something is wrong. Sometimes it means your container is expanding. Drawing from her background in fitness, manifestation work, and recent personal experiences—including a powerful birthday medicine journey—JJ explores why growth often feels uncomfortable and why contrast is actually necessary for transformation. If you've ever wondered why the Law of Attraction seems to stop working when you need it most, this episode will help you understand the deeper shift that may be happening within you. This conversation explores the moment when the old version of you is dissolving, but the new version hasn't fully arrived yet—and how learning to trust that process is one of the most important skills in manifestation. In This Episode JJ Discusses • Why people feel stuck even when they're doing all the personal growth work • The stage of transformation where the old identity dissolves • Why contrast is necessary for growth and expansion • The resistance training analogy for emotional and spiritual development • The real reason manifestation sometimes feels blocked • Why your container must expand before your desires can manifest • The hardest part of the Law of Attraction: feeling aligned before the evidence shows up • How collective energy and world events can affect personal growth • Why you may be in a "caterpillar to butterfly" phase of transformation • What it means to recognize yourself as an extension of Source energy Key Takeaway We don't attract what we want. We attract where we are. If the life you're calling in is bigger than what you've experienced before, you must become the energetic and emotional container capable of holding it. That expansion often feels uncomfortable—but it's a sign that growth is happening. JJ's Invitation If you resonate with this conversation, JJ invites you to join the next 14-Day Manifestation Challenge starting April 1st. This challenge is designed to help you strengthen your manifestation muscle and learn how to stay aligned, hopeful, and grounded—even before the results show up. Because the real work of manifestation isn't controlling circumstances. It's becoming the person who can hold the reality you're calling in. Join here: jjflizanes.com/14-day

Register for the next free 14 Day Manifestation Challenge which starts April 1st. http://jjflizanes.com/14day In this episode, JJ sits down with returning guest Lori Shelley, a coach who helps women navigate the emotional and practical aftermath of betrayal. Lori shares her background—from 12 years in financial planning (including training leadership), to 13 years at home raising her kids, to 13 years in HR—and how her own life experience led her to coaching women in midlife who are rebuilding after major relationship disruption. Lori opens up about discovering her husband's long-term deception through what's often called "drip disclosure"—learning the truth in pieces over time—and how that process created intense nervous-system dysregulation: depression, short temper, feeling worse as she approached home, and eventually rage that didn't match the partial information she had. She explains how a formal therapeutic disclosure helped bring alignment between what she felt and what was actually happening—creating clarity, validation, and a turning point for healing. Together, JJ and Lori discuss why the right support matters. Lori describes the difference between approaches that frame partners as "co-addicts" versus betrayal trauma frameworks that recognize the impact of deception on safety, intuition, and identity. She shares how 12-step style groups (including COSA) can provide a safe starting place—especially when the group's structure and energy support growth instead of staying stuck in the story. Lori also explains how she works with women today through groups and individual coaching, including: A group for women navigating separation/divorce after betrayal, and A deeper healing experience called The Spiral Path, a 6-month program exploring: what you want to leave behind, what you want to acknowledge, and what you want to walk away with. JJ highlights Lori's unique zone of genius: blending emotional healing + financial and career support for women facing divorce—helping clients move from "I'm not okay" to regulated, grounded, and clear about what they will and won't accept moving forward. Lori shares one of her favorite group check-ins: noticing glimmers (small signs of hope) and naming what you're beating yourself up about—so you can begin to come back to yourself. Connect with Lori: Website: LoriShelleyCoaching.com (Book a free 30-minute consultation) Facebook: Lori Shelley Coaching

In this solo episode, JJ breaks down how to move through the powerful momentum of the Fire Horse year without burnout by focusing on just three aligned priorities. Rather than getting swept up in urgency, overcommitment, or scattered action, she shares how to use this high-energy cycle for sustainable expansion through identity, intentional creation, and body-led balance. This conversation is your reminder that success this year comes from congruence, not doing more. If you're ready for guided support, join JJ's free 14-Day Manifestation Challenge starting April 1st at JJFlizanes.com/14day, and download her Metabolic Makeover program (a $500 value) completely free at JJFlizanes.com/mm using the code JJFREE.

In this episode, JJ Flizanes welcomes Erin Hines, a Human Design business coach (and repeat guest from West Coast Women Rising), to kick off a new series-style conversation on Human Design—what it is, why it's gaining traction, and how it can help you better understand your energy, decision-making, and natural way of operating in life and work. What You'll Learn What Human Design is and where it came from (a modern system developed in the late 1980s) How Human Design blends ancient and modern systems (astrology, I Ching, chakras + physics/biology concepts) The "science of differentiation": why your uniqueness matters and how it supports more ease in life The 5 Human Design types and what each one needs to manage energy well: Generators & Manifesting Generators: consistent energy when doing what lights you up; built to respond Projectors: here to guide; thrive by waiting for invitations and honoring rest Manifestors: here to initiate; thrive by informing and allowing cycles of burst/rest Reflectors: sensitive mirrors of environments; thrive with downtime and supportive spaces How type can reduce shame and friction (e.g., why open-ended questions can feel hard for "response-based" types) The basics of reading a Human Design chart: Type, Centers (defined vs open), and deeper layers like gates/channels Mentioned in the Episode Erin's free Human Design chart option (available many places; Erin's includes helpful click-for-explanations) Erin's "Intro to Human Design" custom report for deeper insight Erin's podcast: Rebel to Rise: Where Business Meets Human Design (includes business strategy + HD education) Connect with Erin Hines Erin's website: DarnGoodBusinessCoach.com Find Erin on: LinkedIn Listen to: Rebel to Rise: Where Business Meets Human Design

JJ welcomes Sheila Donohue for a conversation that blends entrepreneurship, lifestyle, and the art of curated Italian wines and foods. Sheila shares how her company, Verovino, sources small-batch, farm-made wines, olive oils, and specialty foods—many not readily available in the U.S.—and delivers them to both consumers and businesses across America. In This Episode Meet Sheila in Bologna: Sheila shares her life in Bologna, Italy, where she's lived since 2001, and how Italy shaped her expertise and relationships with producers. What Verovino does: Verovino curates and imports authentic, sustainably made, small-batch products—primarily from Italy, plus select producers from other countries and California—selling B2B and direct-to-consumer. From fintech to food & wine: Sheila explains her background in financial technology (fintech), her sommelier training in Italy, and how her personal immersion in artisan food culture inspired the company. Starting from a "clean slate": In 2017, after major life changes, Sheila began building Verovino—funded through savings—and took early action by importing product and going door-to-door to find customers. How the business grows: Sheila emphasizes the importance of continuity (repeat business), building scale, and covering operating expenses. She explains how an omni-channel strategy helps stabilize the business: Distributors nationwide Wine stores & restaurants (especially in California) Direct-to-consumer shipping across the U.S. Corporate gifting & events Marketing & education that compounds: Verovino invests in education and storytelling through digital marketing—especially their blog and YouTube channel—to build long-term brand trust and demand. Product philosophy: As a sommelier-led team, Sheila curates for variety and distinction: reds, whites, rosés, orange wines, sparkling (dry and sweet), plus standout olive oils—including single-varietal olive oils with specific pairing profiles. Events as a growth engine: Sheila shares how tastings, fundraisers, private events, and collaborations introduce people to the products—because tasting creates appreciation and connection. Specialty foods: The conversation highlights a Piedmont hazelnut producer offering toasted hazelnuts, caramelized hazelnuts, hazelnut creams, pasta, and pestos—plus JJ's enthusiasm for pistachio cream and clean ingredients. Wine club & gifting: Sheila describes Verovino's monthly or quarterly wine club, curated shipments with insider notes and stories, and a growing trend of gifting memberships (including personalized letters). Gift sets: Verovino offers curated gift sets—popular in December—and a standout option that pairs wine + olive oil, plus expanded options for non-wine drinkers. A second brand line for broader appeal: To avoid being pigeonholed and to meet different market needs, Sheila shares how Verovino expanded into a separate line for more "recognizable" wines, including Prosecco and kegs—ideal for events and high-volume restaurant service. Advice for new producers: Sheila emphasizes the need to stand out in a crowded market—especially as the wine industry faces headwinds—and to clearly differentiate your product and message. Memorable Moments JJ connects her own journey as a winemaker (High Vibrational Wines) and discusses why she values small-batch, purpose-driven production over mass distribution. A fun community collaboration emerges: JJ invites Sheila to co-create a March event in Ojai with "Women Behind the Business: Real Conversations," potentially adding a wine tasting experience—and they discover their birthdays are both in March. Connect with Sheila / Verovino Website: Verovino.com YouTube: Vero Vino Instagram & Facebook: VeroVinoGusto Closing: JJ encourages listeners to explore Verovino for personal discovery, gifting, and creating meaningful food-and-wine experiences that bring "a taste of Italy" home.