You won&apos;t get very far in this episode without realizing the click-baitiness of the title.  The truth is, there was a time I wanted to keep all of my body shame and use it for fuel to &quot;fix&quot; my body and chaotic relationship to food. It never worked, and in this episode I&apos;ll talk about what did. Links: <a href='https://randemossclients.my.canva.site/work-with-me'>Work with Me </a> <a href='https://freespiritacademy.teachable.com/p/reimaginingthebody'>Reimagining The Body course</a>  (use the coupon code REIMAGINE2023 at checkout for 50% off in the month of November)

<description>&lt;p&gt;You won&amp;apos;t get very far in this episode without realizing the click-baitiness of the title.  The truth is, there was a time I wanted to keep all of my body shame and use it for fuel to &amp;quot;fix&amp;quot; my body and chaotic relationship to food. It never worked, and in this episode I&amp;apos;ll talk about what did. &lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;b&gt;Links:&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;a href='https://randemossclients.my.canva.site/work-with-me'&gt;Work with Me &lt;/a&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;a href='https://freespiritacademy.teachable.com/p/reimaginingthebody'&gt;Reimagining The Body course&lt;/a&gt;  (use the coupon code REIMAGINE2023 at checkout for 50% off in the month of November)&lt;/p&gt;</description>

You won't get very far in this episode without realizing the click-baitiness of the title.  The truth is, there was a time I wanted to keep all of my body shame and use it for fuel to "fix" my body and chaotic relationship to food. It never worked, and in this episode I'll talk about what did. Links:Work with Me Reimagining The Body course  (use the coupon code REIMAGINE2023 at checkout for 50% off in the month of November)

Why "Body Positivity" Wasn't For Me

If you&apos;ve spent any time in the somatic healing world, you&apos;re likely familiar with the concept of the body saying &quot;no&quot;. I&apos;ll also often say that the body has a language that it speaks - sensation. emotion. pleasure and pain. Reactions and responses that say &quot;no&quot; and reactions and responses that say &quot;yes&quot;. And it takes a lot of time and practice to understand that language. In today&apos;s episode I&apos;ll speak about feeling for the body&apos;s &quot;yes&quot; and the body&apos;s &quot;no&quot;, and how it applies in several situations.  Links: <a href='https://randemossclients.my.canva.site/work-with-me'>Work with Rande </a> <a href='https://www.instagram.com/free_spirit_academy/'>Free Spirit Academy on Instagram</a>

<description>&lt;p&gt;If you&amp;apos;ve spent any time in the somatic healing world, you&amp;apos;re likely familiar with the concept of the body saying &amp;quot;no&amp;quot;. I&amp;apos;ll also often say that the body has a language that it speaks - sensation. emotion. pleasure and pain. Reactions and responses that say &amp;quot;no&amp;quot; and reactions and responses that say &amp;quot;yes&amp;quot;. &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;And&lt;/em&gt; it takes a lot of time and practice to understand that language.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;In today&amp;apos;s episode I&amp;apos;ll speak about &lt;em&gt;feeling&lt;/em&gt; for the body&amp;apos;s &amp;quot;yes&amp;quot; and the body&amp;apos;s &amp;quot;no&amp;quot;, and how it applies in several situations. &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;b&gt;Links&lt;/b&gt;:&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;a href='https://randemossclients.my.canva.site/work-with-me'&gt;Work with Rande&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;a href='https://www.instagram.com/free_spirit_academy/'&gt;Free Spirit Academy on Instagram&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description>

If you've spent any time in the somatic healing world, you're likely familiar with the concept of the body saying "no". I'll also often say that the body has a language that it speaks - sensation. emotion. pleasure and pain. Reactions and responses that say "no" and reactions and responses that say "yes". And it takes a lot of time and practice to understand that language.In today's episode I'll speak about feeling for the body's "yes" and the body's "no", and how it applies in several s...

The Language Our Bodies Speak.

What I wish I would have known when I was struggling and reading books about &quot;mindful eating&quot;: - Slowing down isn&apos;t a tool to make you eat less. It&apos;s a tool to notice what&apos;s happening. - No amount of mindful eating is going to make eating less than you actually need serve you. - Mindful eating doesn&apos;t have to be precious. You can eat in front of your favorite show. You don&apos;t have to be deeply meditative about it...it&apos;s really just in the case of compulsive or binge eating that removing distractions can be a useful tool. - If you&apos;re absolutely desperate to change your body, attempts at mindful eating are probably still just going to be attempts at control. - Mindful eating isn&apos;t just about the &quot;mind&quot;. It&apos;s an embodied experience. It&apos;s not about an idea of how much you SHOULD eat, it&apos;s about getting to know your actual body. - &quot;Embodying a binge&quot; really does mean &quot;embodying a binge&quot;. What does a binge urge feel like in your body? What changes as you start to eat? What does the food actually taste like? What&apos;s it like to have this food take up space in your body? If shame comes up, what does THAT feel like? What&apos;s it like to breathe into it rather than let it spin stories in your head? What happens in your body if you don&apos;t immediately distract yourself after a binge? If you don&apos;t plan to starve yourself the next day? Can you get to know those feelings? Binge eating taught me so much. Rather, EMBODYING the experience that I&apos;d been fighting with for 15+ years taught me so much. As it became safe to embody the entire experience of a binge, it started loosening it&apos;s hold. It also became safe to change things from the inside of that experience. I learned I could stop shaming myself and &quot;starting over&quot; when the binge was over. I learned I was actually capable of stopping somewhere in the middle rather than being all-or-nothing. Eventually I learned that a binge urge (the survival energy driving me to eat) wouldn&apos;t kill me if I didn&apos;t follow through. Or if I did so in a less checked-out way. Basically I learned that I was lovable and safe, even in a pattern that felt like the worst thing about me. ⁣ ⁣ And creating that kind of safety opened up room for other hidden parts of me to come to the surface. Embodying the binge was just the beginning.⁣ ⁣ P.S. I have a couple of spots for private clients and all clients get lifetime access to Free Spirit Academy courses (including Binge Freedom) DM me with questions, book a 15-minute call, or fill out the application through the link below ❤️ <a href=' https://randemossclients.my.canva.site/work-with-me'>Work with Me</a>

<description>&lt;p&gt;What I wish I would have known when I was struggling and reading books about &amp;quot;mindful eating&amp;quot;:&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;- Slowing down isn&amp;apos;t a tool to make you eat less. It&amp;apos;s a tool to notice what&amp;apos;s happening.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;- No amount of mindful eating is going to make eating less than you actually need serve you.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;- Mindful eating doesn&amp;apos;t have to be precious. You can eat in front of your favorite show. You don&amp;apos;t have to be deeply meditative about it...it&amp;apos;s really just in the case of compulsive or binge eating that removing distractions can be a useful tool.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;- If you&amp;apos;re absolutely desperate to change your body, attempts at mindful eating are probably still just going to be attempts at control.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;- Mindful eating isn&amp;apos;t just about the &amp;quot;mind&amp;quot;. It&amp;apos;s an embodied experience. It&amp;apos;s not about an idea of how much you SHOULD eat, it&amp;apos;s about getting to know your actual body.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;- &amp;quot;Embodying a binge&amp;quot; really does mean &amp;quot;embodying a binge&amp;quot;. What does a binge urge feel like in your body? What changes as you start to eat? What does the food actually taste like? What&amp;apos;s it like to have this food take up space in your body? If shame comes up, what does THAT feel like? What&amp;apos;s it like to breathe into it rather than let it spin stories in your head? What happens in your body if you don&amp;apos;t immediately distract yourself after a binge? If you don&amp;apos;t plan to starve yourself the next day? Can you get to know those feelings? &lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;Binge eating taught me so much. Rather, EMBODYING the experience that I&amp;apos;d been fighting with for 15+ years taught me so much.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;As it became safe to embody the entire experience of a binge, it started loosening it&amp;apos;s hold.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;It also became safe to change things from the inside of that experience.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;I learned I could stop shaming myself and &amp;quot;starting over&amp;quot; when the binge was over.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;I learned I was actually capable of stopping somewhere in the middle rather than being all-or-nothing.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;Eventually I learned that a binge urge (the survival energy driving me to eat) wouldn&amp;apos;t kill me if I didn&amp;apos;t follow through. Or if I did so in a less checked-out way.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;Basically I learned that I was lovable and safe, even in a pattern that felt like the worst thing about me. ⁣&lt;br/&gt;⁣&lt;br/&gt;And creating that kind of safety opened up room for other hidden parts of me to come to the surface. Embodying the binge was just the beginning.⁣&lt;br/&gt;⁣&lt;br/&gt;P.S. I have a couple of spots for private clients and all clients get lifetime access to Free Spirit Academy courses (including Binge Freedom) DM me with questions, book a 15-minute call, or fill out the application through the link below ❤️&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;a href=' https://randemossclients.my.canva.site/work-with-me'&gt;Work with Me&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description>

What I wish I would have known when I was struggling and reading books about "mindful eating":- Slowing down isn't a tool to make you eat less. It's a tool to notice what's happening.- No amount of mindful eating is going to make eating less than you actually need serve you.- Mindful eating doesn't have to be precious. You can eat in front of your favorite show. You don't have to be deeply meditative about it...it's really just in the case of compulsive or binge eating that removing distracti...

Mindful Eating Didn't Work For Me.

Healing doesn&apos;t happen in a hurry. The hurry to be healed, integrated, enlightened, free, arrived...it&apos;s not as neat and tidy as a lot of self-help books or before-and-after photos might suggest.  It&apos;s more like, the harder we try to fix things, the harder our nervous systems work to keep us where things are familiar. Whereas, if we can slow down with ourselves, right  in the behavior or with the part of us we hate or struggle with most, we can get to know it. There are often so many unknown steps in a healing process that we couldn&apos;t possibly plan them all out, let alone by a certain date. And often, the version of us that exists right here is the one most needing our acceptance and attention. In this episode, I talk about the desperation and hurry I felt to &quot;fix&quot; my binge and emotional eating. I&apos;ll also share about the parts of myself I&apos;d have missed meeting if the &quot;hurry&quot; had worked. Links: <a href='https://randemossclients.my.canva.site/work-with-me'>Work with Rande </a> <a href='https://www.instagram.com/free_spirit_academy/'>Free Spirit Academy on Instagram</a>

<description>&lt;p&gt;Healing doesn&amp;apos;t happen in a hurry. The hurry to be healed, integrated, enlightened, free, arrived...it&amp;apos;s not as neat and tidy as a lot of self-help books or before-and-after photos might suggest. &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;It&amp;apos;s more like, the harder we try to fix things, the harder our nervous systems work to keep us where things are familiar. Whereas, if we can slow down with ourselves, right  in the behavior or with the part of us we hate or struggle with most, we can get to know it. There are often so many unknown steps in a healing process that we couldn&amp;apos;t possibly plan them all out, let alone by a certain date. And often, the version of us that exists right here is the one most needing our acceptance and attention.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;In this episode, I talk about the desperation and hurry I felt to &amp;quot;fix&amp;quot; my binge and emotional eating. I&amp;apos;ll also share about the parts of myself I&amp;apos;d have missed meeting if the &amp;quot;hurry&amp;quot; had worked.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Links:&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;a href='https://randemossclients.my.canva.site/work-with-me'&gt;Work with Rande&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;a href='https://www.instagram.com/free_spirit_academy/'&gt;Free Spirit Academy on Instagram&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description>

Healing doesn't happen in a hurry. The hurry to be healed, integrated, enlightened, free, arrived...it's not as neat and tidy as a lot of self-help books or before-and-after photos might suggest.    It's more like, the harder we try to fix things, the harder our nervous systems work to keep us where things are familiar. Whereas, if we can slow down with ourselves, right  in the behavior or with the part of us we hate or struggle with most, we can get to know it. There are often so m...

Healing Doesn't Happen in a Hurry (the truth about emotional, compulsive, and binge eating)

Healing doesn't happen in a hurry. The hurry to be healed, integrated, enlightened, free, arrived...it's not as neat and tidy as a lot of self-help books or before-and-after photos might suggest.&nbsp; It's more like, the harder we try to fix things, the harder our nervous systems work to keep us where things are familiar. Whereas, if we can slow down with ourselves, right&nbsp; in the behavior or with the part of us we hate or struggle with most, we can get to know it. There are often so many unknown steps in a healing process that we couldn't possibly plan them all out, let alone by a certain date. And often, the version of us that exists right here is the one most needing our acceptance and attention. In this episode, I talk about the desperation and hurry I felt to "fix" my binge and emotional eating. I'll also share about the parts of myself I'd have missed meeting if the "hurry" had worked. Links: <a href="https://randemossclients.my.canva.site/work-with-me">Work with Rande </a> <a href="https://www.instagram.com/free_spirit_academy/">Free Spirit Academy on Instagram</a>

<description>
 &lt;p&gt;Healing doesn't happen in a hurry. The hurry to be healed, integrated, enlightened, free, arrived...it's not as neat and tidy as a lot of self-help books or before-and-after photos might suggest.&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;It's more like, the harder we try to fix things, the harder our nervous systems work to keep us where things are familiar. Whereas, if we can slow down with ourselves, right&amp;nbsp; in the behavior or with the part of us we hate or struggle with most, we can get to know it. There are often so many unknown steps in a healing process that we couldn't possibly plan them all out, let alone by a certain date. And often, the version of us that exists right here is the one most needing our acceptance and attention.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;In this episode, I talk about the desperation and hurry I felt to "fix" my binge and emotional eating. I'll also share about the parts of myself I'd have missed meeting if the "hurry" had worked.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Links:&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;a href="https://randemossclients.my.canva.site/work-with-me"&gt;Work with Rande&lt;br&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;a href="https://www.instagram.com/free_spirit_academy/"&gt;Free Spirit Academy on Instagram&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
 </description>


      Free Spirit Academy is about the freedom to be fully yourself beyond any trauma that may have been accumulated through our families, religions, education systems, cultural conditioning, and beyond. Our bodies hold our trauma, but they also hold our truth.  My name is Rande Moss, I'm a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and Eating Psychology Coach. I'm so grateful you're here for these talks and conversations. 
    

Sign In

Free Spirit Academy Podcast

Details

Recent Episodes