<description>&lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;Today, we're answering a listener question about sex work from the perspective of a client. Is it bad to pay for sex? Why did it make this listener feel awful afterwards? It's time to dispel some myths about sex work and see what the root of this shame might be.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION:&lt;/strong&gt; &lt;a href= "https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe3XXt-xUq4KALu5ZnfPNwGsmIad1XQBqlHjuVsqSeDxWCuXQ/viewform?vc=0&amp;c=0&amp;w=1"&gt;  Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;FROM THIS EPISODE:&lt;/strong&gt; &lt;a href= "https://partiful.com/e/w2d2bV4SqGSfaUSjyLVD"&gt;Come to our Bi Flirting Night on 6/12 in Oakland, CA!&lt;/a&gt; | Our episode &lt;a href= "https://pod.link/1286811573/episode/NGRlMzQ2YTMtZjllNC00NDQ2LWI5ODEtYjkxMjk1Y2Y2YTgy"&gt; "The Realities of Queer Disabled Sex and Pleasure with Andrew Gurza"&lt;/a&gt; | Our episode &lt;a href= "https://pod.link/1286811573/episode/NTg4MGJkNWItYjZjNi00ZWI0LWEwNDQtNzE4N2ZlNzg5M2Qz"&gt; "Hardwired for Connection: Intimacy, Pleasure, and Survival with Dr. Justin Garcia"&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;TAKE OUR SMUT QUIZ:&lt;/strong&gt; Find your page-turning turn-on with our new SMUT QUIZ! In just 5 questions, you'll get right to the good stuff with curated pages, poems, and audios. No slow burn. No fluff. Just pleasure.; Take the quiz here: &lt;a href= "https://sexedwithdb.fillout.com/smutquiz"&gt;https://sexedwithdb.fillout.com/smutquiz&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;ABOUT SEX ED WITH DB:&lt;/strong&gt; &lt;a href= "https://www.sexedwithdb.com/"&gt;Sex Ed with DB&lt;/a&gt; is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education — delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it's the sex ed you've always wanted. Season 14 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies -- you name it. We're here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;GET IN TOUCH:&lt;/strong&gt; Email: &lt;a href= "mailto:sexedwithdb@gmail.com"&gt;sexedwithdb@gmail.com&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;CONNECT WITH US:&lt;/strong&gt; Instagram: &lt;a href= "https://www.instagram.com/sexedwithdbpodcast/"&gt;@sexedwithdbpodcast&lt;/a&gt;; TikTok: &lt;a href= "https://www.tiktok.com/@sexedwithdb"&gt;@sexedwithdb&lt;/a&gt;; Threads: &lt;a href= "https://www.threads.net/@sexedwithdbpodcast"&gt;@sexedwithdbpodcast&lt;/a&gt;; YouTube: &lt;a href="https://www.youtube.com/@SexEdwithDB"&gt;Sex Ed with DB&lt;/a&gt;; X: &lt;a href= "https://www.tiktok.com/@sexedwithdb"&gt;@sexedwithdb&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 14 SPONSORS:&lt;/strong&gt; &lt;a href="https://tidd.ly/47CjpPz"&gt;Uberlube&lt;/a&gt;, &lt;a href= "https://bit.ly/45YTySn"&gt;Magic Wand&lt;/a&gt;, &lt;a href= "https://www.sexedwithdb.com/discounts"&gt;Nancy&lt;/a&gt;, and &lt;a href= "https://happyv.com/products/probiotics-vaginal-health-supplement?utm_source=sexedwithdbpodcast&amp;utm_medium=podcast&amp;utm_campaign=ep9&amp;utm_term=2026&amp;utm_content=prebioticprobiotic"&gt; Happy V&lt;/a&gt;. Get discounts on all of DB's favorite things &lt;a href= "https://bit.ly/3s7fS7d"&gt;here&lt;/a&gt;!&lt;br /&gt; &lt;br /&gt; &lt;strong&gt;DISCOVER SEX POSITIVE EVENTS IN YOUR CITY:&lt;/strong&gt; &lt;a href="https://substack.com/@sexedwithdb"&gt;Subscribe to our newsletter&lt;/a&gt; for S.E.X I.R.L: your curated monthly list of sex-positive events, spaces, and experiences happening in person across major cities.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS:&lt;/strong&gt; Check out DB's workshop: &lt;a href= "https://www.sexedwithdb.com/workshop"&gt;"Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand"&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;SEASON 14 TEAM:&lt;/strong&gt; Creator, Host &amp; Executive Producer: &lt;a href= "https://www.linkedin.com/in/daniellebezalel/"&gt;Danielle Bezalel (DB)&lt;/a&gt; (she/her); Producer and Growth Marketing Manager: Wil Williams (they/them); Social Media &amp; Communications Manager: Iva Markicevic Daley (she/her)&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;MUSIC:&lt;/strong&gt; Intro theme music: Hook Sounds; Background music: Bright State by Ketsa; Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa, Always Faithful by Ketsa, and Soul Epic by Ketsa.; Thank you &lt;a href="https://ketsamusic.com/about"&gt;Ketsa!&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt; &lt;/p&gt;</description>

Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education

Danielle Bezalel, MPH: Sex Educator | Pleasure Expert

Am I a bad person for paying for sex?

JUN 10, 202618 MIN
Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education

Am I a bad person for paying for sex?

JUN 10, 202618 MIN

Description

Today, we're answering a listener question about sex work from the perspective of a client. Is it bad to pay for sex? Why did it make this listener feel awful afterwards? It's time to dispel some myths about sex work and see what the root of this shame might be. ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION: Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question FROM THIS EPISODE: Come to our Bi Flirting Night on 6/12 in Oakland, CA! | Our episode "The Realities of Queer Disabled Sex and Pleasure with Andrew Gurza" | Our episode "Hardwired for Connection: Intimacy, Pleasure, and Survival with Dr. Justin Garcia" TAKE OUR SMUT QUIZ: Find your page-turning turn-on with our new SMUT QUIZ! In just 5 questions, you'll get right to the good stuff with curated pages, poems, and audios. No slow burn. No fluff. Just pleasure.; Take the quiz here: https://sexedwithdb.fillout.com/smutquiz ABOUT SEX ED WITH DB: Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education — delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it's the sex ed you've always wanted. Season 14 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies -- you name it. We're here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex. GET IN TOUCH: Email: [email protected] CONNECT WITH US: Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast; TikTok: @sexedwithdb; Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast; YouTube: Sex Ed with DB; X: @sexedwithdb SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 14 SPONSORS: Uberlube, Magic Wand, Nancy, and Happy V. Get discounts on all of DB's favorite things here! DISCOVER SEX POSITIVE EVENTS IN YOUR CITY: Subscribe to our newsletter for S.E.X I.R.L: your curated monthly list of sex-positive events, spaces, and experiences happening in person across major cities. FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS: Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" SEASON 14 TEAM: Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her); Producer and Growth Marketing Manager: Wil Williams (they/them); Social Media & Communications Manager: Iva Markicevic Daley (she/her) MUSIC: Intro theme music: Hook Sounds; Background music: Bright State by Ketsa; Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa, Always Faithful by Ketsa, and Soul Epic by Ketsa.; Thank you Ketsa!