<p>If you've ever been with a guy who thinks jackhammering is a virtue or who can't tell your clitoris from your clavicle, this episode is for you! (Pssst share it with a bloke you know).</p><p>Yumi Stynes chats to comedian and expert dater Nikki Britton about what makes for good sex.</p><p>Plus, sex therapist Aleks Trkulja, from The Pleasure Centre, gives tips on how to take on feedback in the bedroom.</p><p>This episode will answer questions like: </p><ul><li>What do women want in sex? </li><li>How are women and men’s sexual desires different? </li><li>What can I do to increase arousal? </li><li>What are common turn offs? </li><li>What are the fundamental elements of good sex? </li></ul><p>What to listen to next:</p><p><a href="https://www.abc.net.au/listen/programs/ladies-we-need-to-talk/is-everyone-having-better-sex-than-me-/105325426" target="_blank">Is everyone having better sex than me?</a></p><p><a href="https://www.abc.net.au/listen/programs/ladies-we-need-to-talk/ladies-we-need-to-talk-dating-app-single-events/105735208" target="_blank">The new way to date</a></p><p><a href="https://www.abc.net.au/listen/programs/ladies-we-need-to-talk/endometriosis-ladies-we-need-to-talk/105802854" target="_blank">Will we ever have a cure for endometriosis?</a></p><p><a href="https://www.abc.net.au/listen/programs/ladies-we-need-to-talk/ladies-we-need-to-talk-shame-of-herpes/105687024" target="_blank">Shedding the shame of herpes</a></p><p>You can binge more episodes of Ladies, We Need to Talk on the ABC listen app (in Australia) or wherever you get your podcasts.  </p><p>What to read next:</p><p><a href="https://www.abc.net.au/news/2025-12-09/why-kate-chose-to-stay-flat-after-breast-cancer-surgery/106087348" target="_blank">Why Kate chose to 'stay flat' after breast cancer surgery</a></p><p><a href="https://www.abc.net.au/news/2025-07-16/how-turia-pitts-body-image-changed-after-birth/105463742" target="_blank">How Turia Pitt's body image changed in motherhood</a></p><p><a href="https://www.abc.net.au/news/2025-10-28/loving-someone-with-an-addiction-or-dependence/105921866" target="_blank">What loving someone with an addiction or dependence can look like</a></p><p><a href="https://www.abc.net.au/news/2025-08-04/the-price-of-perfectionism-for-women/105585186" target="_blank">The dark side of being a perfectionist</a></p><p>This episode contains references to sex, gender, men, women, clitoris, mental load, marriage, sex life, therapy, masturbation.</p>