Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

Drag Race winner Yvie Oddly (season 11) and co-host Ryan Mitchell (HIGHKEY!) join Nicole to overshare. Yvie discusses her reaction to Ariana Grande naming her a favorite, her thoughts on the internet's response to her season of Drag Race, the details of her open relationship, and getting stretched out by a didgeridoo. Ryan shares his history of dating terrible men, getting cheated on 7 times, and the time he followed a stranger to a hotel for a hookup that could’ve been a murder. They all discuss the craziest things a hookup has said while they were inside you, the hottest kind of dirty talk, and whether the Simpsons are Black. We had a wild time. Tune in! For more Yvie and Ryan, check out their podcast, HIGHKEY! Available on YouTube as well. Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast Support this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsors: Aura Frame: Exclusive $35 off Carver Mat at https://on.auraframes.com/DATEME. Promo Code DATEME Quince: Find gifts so good you'll want to keep them with Quince. Go to Quince.com/dateme for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Planned Parenthood: Donate to support Planned Parenthood now at PlannedParenthood.org/Defend Follow: All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod  Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer Nicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

When Nava Kavelin (host of Podcrushed) lost weight at 16, the shift in how the world treated her was immediate and jarring. She went from being invisible to having 10 boys aggressively pursuing her. She joins Nicole to unpack the complicated resentment of suddenly becoming "visible" to people who previously looked right through you. They get into why reciprocity is the bare minimum for a good relationship, the misery of dating someone long-term who won't commit, and how soap operas like Passions warped their brains into thinking it’s okay to chase people who don't like you. Nava also shares the time she downplayed her Baha'i faith for a Southern Baptist boy who turned out to only be interested in converting her. Plus, the shocking research she uncovered at the UN about how media impacts girls of color - they are sexualized as young as 3 years old, and unchecked access to porn is normalizing violence for teenagers. Meanwhile, Nicole attempts to connect with the youths, and recounts the wild, slightly racist routine she saw at Criss Angel's Las Vegas show. Heads up: This episode contains spoilers to Netflix's You. Check out Nava's new book, Crushmore at simonandschuster.com/books/Crushmore/Penn-Badgley/9781668077993 Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast Support this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsor: Squarespace: Head to squarespace.com/DATEME to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code DATEME. Follow: All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod  Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer Nicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when a porn actress comes after your drag name? Lexi Love (RuPaul's Drag Race S17) joins Nicole to talk through the legal fight she never expected to be in and what it is costing her to protect the career she's built. She opens up about the panic attacks she had while filming her season of Drag Race and shares the mistreatment she experienced in rehab, which became a traumatic part of her recovery journey. Plus, Lexi also talks about her past life teaching anti money laundering to bankers, her best dates, and the night she was left abandoned with a bill she couldn’t pay. Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast Support Lexi Love's legal battle at gofundme.com/f/the-real-lexi-love-fund. See Lexi Love on tour with A Drag Queen Christmas. Get tickets at dragfans.com. Support this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsors: Cash App: Download Cash App Today: https://capl.onelink.me/vFut/3v6r90n6 #CashAppPod. Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App’s bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. See terms and conditions at https://cash.app/legal/us/en-us/card-agreement. Discounts and promotions provided by Cash App, a Block, Inc. brand. Visit http://cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures. Wayfair: Wayfair. Every Style, Every Home. Follow: All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod  Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer Nicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer is produced by Mars. Guest research by Lyndsey Kempf. Executive producer is Anya Kanevskaya. VP of content is Kaiti Moos. Theme song arranged by Mike Comite. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In 2012, comedian Tig Notaro was diagnosed with invasive cancer, got pneumonia, contracted C. diff, went through a breakup, and then lost her mother - all within four months. Tig joins Nicole to talk about how surviving that period changed her outlook on life, how she rebuilt, and how an ironic “sweet dreams” text turned into the most adorable relationship with her wife Stephanie. They talk about how commitment ended up giving Tig a sense of freedom, finding comedy in the darkest moments in life, raising twins, and her new documentary Come See Me in the Good Light. Check out Tig's new film, Come See Me in the Good Light, on Apple TV+. And listen to her podcast, Handsome. Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast Support this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsors: Uncommon Goods: To get 15% off your unique gifts this year, go to uncommongoods.com/dateme. Jones Road Beauty: Use code DATEME at jonesroadbeauty.com to get a Free Cool Gloss with your first purchase! These sell out fast so get them while they last!  Quince: Step into the holiday season with layers made to feel good, look polished, and last— from Quince. Perfect for gifting or keeping for yourself. Go to Quince.com/dateme for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Squarespace: Head to squarespace.com/DATEME to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code DATEME. Betterhelp: Visit Betterhelp.com/DATEME today to get 10% off your first month. Follow: All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod  Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer Nicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian and friend Oscar Montoya (Dropout TV, Drag Her) is back for another kiki. They talk about the best slutty Halloween costumes, the casual racism in early-2000s fashion, recounts stories of wild audience members, dating someone as a "bit", and Nicole shares the time she officiated a wedding proposal while soaked in toilet water. It's a nice fun time. See the Bad Drag Race finale in LA Nov 15th, co-hosted by Nicole, Oscar, and Mano. Get tickets here. Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast Support this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsor: Uncommon Goods: To get 15% off your unique gifts this year, go to https://uncommongoods.com/dateme. Follow: All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod  Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer Nicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.