Mastering Love with Christina Weber

Big news! You can now join WeDeepen for just $99 a month: group sessions, love masterminds, and the top love and relationship teachers, all in one place. Come study love with us: https://wedeepen.com/ In this episode of Mastering Love with Christina Weber, Christina sits down with Human Design expert and Identity Doula Lindsey Means to decode the modality Christina keeps returning to after more than a decade. Lindsey's framing: your body is a self-driving Ferrari, and you're designed to be the passenger princess. Human Design is the operation manual that gets you out of your head and back into trust. Together they walk through all five types, how each one best navigates dating, and how to love each type well, plus connection charts, conditioning, and why nobody should sleep in the same bed. Main Topics Covered The Self-Driving Ferrari: Why conditioning has you grabbing the wheel of an all-intelligent vehicle, and how Human Design hands you the manual. Lindsey's Story: From hairstylist to 1,200+ charts read, and the discovery that gave her permission to be herself: there's nothing wrong with you. The Five Types: Manifestor, Generator, Manifesting Generator, Projector, and Reflector, and the movie analogy that makes them click. Dating by Type: Manifestors initiate and inform. Generators follow the ooh and respond. Projectors get recognized and read energetic invitations. Reflectors honor their 28-day lunar cycle. Loving Each Type: The signature frequencies to feed (peace, satisfaction, success, surprise and delight) and the not-self themes to watch for (anger, frustration, bitterness, disappointment). Deleting "I'm Single": Why Christina says individuals, not singles, and Lindsey now says currently single or open for love. The Third Entity: Connection charts, sharing energy within six feet, and where couples escape the relationship. Where Conditioning Begins: Open centers, amplifying your family's emotions, and why most relationship patterns are learned by age 12. Esther Perel's Three Secrets: Missing and reuniting, seeing your partner through new eyes, and creating success together. Separate Bedrooms: The sleep chart rabbit hole, why a Projector never sleeps well next to a Generator, and normalizing your own bed. Christina's News: She's dating her ex-boyfriend, and the splenic Projector plus sacral Generator dance that comes with it. Key Takeaways Strategy and Authority Are Enough: Everything else is beneficial, but these two are all you truly need to live your design. There's Nothing Wrong With You: You're not broken. You just haven't discovered who you are and how to live it. Don't Put Yourself in a Box: Type is the tip of the iceberg. Human Design is an experiment to live, not an excuse to hide behind. You Don't Know Yourself Until You've Lived Alone: You are your conditioning until you realize it, and then you get to decondition. Love Is the Key, Fun Is the Way: None of this is that serious. Play with it. Connect with the Guest About Lindsey Means: Lindsey Means is a Human Design Expert, Identity Doula, and founder of Find Your WAI (Who Am I?), an ecosystem dedicated to helping people discover who they are, expand their capacity, and create lives that feel authentic to them. With over six years of experience and more than 1,200 charts read, Lindsey helps people understand how they're uniquely designed to operate and recognize the conditioning, patterns, and beliefs that have kept them from being themselves. Her work blends Human Design, Gene Keys, nervous system education, and subconscious reprogramming. Her mission is simple: to help people realize there's nothing wrong with them. They just need to discover who they are and learn how to live it. Instagram: http://instagram.com/humandesignatx Discover how you're uniquely designed: https://yourhumandesignguide.com/ Choose the $27 Starter Guidebook covering the four foundations of your Human Design or the $97 Complete Guidebook for a deeper dive. Both are personalized to YOU and delivered instantly. Community by Design: https://yourcommunitybydesign.com/ A completely customized Human Design experience built around the actual humans inside your community. Connect with the Host Website: https://wedeepen.com/love-club/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christinaweber Your intimacy journey is your life story, and love is a trainable skill you can study, practice, and master. If this episode gave you a new lens on yourself, follow the show, give it five stars, and share it with someone who needs to hear there's nothing wrong with them. Then pull your free chart, come to a Love Mastermind, and live your design with us. Details at wedeepen.com. Until next time, enjoy.

Last call! Love Immersion VIII is October 17 to 19 in Austin. The signature mastermind for your love life: hot seats, personalized coaching, and a community that keeps coming back. Scott Wild is a featured coach. Tickets: https://wedeepen.com/ In this episode of Mastering Love with Christina Weber, Christina sits down with turning point conversation specialist Scott Wild to map the two capacities every secure relationship requires: sovereignty and devotion. Scott coaches people through the conversations they keep ruminating on, from feedback for a partner to the breakup talk they can't find words for. He shares his path from anxious texting to secure attachment, the question that changed everything four days before he met his partner Mel, and the matching-outfits ritual that's part devotion, part codependency test. Main Topics Covered • Turning Point Conversations: Moving from ruminating in loops to delivering the conversation cleanly, in a way you respect how you showed up. • Boundaries Are Decisions, Not Sentences: The real boundary is what you decide before you speak, and it only exists if you know what you'll do when it isn't met. • Secure Attachment, Defined: Scott's north star: wanting something and being okay without it. Plus why attachment labels as identity hold you back. • From Maintenance to Creation: The question that switched Scott four days before meeting Mel: how can I add the most value to this relationship? • Criticism Is Half the Picture: Why the gap only lands when what's going well is acknowledged first. • The Matching Ritual: Why Scott dresses to match Mel every day, and the backup plan that keeps devotion from becoming codependency. • Christina's Burning Man Moment: The standoff that dissolved the second she remembered she could have fun on her own. • Devotion Without Scorekeeping: Doing it because that's the kind of partner you are, not for the other person. • From Poly to All In: Scott's honest reflection on his polyamorous years, and commitment as the removal of alternatives. • Building the Foundation: Sustainable pacing, never doing anything for a relationship you don't want to do, and quarterly couple's retreats. Key Takeaways • Sovereignty Plus Devotion: A secure relationship requires both: choosing toward yourself and choosing toward your partner. Most of us are only trained in one. • Look for Aligned, Not Right: Searching for "the one" puts pressure on a position to fill. Asking "is this an aligned partner" opens everything up. • Never Start with the Gap: Acknowledge what's working first, or feedback lands as criticism. • Break the Codependent Opportunity: If you can't do the thing without your partner, that's the signal. Have the version you'd do alone. • Commitment Is the Removal of Alternatives: Within a month of choosing Mel, Scott's income jumped six figures. Connect with the Guest About Scott Wild: Scott Wild is a turning point conversation specialist who helps people move from ruminating on a hard conversation to having it cleanly. A former software engineer, tech manager, and professional racquetball player once ranked 15th in the country, Scott coaches individuals and couples on boundaries, feedback, and the conversations that change lives. He lives in Austin with his partner Mel and their two young children, and is a featured coach at Love Immersion VIII. • Website: https://scottsolowild.com • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/scottsolowild/ • Free Assessment: Take Scott's Relationship Growth Edge Quiz or book a 1:1 Turning Point Conversation session on his website. Connect with the Host • Website: https://wedeepen.com/love-club/ • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christinaweber Love is a trainable skill, and healing relationships will heal the world. If this conversation gave you a new way to approach the one you've been avoiding, follow the show, give it five stars, and share it with someone who needs it. Then join us in person: Love Immersion VIII happens October 17 to 19 in Austin, with Scott coaching alongside Yetti Safero. And you can now join WeDeepen for just $99 a month to study love with teachers just like Scott. Details at wedeepen.com. Until next time, enjoy.

What if love is a skill you can practice, rather than something you're supposed to stumble into? Christina welcomes The Great Love Debate host Brian Howie for a candid, playful conversation about what it takes to create a relationship that lasts. They explore why being single can be a gift, how 90 days of no contact can bring clarity after a breakup, and why laughter, curiosity, and play matter in a partnership. Christina also challenges the idea that a soulmate is simply "out there" waiting to be found. Her take: the deepest kind of love is something two people choose to build together! *]:pointer-events-auto R6Vx5W_threadScrollVars scroll-mb-[calc(var(--scroll-root-safe-area-inset-bottom,0px)+var(--thread-response-height))] scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" data-turn-id= "request-WEB:f72137b8-a144-486c-b061-666fb5201cba-1" data-turn-id-container= "request-WEB:f72137b8-a144-486c-b061-666fb5201cba-1" data-testid= "conversation-turn-4" data-turn="assistant"> div:has([data-free-thinking-preview-answer=true])+:is(.text-message,.relative:has(>.text-message))]:-mt-2 grow"> Love is a skill you can practice. Christina encourages listeners to study relationships and put what they learn into action. Being single gives you room to choose well. Staying in the wrong relationship can cost more than taking time to find the right fit. A 90-day break can bring clarity. Time apart may help you tell the difference between missing a person and missing a familiar routine. Play matters. Laughter, curiosity, and shared fun can make a relationship feel more connected. You build a soulmate relationship. Christina's view is that lasting love grows through participation and effort, rather than fate alone. Connect with Brian at greatlovedebate.com Connect with Christina: https://wedeepen.com/love-club/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christinaweber Your intimacy journey is your life story. If this episode of Mastering Love opened something in you, subscribe, give it a like, and share it with someone ready to get better at love. Then come deeper: Love Club has group coaching, couples council, collaborative matchmaking with leading matchmakers and event producers, and training to host your own dating salon. Not ready for the big leap? WeDeepen is launching a $99 monthly membership, and you heard it here first. Details at wedeepen.com, plus all the ways to join us in person, including Love Immersion VIII this October. Come be with Christina, and let's evolve through love together.

Welcome to Mastering Love with Christina Weber, where your intimacy journey is your life story and love is a trainable skill you can study, practice, and get even better at. Christina's first guest is Melissa D., owner and director of the BodyJoy Intimacy School in Austin, Texas, somatic educator, and faculty inside WeDeepen's Love Club. Together they explore how Melissa found love on Hinge after years off the apps, the five stages every relationship moves through, what conscious community gatherings actually look like, the art of flirtation and expressive communication, and the truth or dare round that gets both of them sharing their deepest desires. Playful, honest, and exactly the way Mastering Love intends to begin. In This Episode Pleasure Is Always Available: The famous Love Club session with a spatula, a fork, and an iPhone charger, and why pleasure begins with pausing, breathing, and coming back to yourself. Melissa's Love Life: Finding her partner on Hinge after swearing off the apps, video-call screening, and the wordless symbol they share when they feel met. The Five Stages of Relationship: Spark, rupture, repair, true team, and legacy. Why most couples don't survive stage two, and why compatibility matters less than loving through difference. Dating with Intention: The bold question Christina asked Melissa's new man on date three, and why envisioning an extraordinary love life for everyone you date changes the whole game. Conscious Community Spaces: What makes a well-held container, and how couples use curated adult gatherings for witnessing, novelty, and deeper conversation. Expanding Your Range: Christina's journey from "that's not for me" to curiosity, and why you can't visit Alaska if you don't know it exists. Power Dynamics and Presence: The most common request couples bring to Melissa's studio, and why safe, loving leadership in intimacy starts with presence, not technique. The Art of Expressive Communication: "Could you imagine" storytelling, narrating the moment, and how slowing any touch down transforms connection. The HimEros Project: Melissa's men's retreats, the arc of five somatic sessions, and what she wants women to know about how deeply men feel. Truth or Dare Gets Real: Melissa's dream of multi-generational community, Christina's vision of a partner who is a trampoline for her dreams and a sanctuary for her heart, and the tender truth about motherhood at 45. Key Takeaways Love Is a Trainable Skill: You can study it, practice it, and get better at it. That's the entire premise of this show. Slow Everything Down: Fast touch delivers nothing. Slow touch, breath, and presence activate the senses where connection actually lives. Desire Doesn't Always Need to Be Pursued: Some desires need to be fulfilled, some need to be spoken, and all of them deserve a safe place to be explored. Assume Goodwill and Treasure Them: Men feel deeply and want to show up. Women holding that truth changes how the sexes meet each other. Connect with Melissa D. Website: https://bodyjoy.org Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bodyjoyintimacyschool Email: [email protected] Connect with Christina Website: https://wedeepen.com/love-club/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christinaweber Your intimacy journey is your life story. If this first episode of Mastering Love opened something in you, subscribe, give it a like, and share it with someone ready to get better at love. Then come deeper: Love Club has group coaching, couples council, collaborative matchmaking with leading matchmakers and event producers, and training to host your own dating salon. Not ready for the big leap? WeDeepen is launching a $99 monthly membership, and you heard it here first. Details at wedeepen.com, plus all the ways to join us in person, including Love Immersion VIII this October. Come be with Melissa, come be with Christina, and let's evolve through love together.

Reminder to get your tickets! Next weekend in Austin is WeDeepen In-Person, August 22 to 23. What if your love life could be even better? The old way of doing relationships is breaking down, and something better is emerging. Come get a pulse check on how our community is navigating their love lives: dynamic conversations, workshopping, and live love coaching with top relationship experts Annie Lalla, Jordan Bowditch and more. It's two days, and I still suggest coming even if you can only make one. We're at the hip Stardust Garage. Tickets start at $99 and are buy one, get one free right now: https://wedeepen.com/inperson/ In the final episode of Deepen with Christina, host and WeDeepen founder Christina Weber records solo from her bed at 1 a.m. to close one chapter and open the next. After Your Love Accomplice, after a pause for love and travel, after 143 episodes of teachers, tools, and truth, this show comes to completion. What comes next is Mastering Love with Christina Weber, dropping in this same feed. Along the way, Christina reflects on the hardest year of her life, the grief that made her more herself than ever, the pole dancing lesson that reframed how she sees every life transition, and why love is the next frontier after fitness, yoga, and biohacking. It's raw, unpolished, and exactly the kind of honest transmission this show was built on. Main Topics Covered Love Is the Next Frontier: Fitness went mainstream in the 70s and 80s, yoga and meditation in the 2000s, biohacking in the 2010s. Christina makes the case that love is what comes beyond biohacking, and why uniting the relationship industry is her mission. Nobody Has It Figured Out: Even the famous names in the space are still working on their own love lives, and why that's exactly why in-person community matters. The Four Pillars of a Conscious Relationship: No attachment to outcome, growth comes first, all feelings are welcome, and the relationship is a place to practice love. FOU and Expanding Your Range: Why Christina no longer wants to step outside her comfort zone. She wants to expand it instead. The Pole Dancing Lesson: After a decade away, what gets rusty first is the transitions. Seasoned dancers make transitions look like part of the dance, and the same is true of life, breakups, moves, and new chapters. Certainty in the Uncertainty: The lifelong transition of becoming more authentically you, moment by moment. The Hardest Year: Christina's grief after her last relationship, considering a conversation with her ex to return to right relations, and how moving through pain left her stronger and more clear on her desires. Long-Term Fulfillment Over Instant Gratification: When a quick fix shows up to numb you or hold you over, do you take it, or do you keep your eye on the vision? Reality Transurfing and Negative Pendulums: A preview of what's coming at the September WeDeepen In-Person, and why you must remove what's draining you before you can slide to a new timeline. Being Unoffendable: Lessons from The Courage to Be Disliked, why other people's beliefs are their task and not yours, and why you are the main character of your own life. Key Takeaways Bonds Build Best Over Time: When you're spiraling down, go where people will catch you. But you have to keep showing up again and again. No One Teacher, No One Modality: Every group think WeDeepen offers is something to try, not a rule to follow. Your intimacy journey is your life story. Grief Can Make You More Yourself: The hardest seasons, moved through fully, leave you stronger and more confident than you were before. Don't Let It Drain You: Relationships are free will experiences. Move away, choose to ignore, come back to your center. Never troll from a place of hurt. There's a Superstar Inside of You: Every archetype lives in each of us. We are all universes, and we get to come together as universes. Upcoming WeDeepen Experiences WeDeepen In-Person: August 22 to 23, 2026, Stardust Garage, Austin, TX. Two days of live love coaching, hot seats, and workshopping with Annie Lalla, Jordan Bowditch and more. Tickets from $99, buy one get one free right now: https://wedeepen.com/inperson/ WeDeepen In-Person: September 19 to 20, 2026, featuring a segment on Reality Transurfing. Love Immersion VIII: October 17 to 19, 2026. The signature mastermind for your love life. Full details at wedeepen.com Connect with the Host Website: https://wedeepen.com/love-club/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christinaweber Watch Christina on X-Rated with Andy Cohen, streaming on Peacock Thank you for being on this ride, from Your Love Accomplice through 143 episodes of Deepen with Christina. If this show has meant something to you, leave a like, a follow, and a little celebration note in the comments. Christina reads every one, and it means the world. Then come get a pulse check on your love life at wedeepen.com, work through the kinks, and evolve with us. Up next: Mastering Love with Christina Weber. Same feed. New chapter. Enjoy your life. Love you.