Brilliant Balance

Today, I'm sitting down for an eye-opening conversation about wealth with bestselling author, entrepreneur, and creator of the Relaxed Money Method, Kate Northrup, who brings a refreshing perspective on money—seeing it as a relationship, not just a set of numbers. Why does making good money not necessarily make us good with money? Kate explains to us how our stories about money shift through life's seasons, the surprising role our nervous system plays in financial decision-making, and why feeling truly safe with abundance is the real prize. If you've struggled with the tension between ambition and the pull of "real life," or financial shame and secrecy, take the first step to recalibrating your relationship with wealth with Kate's wisdom. After the episode, you may want to join Kate's upcoming workshop! Show Highlights: Money as a number vs. a relationship in your real context. [02:17] Reimagine financial tasks with the "money date" concept. [05:02] Financial shame in successful women and the cost of secrecy. [08:19] The real key to being good with money beyond the topline. [11:47] Uncouple your identity and nervous system from money beliefs. [18:23] How to power-reset your nervous system. [24:07] The lie of scarcity and separation vs. energy of clarity. [30:01] Kate Northrup's free "Good with Money" workshop. [38:24] Check out Kate's podcast Plenty. [41:13] To register for Good with Money, click here: https://thefreefam.ontraport.net/t?orid=497195&opid=170 To find Kate's podcast Plenty: https://katenorthrup.com Subscribe to the Brilliant Balance Weekly: www.brilliant-balance.com/weekly Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: www.instagram.com/cskolnicki

Are you ready to reevaluate how much being liked really matters? In this episode, I'm talking about the surprising, powerful, and sometimes uncomfortable truth that seeking approval can actually keep us from reaching our full potential. I'll explain how the need to be liked is a fuel woven into our early lives and careers, but then becomes a constraint as we step into midlife and leadership roles. I'll show you why we need to trade our need for approval for clarity, courage, and the kind of power that inspires true leadership—the power of shifting focus from managing perceptions to forging real outcomes. If you've felt the powerful pull of wanting to be liked, ever softened your opinions, over-accommodated, or hesitated to claim your authority for fear of ruffling feathers, you know what this episode is about. Tune in to discover how trading approval for influence can open up a chapter of freedom and impact, and the legacy you crave! Show Highlights: What does our need for approval stem from? [01:05] The early power of approval and high-achiever conditioning. [04:35] How approval becomes a clashing limiter at midlife. [06:47] Approval-oriented vs. power/influence-oriented behaviors. [07:45] Understand true power. [11:48] Learning to withstand disapproval and hold your own. [13:46] Costs of overoptimizing for approval and underclaiming space. [15:42] The "I" statements of the "liked" vs. "influential" identity. [18:58] Five steps to reclaim influence without approval polling. [21:08] The benefits of earning influence over approval. [24:02] Subscribe to the Brilliant Balance Weekly: www.brilliant-balance.com/weekly Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: www.instagram.com/cskolnicki

Today, I'm joined by communication scholar and Baylor professor Dr. Allison Alford to shine a light on a topic that speaks directly to the heart of so many women—the often unseen work of "daughtering." If you're the steady anchor of your family, the go-to for remembering birthdays, managing sibling dynamics, and smoothing over tensions before anyone else even notices, this conversation is for you! Dr. Alford is the author of Good Daughtering and brings wisdom, empathy, and refreshing clarity to the subtle yet significant roles that many professional women carry as adult daughters, and the interplay of obligation and autonomy, devotion and depletion. She offers practical strategies to lighten your load, reclaim your agency, and reshape your definition of what it means to be "enough." You'll discover why recognizing your "daughtering" labor is both liberating and essential. This conversation offers a fresh perspective on modeling daughtering, so tune in for inspiration to purposely create a life with a more sustainable, joyful balance! Show Highlights: What does "daughtering" mean? [05:06] The doing, thinking, feeling, and being work of daughters. [06:34] Acknowledging the blessing/burden duality of daughtering. [11:45] Is it love or duty that motivates daughtering work? [13:04] Identifying hedonic vs. eudaimonic happiness. [13:39] How daughtering can shift to overfunctioning and resentment. [16:21] Research findings on daughter and son roles in family care. [19:36] Redefining "enough" and embracing being a B+ daughter. [23:18] How to practice microdosing daughtering and agency. [26:01] Self-care as daughters and modeling it for the next generation. [28:44] Dr. Alford's book and where to find her work or contact her. [31:46] Connect with Allison Alford here: https://www.instagram.com/daughtering101/?hl=en Subscribe to the Brilliant Balance Weekly: www.brilliant-balance.com/weekly Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: www.instagram.com/cskolnicki

If you're like me, you know you aren't the same woman you were a year or even a month ago. In this episode, I'm inviting you to make a powerful shift—to make decisions like the woman you're becoming, not the one you're outgrowing. I'll talk about how easy it is to default to comfort zones, old identities, or the opinions of others, the pitfalls of letting those steer our lives, and why that keeps us playing small. Let's explore how tapping into the insight, courage, and vision of our future selves can lead us to choices that have the power to excite, stretch, and fulfill us. This episode is a practical invitation to recalibrate, break free from old patterns, and start making decisions today that your future self will thank you for! Let's craft our next chapters—one intentional decision at a time. Show Highlights: Are your choices aligned with your evolving identity? [00:46] A reflective exercise to do with your 16-year-old self. [04:30] Why present-moment decisions are a trap at life's inflection-points. [07:22] Meet a VVIP—your future self. [10:18] Five common drivers of current decisions. [11:04] How to harness vision to question familiar patterns. [17:31] The power of "possibilities" thinking vs. constraints. [18:36] What story do you want to tell with courage over fear? [19:12] Tap into long-term satisfaction in the painful now. [20:00] Learning to honor the opinion of your future self. [21:09] Share your present and future story with us or DM for support. [22:16] Subscribe to the Brilliant Balance Weekly: www.brilliant-balance.com/weekly Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: www.instagram.com/cskolnicki Join the Brilliant Balance Facebook Group: http://www.facebook.com/groups/281949848958057

Today, I'm handing over the host chair and letting you in on a different conversation, where I'm the one answering the questions! In this episode, which I'm re-airing after we recorded it for her show, Molly Asplin interviews me about the story behind Brilliant Balance, my leap from corporate life to entrepreneurship, and why our personal definitions of success matter more than any universal standard. We talk about the seasons of our lives, the messy reality behind the highlight reels, and how giving ourselves permission to embrace the "now" can change everything. If you've ever wrestled with burnout, perfectionism, or the belief that you just can't press pause, I promise you'll feel seen here. Grab your coffee, settle in, and join us for a fresh perspective on designing a brilliant, balanced life, your way. Show Highlights: How I left P&G with financial runways to launch a business. [03:43] Align your pace with life's growth and recovery seasons. [10:56] Are you living by outdated standards of success? [18:16] How to name your season and reset your rhythm. [20:23] The power of intentional calendar curation. [24:12] Energy management essentials for health and resilience. [27:44] What's procrastination perfectionism? [32:05] Separating social narratives from yourself as a woman. [34:56] The pendulum shift to recovery from career overdrive. [41:08] Permission for tired women to sleep and get support. [42:41] Check out my Momentum Playbook and other helpful tools. [45:51] To find Molly Asplin's podcast The Modern High Performer, visit https://mollyasplin.com/modern-high-performer-podcast/. Subscribe to the Brilliant Balance Weekly: www.brilliant-balance.com/weekly Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: www.instagram.com/cskolnicki