<description>&lt;p class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-family: 'Lato',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; color: #202124; background: white;"&gt; Do you have the blueprints to build a new model of yourself?&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt; &lt;/span&gt; One of my favorite quotes is by Buckminster Fuller, who said, “You never change things by fighting the existing reality. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style= "font-family: 'Lato',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; color: #040c28;"&gt;To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style= "font-family: 'Lato',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; color: #202124; background: white;"&gt;.”&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt; &lt;/span&gt; Thinking along the same lines as Fuller, I realized years ago that with so much that happens on our journey from birth to adulthood, unless we build a new model of ourselves and then move into that new model, we will be fighting the existing reality and model of our earlier life and selves forever, and trying to “fix” the dysfunctional, rather than create anew.&lt;span style= "mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-family: 'Lato',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; color: #202124; background: white;"&gt; If changing the outcomes in your life was as easy as learning some new skills or moving to a new place to start over again, then everyone who does it that way would be happy with their new outcomes.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt; &lt;/span&gt; It doesn’t work that way.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt; &lt;/span&gt; Wherever you go, there you are.&lt;span style= "mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt; &lt;/span&gt; You are taking the existing model of who you have become up to now and attempting to shove new tools into that existing, dysfunctional model of you, and there is no room for this to happen.&lt;span style= "mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt; &lt;/span&gt; You are a closed system that has what it has and functions as it does within that closed system.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt; &lt;/span&gt; You have to be willing to build a new model of yourself, for who you need to be or want to be, take the best from your existing model and move it over into your new model, and then release the rest of that original model because it is obsolete.&lt;span style= "mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt; &lt;/span&gt; My phrase for that release is borrowed from Star Trek and is “beam me up Scottie.”&lt;span style= "mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt; &lt;/span&gt; Since energy never dies, I don’t want to leave anything from the previous model of me, that is now obsolete, for me to slide back into at some point in time.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt; &lt;/span&gt; I am clear that model is obsolete and I have built a new healthy model and I want to live from the place of that new model, not the old, dysfunctional one.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt; &lt;/span&gt; This means we have to be able to let go of the old and embrace the new, and many have difficulty letting go of anything; especially the previous, outdated and dysfunction model of who they have been.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;In this episode, I talk about:&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;ul&gt; &lt;li class="MsoNormal"&gt;Building a blueprint for a new model of yourself&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li class="MsoNormal"&gt;Why change is not just as easy as learning new skills&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li class="MsoNormal"&gt;Common barriers to transformation&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li class="MsoNormal"&gt;And more!&lt;/li&gt; &lt;/ul&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Developing your Executive Function Skills and shifting your limiting beliefs is the fastest and most effective way to overcome ADHD limitations, find focus, gain confidence, and a newfound freedom in your life!&lt;br /&gt; &lt;br /&gt;&lt;/strong&gt; &lt;strong&gt;My mission&lt;/strong&gt; is to put an end to the worldwide needless suffering of adults with ADHD and those with under-developed Executive Function Skills - whether from ADHD, chronic depression or anxiety, trauma, addictions, or chronic illnesses.  And, you don't need a formal diagnosis to know you need help developing these executive function skills in order to greatly reduce your suffering.  &lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Episode Resources:&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;ul&gt; &lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span dir="ltr" role="presentation"&gt;Get Sh*t Done Fundamentals + Essentials (GSD-FE) Program Information:  &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;span dir="ltr" role= "presentation"&gt;(previously known as the ADDventures In Achievement [AIA-FS] program)&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;br role="presentation" /&gt; 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&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li&gt; &lt;div class="textLayer"&gt;&lt;span dir="ltr" role= "presentation"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;The Transformation Club (TTC)&lt;/strong&gt; – if time or money commitments have been holding you &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span dir="ltr" role="presentation"&gt;back - the affordable membership program for Executive Function skills development:&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br role="presentation" /&gt; &lt;strong&gt;&lt;span dir="ltr" role="presentation"&gt;&lt;a href= "https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/ttcprogram"&gt;https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/ttcprogram&lt;/a&gt; &lt;br /&gt; &lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/div&gt; &lt;/li&gt; &lt;li&gt; &lt;div class="textLayer"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span dir="ltr" role= "presentation"&gt;Free PDF - 13 Signs Weak Executive Functioning Is Holding You Back:&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span dir="ltr" role= "presentation"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span dir="ltr" role= "presentation"&gt;&lt;a href= "https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/Executive-Function"&gt;https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/Executive-Function&lt;/a&gt; &lt;br /&gt; 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Living Beyond ADHD

Dr B - Barbara A. Cohen, Ph.D., MFT, innovative educator, coach and psychot

Do you have the blueprints to build a new model of yourself? – 119

MAY 17, 202332 MIN
Living Beyond ADHD

Do you have the blueprints to build a new model of yourself? – 119

MAY 17, 202332 MIN

Description

Do you have the blueprints to build a new model of yourself?  One of my favorite quotes is by Buckminster Fuller, who said, “You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.”  Thinking along the same lines as Fuller, I realized years ago that with so much that happens on our journey from birth to adulthood, unless we build a new model of ourselves and then move into that new model, we will be fighting the existing reality and model of our earlier life and selves forever, and trying to “fix” the dysfunctional, rather than create anew. 

If changing the outcomes in your life was as easy as learning some new skills or moving to a new place to start over again, then everyone who does it that way would be happy with their new outcomes.  It doesn’t work that way.  Wherever you go, there you are.  You are taking the existing model of who you have become up to now and attempting to shove new tools into that existing, dysfunctional model of you, and there is no room for this to happen.  You are a closed system that has what it has and functions as it does within that closed system.  You have to be willing to build a new model of yourself, for who you need to be or want to be, take the best from your existing model and move it over into your new model, and then release the rest of that original model because it is obsolete.  My phrase for that release is borrowed from Star Trek and is “beam me up Scottie.”  Since energy never dies, I don’t want to leave anything from the previous model of me, that is now obsolete, for me to slide back into at some point in time.  I am clear that model is obsolete and I have built a new healthy model and I want to live from the place of that new model, not the old, dysfunctional one.  This means we have to be able to let go of the old and embrace the new, and many have difficulty letting go of anything; especially the previous, outdated and dysfunction model of who they have been.

In this episode, I talk about:

  • Building a blueprint for a new model of yourself
  • Why change is not just as easy as learning new skills
  • Common barriers to transformation
  • And more!

Developing your Executive Function Skills and shifting your limiting beliefs is the fastest and most effective way to overcome ADHD limitations, find focus, gain confidence, and a newfound freedom in your life! My mission is to put an end to the worldwide needless suffering of adults with ADHD and those with under-developed Executive Function Skills - whether from ADHD, chronic depression or anxiety, trauma, addictions, or chronic illnesses.  And, you don't need a formal diagnosis to know you need help developing these executive function skills in order to greatly reduce your suffering.  

Episode Resources:

  To Help The Show:Subscribe at your favorite listening spot and my podcast player has social media links (icons) in the episode player so you can share episodes you love with others!

Please rate the show and leave a thoughtful review on iTunes so I know you're benefiting from the episodes.  The greater the number of reviews, the higher the ranking, and the easier it will be for others to find the show; people who also need this information. 

Let's put an end to the worldwide needless suffering together!  We can do this!