A Year and a Day: Divorce Without Destruction

In this episode, we’re turning the mic around! Jaime Davis, host of A Year and a Day, joins Kayleigh Bain for a deep dive into the professional side of family law. With 25 years of experience and a board certification in family law, Jaime shares how she built a thriving practice and why she transitioned from dreaming of criminal law to mastering the complexities of "Divorce Without Destruction."For business owners and professionals, divorce isn't just personal—it's a high-stakes asset management challenge. Jaime explains how to protect your business interests before and after marriage, the strategic importance of prenups (and "postnups"), and why your company’s valuation might be more vulnerable than you think. Whether you're a founder looking to shield your equity or an aspiring attorney curious about the "business" of law, this conversation provides the intentional, expert-led roadmap you need.Inside this crossover, we cover:Protecting the Hustle: How business owners can use premarital agreements to ensure their growth remains separate property.Strategic Marketing: Why Jaime launched a podcast to educate individuals considering or going through a divorce and her referral network of realtors, therapists, and financial planners.The "Year and a Day" Logic: Understanding North Carolina’s mandatory separation period as a window for financial planning.Need a consultation in North Carolina? Visit divorceistough.com to connect with the team at Gailor Hunt.Have a myth you want Jaime to tackle? Email her at [email protected] the information presented is intended to provide you with general information to navigate divorce without destruction, this podcast is not legal advice. This information is specific to the law in North Carolina.

In this episode of A Year and a Day, host Jaime Davis takes on the role of "MythBuster." After years of seeing clients enter her office fueled by internet rumors and well-meaning but inaccurate advice, Jaime clears the air on the most common divorce misconceptions in North Carolina.From the "staying together for the kids" trap to the reality of how property is actually divided, this episode replaces "water cooler wisdom" with hard facts. Jaime breaks down the state's unique Year and a Day rule, explains why moving into the spare bedroom isn't a legal separation, and reveals why "winning" the divorce based on a spouse's misconduct is largely a fantasy. Whether you're curious about whether the Courts favor mothers  or wondering if your pre-marital home is excluded from property division, this episode provides the clarity needed to make decisions based on facts, not fear.The Myths We're Busting:The Bedroom Separation Myth: Why you aren't "legally separated" until someone actually moves out.The Child’s Choice Myth: Does a 12-year-old really get to pick where they live? (Spoiler: No).The "Cheater Takes All" Myth: How marital misconduct actually affects alimony, post-separation support, and property division.The Equitable vs. Equal Myth: Understanding that "equitable" doesn't always mean a perfect 50-50 split.Mothers are favored in custody decisions, your spouse needs to sign divorce papers, and MORE!Need a consultation in North Carolina? Visit divorceistough.com to connect with the team at Gailor Hunt.Have a myth you want Jaime to tackle? Email her at [email protected] the information presented is intended to provide you with general information to navigate divorce without destruction, this podcast is not legal advice. This information is specific to the law in North Carolina.

Welcome to A Year and a Day. I’m Jaime Davis, board-certified family law attorney at Gailor Hunt. In this episode, I’m joined by Diane Kinlaw, a senior loan officer with Revolution Mortgage, to discuss the critical mortgage challenges that arise during separation and divorce.Diane explains why your credit score is your "financial resume" and why you shouldn't wait until your divorce is finalized to speak with a mortgage professional. We dive into the specific rules for using alimony and child support as qualifying income, why keeping the house isn’t always in your best financial interest,  and the logistical hurdles of equity buyouts through cash-out refinances.Together, we discuss the "deal breakers" of debt-to-income ratios, how contingent liabilities on joint credit cards can sink a new loan application, and the reality of navigating today's interest rates versus "stored equity." Diane provides a proactive checklist for gathering financial documents and highlights the importance of working with a team—attorneys, financial advisors, and lenders—to ensure a clean transition to your next chapter.Need help from Diane? Reach out for a free consultation at revolutionmortgage.com/dianekinlaw.If you are in need of legal assistance in North Carolina, contact us at Gailor Hunt by visiting www.divorceistough.com.

Welcome to A Year and a Day. I’m Jaime Davis, board-certified family law attorney at Gailor Hunt. In this episode, I sit down with Autumn Dubois, founder and principal agent of Dubois Property Group, to discuss the strategic management of one of your most significant financial assets during a divorce: the family home.Autumn shares her expertise on navigating the intersection of real estate and divorce, explaining why she views her role as "Switzerland"—a neutral third party dedicated to protecting the sale regardless of the conflict between spouses. We explore the importance of a tight listing strategy, why having a hard date in a separation agreement is the "absolute best scenario" for preventing delays, and how to manage the logistical hurdles of repairs and staging when homeowners are living separately.Together, we weigh the pros and cons of when one party wants to stay in the family home and discuss the financial "red flags" that might make selling a better move than a buyout, the complexities of loan assumptions in today's market, and transitioning into a "new chapter" purchase. Autumn also provides a checklist for coordinating with divorce attorneys to ensure closing disclosures and proceed directives align with legal requirements, helping you maximize your profit and move forward with clarity.Need help from Autumn? Learn more about her transition-specialized real estate services by visiting duboispropertygroup.com.If you are in need of legal assistance in North Carolina, contact us at Gailor Hunt by visiting www.divorceistough.com.Like this show? Rate it here!While the information presented is intended to provide you with general information to navigate divorce without destruction, this podcast is not legal advice. This information is specific to the law in North Carolina. If you have any questions before taking action, consult an attorney who is licensed in your state.

Welcome to A Year and a Day. I’m Jaime Davis, board-certified family law attorney at Gailor Hunt. In this episode, I’m talking with Dr. Lee Baucom, a veteran relationship coach, therapist, and creator of the Save the Marriage System.Lee shares his perspective as a "recovering marriage therapist," explaining why traditional marriage counseling often fails by focusing on communication—the "plumbing"—rather than the underlying connection. He breaks down how marriages often hit a "pause button" during busy seasons of life, leading to a slow cascade of disconnection that mirrors the symptoms people mistake for the "reasons" for divorce.Together, we explore the concept of "The We"—viewing the marriage as a third entity or a team—and how this mindset shift can resolve conflicts over money, parenting, in-laws, and more. Lee reveals how one partner can unilaterally change the "dance" of a relationship to invite restoration, even when the other is emotionally withdrawn or "quietly quitting" the marriage. Whether you are looking to save your partnership or create a better  co-parenting relationship, Lee provides a roadmap for moving from high-conflict combat to connection.Need help from Lee? Discover his system and resources by visiting savethemarriage.com.If you are in need of legal assistance in North Carolina, contact us at Gailor Hunt by visiting www.divorceistough.com.Like this show? Rate it here!While the information presented is intended to provide you with general information to navigate divorce without destruction, this podcast is not legal advice. This information is specific to the law in North Carolina. If you have any questions before taking action, consult an attorney who is licensed in your state.