There is going to be a very good chance that you think you know what I'm going to say on this podcast, but you don't. I can promise you that, because up until about 12 hours ago, I didn't even know what I was going to be saying on this podcast. I actually had an interview scheduled this week, but aren't we living in a time when we never know what's coming? This podcast wasn't in the cards for me either, so please keep listening until the end. David Radke will be joining me on today's show. In order to earn a living, I create content. I write books. I travel and I speak. I write online courses and make funny videos. I advertise for companies that I love and trust. I do television sometimes. All of this has been upended in the last two weeks. Just like your life has been upended. All of the dates on my calendar for travel and speaking for the next several months are gone. Every one of them. Like most of you, I have a side hustle. David and I have been working on the relaunch of Ink since November, but David suggested that we go with the relaunch of a course that would be more timely right now. He suggested we work on the relaunch of <a href= "https://www.melissaradke.com/thissucks">This Sucks...But God Is Good</a>.  Show Notes: <ul> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[04:38] Melissa agrees with David that now is the time for this course.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[05:03] Melissa wants to come out of this with clarity and answers. She wants to be better and not worse. Lean in and not lean out.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[06:22] We need to take advantage of this time and be wise with the time that we have been given. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[07:00] We are going to relaunch <a href="https://www.melissaradke.com/thissucks">This Sucks... But God Is Good</a>. It's an online course that you take at your pace. It's a weekly email with videos. You get one lesson each Monday for six weeks. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[08:32] You also get questions to help you clarify the concepts in your mind. Each lesson has four to five bite sized video lessons that totals around 45 minutes to an hour. The downloads are also available as audio for listening anytime.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[09:00] There are also summaries, outlines, and transcripts for those who like to read. And a like-minded Facebook community to interact with. Melissa will also be there and will have some live chats with you all. She will also take and post questions.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[09:31] She's there for you, answering your questions and challenging you as we go along. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[09:55] Thousands of people have gone through this course already. If you have, go back through it and jump back into the group. The season you are in now is totally different than the season you were in.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[11:01] Melissa created this course based on the journey that her and David went through suffering from infertility, miscarriages, and the birth and death of their son. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[11:38] It's been for every woman and man who has been angry at God, because somewhere your train went off the tracks.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[12:42] There is freedom in your life that is available to you through this course.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[13:24] This course is regularly $67. We know you have so much going on that we can't offer it to you for that price. Because of the times we are in and what's going on we are going to offer this course to everyone for $1.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[14:34] When you pay your dollar, you are free to pay whatever amount you want. You pay what you want to pay and what feels right for you. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[17:21] If you've never taken a course like this, this is something that you have never experienced. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[18:04] Melissa wants to share what she's been taught by a God that she finds so loving and so accepting.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[18:32] This isn't your Grandma's bible study. We meet you where you are.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[19:06] We love you so much. </li> </ul> Thanks for joining us on Ordinary People Ordinary Things. Be sure to <a href= "https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/ordinary-people-ordinary-things-with-melissa-radke/id1351641025?mt=2"> subscribe to our podcast on iTunes</a> and leave a nice review. Just like your mother taught you. Links and Resources: <ul> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><a href= "http://www.ordinarypeopleordinarythings.com">Podcast Web Page</a></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><a href= "https://www.facebook.com/MelissaRadkeStretchMarks/">Facebook Page</a></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><a href= "https://www.facebook.com/MelissaRadkeStretchMarks/videos/3018181041544760/"> Rise & Radke</a></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><a href= "https://www.instagram.com/MsMelissaRadke/">@MsMelissaRadke on Instagram</a></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><a href= "https://twitter.com/msmelissaradke/">@msmelissaradke on Twitter</a></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><a href= "https://www.melissaradke.com/">Sign Up for Insider Access</a></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><a href= "https://www.melissaradke.com/streamher-podcast/">Stream(H)er</a></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><a href= "https://www.melissaradke.com/thissucks">This Sucks...But God Is Good</a></li> </ul>

<description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;There is going to be a very good chance that you think you know what I'm going to say on this podcast, but you don't. I can promise you that, because up until about 12 hours ago, I didn't even know what I was going to be saying on this podcast. I actually had an interview scheduled this week, but aren't we living in a time when we never know what's coming? This podcast wasn't in the cards for me either, so please keep listening until the end.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;David Radke will be joining me on today's show. In order to earn a living, I create content. I write books. I travel and I speak. I write online courses and make funny videos. I advertise for companies that I love and trust. I do television sometimes. All of this has been upended in the last two weeks. Just like your life has been upended. All of the dates on my calendar for travel and speaking for the next several months are gone. Every one of them.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;Like most of you, I have a side hustle. David and I have been working on the relaunch of Ink since November, but David suggested that we go with the relaunch of a course that would be more timely right now. He suggested we work on the relaunch of&lt;/span&gt; &lt;a href= "https://www.melissaradke.com/thissucks"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;This Sucks...But God Is Good&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Show Notes:&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;ul&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[04:38] Melissa agrees with David that now is the time for this course.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[05:03] Melissa wants to come out of this with clarity and answers. She wants to be better and not worse. Lean in and not lean out.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[06:22] We need to take advantage of this time and be wise with the time that we have been given. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[07:00] We are going to relaunch&lt;/span&gt; &lt;a href="https://www.melissaradke.com/thissucks"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;This Sucks... But God Is Good&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;. It's an online course that you take at your pace. It's a weekly email with videos. You get one lesson each Monday for six weeks. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[08:32] You also get questions to help you clarify the concepts in your mind. Each lesson has four to five bite sized video lessons that totals around 45 minutes to an hour. The downloads are also available as audio for listening anytime.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[09:00] There are also summaries, outlines, and transcripts for those who like to read. And a like-minded Facebook community to interact with. Melissa will also be there and will have some live chats with you all. She will also take and post questions.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[09:31] She's there for you, answering your questions and challenging you as we go along. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[09:55] Thousands of people have gone through this course already. If you have, go back through it and jump back into the group. The season you are in now is totally different than the season you were in.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[11:01] Melissa created this course based on the journey that her and David went through suffering from infertility, miscarriages, and the birth and death of their son. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[11:38] It's been for every woman and man who has been angry at God, because somewhere your train went off the tracks.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[12:42] There is freedom in your life that is available to you through this course.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[13:24] This course is regularly $67. We know you have so much going on that we can't offer it to you for that price. Because of the times we are in and what's going on we are going to offer this course to everyone for $1.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[14:34] When you pay your dollar, you are free to pay whatever amount you want. You pay what you want to pay and what feels right for you. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[17:21] If you've never taken a course like this, this is something that you have never experienced. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[18:04] Melissa wants to share what she's been taught by a God that she finds so loving and so accepting.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[18:32] This isn't your Grandma's bible study. We meet you where you are.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[19:06] We love you so much. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;/ul&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;Thanks for joining us on Ordinary People Ordinary Things. Be sure to&lt;/span&gt; &lt;a href= "https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/ordinary-people-ordinary-things-with-melissa-radke/id1351641025?mt=2"&gt; &lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;subscribe to our podcast on iTunes&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt; &lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;and leave a nice review. Just like your mother taught you.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Links and Resources:&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;ul&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;a href= "http://www.ordinarypeopleordinarythings.com"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;Podcast Web Page&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;a href= "https://www.facebook.com/MelissaRadkeStretchMarks/"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;Facebook Page&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;a href= "https://www.facebook.com/MelissaRadkeStretchMarks/videos/3018181041544760/"&gt; &lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;Rise &amp; Radke&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;a href= "https://www.instagram.com/MsMelissaRadke/"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;@MsMelissaRadke on Instagram&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;a href= "https://twitter.com/msmelissaradke/"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;@msmelissaradke on Twitter&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;a href= "https://www.melissaradke.com/"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;Sign Up for Insider Access&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;a href= "https://www.melissaradke.com/streamher-podcast/"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;Stream(H)er&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;a href= "https://www.melissaradke.com/thissucks"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;This Sucks...But God Is Good&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;/ul&gt;</description>

There is going to be a very good chance that you think you know what I'm going to say on this podcast, but you don't. I can promise you that, because up until about 12 hours ago, I didn't even know what I was going to be saying on this podcast. I...

This Sucks...

I'm excited about today, because my guest is ordinary. She is ordinary, the topic is ordinary, and you all know how I feel about ordinary. We talk about a mundane event that lots of people go through, but she is handling it in extraordinary ways. I haven't done a podcast on this subject, yet it's so prevalent. I'm talking about divorce. Last fall, I met Kelly Mathews, and I thought she was so kind and so beautiful, but her story was painful. It was the story of a loss of a relationship and the loss of a marriage. When I met her, I was wondering how she was still standing and still smiling. I was thinking, this is what grace looks like. Kelly embodies grace and teaches us how to do that. She describes herself as a single white female (without being scary), CPA (but better dressed than you are probably imagining!), who started a boutique accounting firm in the second bedroom of her house 16 years ago.  She is a proud mother of a thoughtful teenage daughter (although it sounds like an oxymoron - thoughtful teenager - she’s blessed to actually have one). Her superpower is that strangers are very comfortable talking to her, and they typically tell her whatever is on their mind...even if it’s a secret. Show Notes: <ul> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[04:33] Kelly's people are her family and friends. She has a fabulous relationship with her daughter. Kelly is also super close to her parents who live 30 minutes away from her. She plays Bunco with her friends. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[06:13] Kelly has been blessed to have groups of people who have supported her throughout her life.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[07:39] Kelly and her husband dropped their daughter off at camp and then went on a date to a movie. When they got home her husband of 18 years asked for a separation. The next evening he asked for a divorce and moved out two days later. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[09:26] Kelly picked her daughter up from camp on her own. That was three years ago.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[14:04] The first thing Kelly did to survive was get up everyday and face the day. You create the new normal based on what you know. She also knew she needed a support team for her and her daughter. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[18:14] It's important to tell your support group what your needs are. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[19:02] The divorce almost broke her. She wanted to dull what she was feeling. She decided to live through the experience and deal with her hurt. It's hard to choose the most difficult path. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[22:18] She had to work through her anger and work through that stage of recovery. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[26:07] A powerful statement is, "you were wronged." You feel what you feel and that's what you feel. Kelly realized her emotions were so out of character. She has swinging emotions. Feeling her feelings was so freeing. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[28:37] A Bunco friend told her that she had turned a corner. Her anger had ebbed. Her friend recognized it without prompting.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[31:41] Things not to say include, "you will be so lonely" and "are you dating."</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[38:03] Kelly is happy with where her life is and the choices that she has made after the divorce. She is healthy and rested now. She was running on life's treadmill. She had time to think about things and decided to use that time for good. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[41:16] She's being true to who she is and who she wants to be. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[44:23] She also created a decision tree about how she was going to deal with questions from her ex-husband. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[48:44] Be interesting because of who you are. Kelly writes down new things that she wants to try. She has done extensive heart work. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[51:16] Kelly shares her favorite hometown restaurant, friendship, and maybe some Julia Roberts. </li> </ul> Thanks for joining us on Ordinary People Ordinary Things. Be sure to <a href= "https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/ordinary-people-ordinary-things-with-melissa-radke/id1351641025?mt=2"> subscribe to our podcast on iTunes</a> and leave a nice review. Just like your mother taught you. Links and Resources: <ul> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><a href= "http://www.ordinarypeopleordinarythings.com">Podcast Web Page</a></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><a href= "https://www.facebook.com/MelissaRadkeStretchMarks/">Facebook Page</a></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><a href= "https://www.facebook.com/MelissaRadkeStretchMarks/videos/3018181041544760/"> Rise & Radke</a></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><a href= "https://www.instagram.com/MsMelissaRadke/">@MsMelissaRadke on Instagram</a></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><a href= "https://twitter.com/msmelissaradke/">@msmelissaradke on Twitter</a></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><a href= "https://www.melissaradke.com/">Sign Up for Insider Access</a></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><a href= "https://www.melissaradke.com/streamher-podcast/">Stream(H)er</a></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><a href= "https://www.instagram.com/skyefoxe/">Kelly Mathews on Instagram</a></li> </ul>

<description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;I'm excited about today, because my guest is ordinary. She is ordinary, the topic is ordinary, and you all know how I feel about ordinary. We talk about a mundane event that lots of people go through, but she is handling it in extraordinary ways. I haven't done a podcast on this subject, yet it's so prevalent. I'm talking about divorce.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;Last fall, I met Kelly Mathews, and I thought she was so kind and so beautiful, but her story was painful. It was the story of a loss of a relationship and the loss of a marriage. When I met her, I was wondering how she was still standing and still smiling. I was thinking, this is what grace looks like. Kelly embodies grace and teaches us how to do that.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;She describes herself as a single white female (without being scary), CPA (but better dressed than you are probably imagining!), who started a boutique accounting firm in the second bedroom of her house 16 years ago. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;She is a proud mother of a thoughtful teenage daughter (although it sounds like an oxymoron - thoughtful teenager - she’s blessed to actually have one). Her superpower is that strangers are very comfortable talking to her, and they typically tell her whatever is on their mind...even if it’s a secret.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Show Notes:&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;ul&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[04:33] Kelly's people are her family and friends. She has a fabulous relationship with her daughter. Kelly is also super close to her parents who live 30 minutes away from her. She plays Bunco with her friends. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[06:13] Kelly has been blessed to have groups of people who have supported her throughout her life.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[07:39] Kelly and her husband dropped their daughter off at camp and then went on a date to a movie. When they got home her husband of 18 years asked for a separation. The next evening he asked for a divorce and moved out two days later. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[09:26] Kelly picked her daughter up from camp on her own. That was three years ago.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[14:04] The first thing Kelly did to survive was get up everyday and face the day. You create the new normal based on what you know. She also knew she needed a support team for her and her daughter. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[18:14] It's important to tell your support group what your needs are. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[19:02] The divorce almost broke her. She wanted to dull what she was feeling. She decided to live through the experience and deal with her hurt. It's hard to choose the most difficult path. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[22:18] She had to work through her anger and work through that stage of recovery. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[26:07] A powerful statement is, "you were wronged." You feel what you feel and that's what you feel. Kelly realized her emotions were so out of character. She has swinging emotions. Feeling her feelings was so freeing. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[28:37] A Bunco friend told her that she had turned a corner. Her anger had ebbed. Her friend recognized it without prompting.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[31:41] Things not to say include, "you will be so lonely" and "are you dating."&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[38:03] Kelly is happy with where her life is and the choices that she has made after the divorce. She is healthy and rested now. She was running on life's treadmill. She had time to think about things and decided to use that time for good. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[41:16] She's being true to who she is and who she wants to be. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[44:23] She also created a decision tree about how she was going to deal with questions from her ex-husband. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[48:44] Be interesting because of who you are. Kelly writes down new things that she wants to try. She has done extensive heart work. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[51:16] Kelly shares her favorite hometown restaurant, friendship, and maybe some Julia Roberts. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;/ul&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;Thanks for joining us on Ordinary People Ordinary Things. Be sure to&lt;/span&gt; &lt;a href= "https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/ordinary-people-ordinary-things-with-melissa-radke/id1351641025?mt=2"&gt; &lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;subscribe to our podcast on iTunes&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt; &lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;and leave a nice review. Just like your mother taught you.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Links and Resources:&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;ul&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;a href= "http://www.ordinarypeopleordinarythings.com"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;Podcast Web Page&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;a href= "https://www.facebook.com/MelissaRadkeStretchMarks/"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;Facebook Page&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;a href= "https://www.facebook.com/MelissaRadkeStretchMarks/videos/3018181041544760/"&gt; &lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;Rise &amp; Radke&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;a href= "https://www.instagram.com/MsMelissaRadke/"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;@MsMelissaRadke on Instagram&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;a href= "https://twitter.com/msmelissaradke/"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;@msmelissaradke on Twitter&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;a href= "https://www.melissaradke.com/"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;Sign Up for Insider Access&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;a href= "https://www.melissaradke.com/streamher-podcast/"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;Stream(H)er&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;a href= "https://www.instagram.com/skyefoxe/"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;Kelly Mathews on Instagram&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;/ul&gt;</description>

I'm excited about today, because my guest is ordinary. She is ordinary, the topic is ordinary, and you all know how I feel about ordinary. We talk about a mundane event that lots of people go through, but she is handling it in extraordinary ways. I...

D-I-V-O-R-C-E

Over the next two weeks, we will be talking to women who were suddenly faced with a decision. Maybe the decision came after years of being at a dead-end job, and they simply had had enough. Maybe, it came after a divorce. We will be talking to these women who found themselves having to make a choice about what will be next. What will they do? Will they live? Will they die? Will they get stuck? Will they continue waking up every day putting one foot in front of the other? There are some really powerful and relatable stories coming your way over the next couple of weeks. Our Guest today had no idea what she was in for. Denise Walsh was a clinical psychologist at a local community health clinic for five years. Denise loves people and likes helping people. She soon realized that in that environment, it was more about the paperwork and the policies then it was about the people. Denise left there and now serves people in a way that she has always dreamed about. She encourages people to take action on their God-sized dreams. For me, this podcast turned into a therapy session. Denise is a business coach and has a heart for kicking your butt and helping you grow. She teaches the skills to design your dream life and knows we can truly thrive in all areas of our lives.  Show Notes: <ul> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[03:35] Denise got her Masters in Clinical Psychology from Wheaton College. Throughout high school, she was a counselor at a youth group mission camp. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[04:16] She then worked with foster kids in New York City. She fell in love with those kids. They were in and out of homes and certainly had traumatic experiences and didn't realize their own potential.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[05:04] She then got a job working in community health, and it turned out to be a burnout experience. She was overworked and underpaid. She worked with a population that didn't really want help. Her passion for her career and life was starting to fade.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[06:16] She knew she needed to find something different and became a distributor for a health and wellness company. Over the past 13 years, she has built a worldwide team and impacted people in a way that she never could at her previous job.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[08:08] She helps people figure out what they want and create an action plan to get it. We can't make a pivot if we're not clear about what we want.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[09:54] You can thrive in your family and in your business. You don't have to choose.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[10:19] Sometimes we get intimidated by God-sized goals and self-sabotage ourselves.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[12:37] It's that one step in front of the other that leads to the next step. When we take steps the next one comes.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[14:37] When you tap into your passion and excitement, it's natural for you. You'll find the energy and the courage to take the next step.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[15:56] Get clear on what you want in the seven areas of life which are family, friendship, finances, health, hobbies, business, and giving back. Write where you are now and then imagine what it would be like if it were a 10.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[17:13] Once you know your priorities, you can actually go out and do them. Put it on your calendar.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[19:33] Find the goal you want to make happen and rearrange your schedule to do so. Know what you're going to do every day.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[21:21] Be intentional with your time and ask for help. It's okay to say no to things.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[24:45] Setting your internal GPS is deciding what goal is next for you and speaking life into it. Talk about it in a way that it is happening.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[26:01] Melissa wants to find the time to work on her next book. Denise helps her work through setting her internal GPS. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[28:18] Watch out for limiting beliefs and self-sabotage.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[30:53] Melissa wants to live in a way where she has things to offer the world. She doesn't want to just drift. She wants to have a plan.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[31:45] Denise shares a couple of inspirational stories of people that she has coached. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[35:34] Be intentional with the gifts that God has given you and say yes to that spark everyday.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[36:52] Denise also has a workbook that will help you really dig deep.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[39:30] Your kids can learn from you that they can love life and reach their goals.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[40:36] Denise tackles the lightning round questions. </li> </ul> Thanks for joining us on Ordinary People Ordinary Things. Be sure to <a href= "https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/ordinary-people-ordinary-things-with-melissa-radke/id1351641025?mt=2"> subscribe to our podcast on iTunes</a> and leave a nice review. Just like your mother taught you. 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<description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;Over the next two weeks, we will be talking to women who were suddenly faced with a decision. Maybe the decision came after years of being at a dead-end job, and they simply had had enough. Maybe, it came after a divorce. We will be talking to these women who found themselves having to make a choice about what will be next. What will they do? Will they live? Will they die? Will they get stuck? Will they continue waking up every day putting one foot in front of the other? There are some really powerful and relatable stories coming your way over the next couple of weeks.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;Our Guest today had no idea what she was in for. Denise Walsh was a clinical psychologist at a local community health clinic for five years. Denise loves people and likes helping people. She soon realized that in that environment, it was more about the paperwork and the policies then it was about the people. Denise left there and now serves people in a way that she has always dreamed about. She encourages people to take action on their God-sized dreams. For me, this podcast turned into a therapy session. Denise is a business coach and has a heart for kicking your butt and helping you grow. She teaches the skills to design your dream life and knows we can truly thrive in all areas of our lives. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Show Notes:&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;ul&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[03:35] Denise got her Masters in Clinical Psychology from Wheaton College. Throughout high school, she was a counselor at a youth group mission camp. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[04:16] She then worked with foster kids in New York City. She fell in love with those kids. They were in and out of homes and certainly had traumatic experiences and didn't realize their own potential.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[05:04] She then got a job working in community health, and it turned out to be a burnout experience. She was overworked and underpaid. She worked with a population that didn't really want help. Her passion for her career and life was starting to fade.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[06:16] She knew she needed to find something different and became a distributor for a health and wellness company. Over the past 13 years, she has built a worldwide team and impacted people in a way that she never could at her previous job.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[08:08] She helps people figure out what they want and create an action plan to get it. We can't make a pivot if we're not clear about what we want.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[09:54] You can thrive in your family and in your business. You don't have to choose.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[10:19] Sometimes we get intimidated by God-sized goals and self-sabotage ourselves.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[12:37] It's that one step in front of the other that leads to the next step. When we take steps the next one comes.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[14:37] When you tap into your passion and excitement, it's natural for you. You'll find the energy and the courage to take the next step.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[15:56] Get clear on what you want in the seven areas of life which are family, friendship, finances, health, hobbies, business, and giving back. Write where you are now and then imagine what it would be like if it were a 10.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[17:13] Once you know your priorities, you can actually go out and do them. Put it on your calendar.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[19:33] Find the goal you want to make happen and rearrange your schedule to do so. Know what you're going to do every day.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[21:21] Be intentional with your time and ask for help. It's okay to say no to things.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[24:45] Setting your internal GPS is deciding what goal is next for you and speaking life into it. Talk about it in a way that it is happening.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[26:01] Melissa wants to find the time to work on her next book. Denise helps her work through setting her internal GPS. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[28:18] Watch out for limiting beliefs and self-sabotage.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[30:53] Melissa wants to live in a way where she has things to offer the world. She doesn't want to just drift. She wants to have a plan.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[31:45] Denise shares a couple of inspirational stories of people that she has coached. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[35:34] Be intentional with the gifts that God has given you and say yes to that spark everyday.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[36:52] Denise also has a workbook that will help you really dig deep.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[39:30] Your kids can learn from you that they can love life and reach their goals.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[40:36] Denise tackles the lightning round questions. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;/ul&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;Thanks for joining us on Ordinary People Ordinary Things. 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Over the next two weeks, we will be talking to women who were suddenly faced with a decision. Maybe the decision came after years of being at a dead-end job, and they simply had had enough. Maybe, it came after a divorce. We will be talking to these...

Dream Life

Dr. Justin Coulson is an honorary fellow at the Center for Positive Psychology at the University of Melbourne. He has three best-selling books about family life and parenting. He writes, consults, and teaches about the intersection of psychology, family, and well-being. He's a TEDx speaker and a regular TV expert guest. He's a contributor to major Australian media outlets. He's also contributed to the New York Times.  He had a successful radio career and then returned to school in his late 20's where he earned his psychology degree and his PhD in psychology. Since then he has written multiple peer-reviewed journal articles and scholarly book chapters. He is also a highly sought-after international speaker delivering keynote speeches and workshops to boost well-being and improve relationships for parents, teachers, students and employees and students. I discovered Dr. Coulson through a friend's social media. When I saw his post, I just thought that he was doing good. He's not yelling fire in a crowded theater, he's getting to the heart of our teens. He's specifically getting to the heart of our daughters, because he's the father of six daughters. Dr. Coulson has written a book called <a href= "https://www.amazon.com/Miss-connection/dp/0733338895/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1583184635&sr=8-2-fkmr0"> Miss-connection: Why Your Teenage Daughter 'Hates' You, Expects the World and Needs to Talk</a>. You are going to love this interview and how he gets emotional talking about our girls. Show Notes: <ul> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[07:55] During conferences Dr. Coulson is consistently getting messages about how the world is destroying our teenagers. His experience is that they aren't dealing with these mass challenges.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[09:14] The problems facing our teens are actually more mundane problems. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[09:50] Parents and teens are just wanting to connect and get along.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[10:29] Miss-Connection is ultimately about the deep desire our children have to be close to us and we have to be close to them.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[11:59] Dr. Coulson interviewed and surveyed around 400 teenage girls. Their voices are front and center in the book.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[13:17] Why we parent matters more than how we parent.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[15:29] If my why is around developing this child into the best human that they can be that means that when they're being challenging I'm going to be more compassionate.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[18:36] We need to see our children's behavior as opportunities to connect. When a child is being challenged, they are going to be challenging. We need to find the best in them.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[20:44] You can show your child that if you can name it, you can tame it. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[21:41] Keep giving our children these moments because they do want the connection. Give them some time and space and keep trying. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[22:52] We need to be our kids' ally and have stretched out arms and compassion. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[27:08] Friendship challenges are difficult for our daughters. There is a constant realignment for girls in their peer groups.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[28:32] Girls are much more likely to ruminate about relationships.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[29:52] Research tells us that our daughters need to go through an identity finding process during adolescence. Kids need an opportunity to do the deep inner work that comes from quiet contemplation. There are too many distractions.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[31:46] The whole family should come together and talk about values.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[36:02] When we invest the time, kids feel the love.</li> </ul> Thanks for joining us on Ordinary People Ordinary Things. 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<description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;Dr. Justin Coulson is an honorary fellow at the Center for Positive Psychology at the University of Melbourne. He has three best-selling books about family life and parenting. He writes, consults, and teaches about the intersection of psychology, family, and well-being. He's a TEDx speaker and a regular TV expert guest. He's a contributor to major Australian media outlets. He's also contributed to the New York Times. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;He had a successful radio career and then returned to school in his late 20's where he earned his psychology degree and his PhD in psychology. Since then he has written multiple peer-reviewed journal articles and scholarly book chapters. He is also a highly sought-after international speaker delivering keynote speeches and workshops to boost well-being and improve relationships for parents, teachers, students and employees and students.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;I discovered Dr. Coulson through a friend's social media. When I saw his post, I just thought that he was doing good. He's not yelling fire in a crowded theater, he's getting to the heart of our teens. He's specifically getting to the heart of our daughters, because he's the father of six daughters. Dr. Coulson has written a book called&lt;/span&gt; &lt;a href= "https://www.amazon.com/Miss-connection/dp/0733338895/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&amp;qid=1583184635&amp;sr=8-2-fkmr0"&gt; &lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;Miss-connection: Why Your Teenage Daughter 'Hates' You, Expects the World and Needs to Talk&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;. You are going to love this interview and how he gets emotional talking about our girls.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Show Notes:&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;ul&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[07:55] During conferences Dr. Coulson is consistently getting messages about how the world is destroying our teenagers. His experience is that they aren't dealing with these mass challenges.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[09:14] The problems facing our teens are actually more mundane problems. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[09:50] Parents and teens are just wanting to connect and get along.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[10:29] Miss-Connection is ultimately about the deep desire our children have to be close to us and we have to be close to them.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[11:59] Dr. Coulson interviewed and surveyed around 400 teenage girls. Their voices are front and center in the book.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[13:17] Why we parent matters more than how we parent.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[15:29] If my why is around developing this child into the best human that they can be that means that when they're being challenging I'm going to be more compassionate.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[18:36] We need to see our children's behavior as opportunities to connect. When a child is being challenged, they are going to be challenging. We need to find the best in them.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[20:44] You can show your child that if you can name it, you can tame it. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[21:41] Keep giving our children these moments because they do want the connection. Give them some time and space and keep trying. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[22:52] We need to be our kids' ally and have stretched out arms and compassion. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[27:08] Friendship challenges are difficult for our daughters. There is a constant realignment for girls in their peer groups.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[28:32] Girls are much more likely to ruminate about relationships.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[29:52] Research tells us that our daughters need to go through an identity finding process during adolescence. Kids need an opportunity to do the deep inner work that comes from quiet contemplation. There are too many distractions.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[31:46] The whole family should come together and talk about values.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[36:02] When we invest the time, kids feel the love.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;/ul&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;Thanks for joining us on Ordinary People Ordinary Things. Be sure to&lt;/span&gt; &lt;a href= "https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/ordinary-people-ordinary-things-with-melissa-radke/id1351641025?mt=2"&gt; &lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;subscribe to our podcast on iTunes&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt; &lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;and leave a nice review. 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Dr. Justin Coulson is an honorary fellow at the Center for Positive Psychology at the University of Melbourne. He has three best-selling books about family life and parenting. He writes, consults, and teaches about the intersection of psychology,...

Miss Connection

She's back. I hope you all are happy. It does something to my psyche and my confidence level when I hear "could you have her on more often" or " tell Katherine to get her own podcast" after having Katherine Diggs on the show. Now that's hurtful, America. But I get why you want her on here. Katherine was a guest on season 1, season 2, and now she's here for season 3. If you enjoy the show today, go back and listen to Katherine on season 1 and season 2 . Those are really great episodes. Katherine is a nurse practitioner who worked for many years at a very good OBGYN practice here in town. She left this practice to go work at the health clinic. A month later, she said it was one of the most fulfilling things ever. She's working with people and especially teenagers on the issues that are the most near and dear to her heart. Her work is about sex and our bodies. She hears stories in the clinic that are horrifying and heartbreaking. She is kind, knowledgeable, and sensitive. She speaks in a way that we get.  The thing I like about her the most is that she really loves our kids. She just loves young people. She wants them to live safe, long, and healthy lives. She wants them to make smart decisions and feel valued. She wants them to know their worth in ways where they don't have to demonstrate it with their body. I have Katherine on every season because I trust Katherine. She's someone who you can believe in. This episode isn't for little ears, but it will be helpful for teens.  Show Notes: <ul> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[03:39] On social media, Katherine is referred to as Nurse Katherine.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[04:13] We have listener questions for Katherine to answer.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[04:31] It's fine to use proper anatomical names for body parts. If you have special family terms it's fine to use those too, but it's good for kids to know the proper names of their body parts. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[07:51] Start the precedent early on to talk about all things.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[08:10] A question about establishing a more open relationship with kids and teens when it comes to talking about sex. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[08:50] Communication is everything. Rules without relationship equals rebellion. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[09:12] Open communication has got to start at ground zero. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[10:11] It's good to establish communication early and be comfortable and natural when it comes to talking about sex.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[11:34] There seems to be pressure on boys when it comes to sexual practices. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[11:59] People are wearing condoms less these days. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[12:23] It's when we shame kids or make them think we are disappointed that they shut down. We should keep trying to talk to them in a positive way. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[13:10] Each child has a different key that opens up communication. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[13:42] An eighth grade teacher calls in about wanting sex education taught in their school.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[14:04] This is an issue in schools and parents are divided on it. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[14:47] Don't bury your head in the sand. Talk about everything. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[15:16] Katherine goes into schools and talks to kids. She's a nurse practitioner and a parent. She now works in public health.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[16:09] Sex education has become so political that many states don't have programs. Many existing programs are dated and not realistic. The abstinence based education isn't always helpful for kids who need practical information about what they are already doing. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[20:48] When Katherine talks at high schools, there's always a group who stays behind and has questions. She said young women come up to her and say they think they might be pregnant, and they're scared, and they can't talk to their mothers.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[23:18] Is abstinence a pipe dream? No dream for your child is a pipe dream. You also have to be with your kid and talk through whatever is going on.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[24:11] You can't talk too much to your child. Find out what the issues are and talk to them. Reinforce safety when you need to.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[26:07] People are wearing less condoms these days. We still need to talk about safe sex. There is a stigma around getting condoms. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[29:09] Is a child's new preoccupation with sex normal? If there was abuse, it needs to be addressed immediately. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[30:30] If your kid has a sudden change of behavior, look at their browser history and see what they've been looking at.</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[31:53] If your kid is acting out, they could be watching porn. Watching porn can become their normal expectation of sex. Find out and get help from counselors etc. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[33:33] Porn today is really graphic and humiliating. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[34:19] Find out where your child feels more comfortable and talk to them. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[35:18] Be aware of the incognito button on the browser. Kids can also get exposure from other kids and devices. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[36:32] You know something is going on. You need to get to the bottom of it. Do the hard work for them. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[37:23] HIV is still an issue. There are HIV positive teenagers who didn't know their status. Regular kids are becoming HIV positive. Get them tested, because there is treatment for it. </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;">[39:26] We want our kids to have long and full lives. </li> </ul> Thanks for joining us on Ordinary People Ordinary Things. Be sure to <a href= "https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/ordinary-people-ordinary-things-with-melissa-radke/id1351641025?mt=2"> subscribe to our podcast on iTunes</a> and leave a nice review. Just like your mother taught you. 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<description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;She's back. I hope you all are happy. It does something to my psyche and my confidence level when I hear "could you have her on more often" or " tell Katherine to get her own podcast" after having Katherine Diggs on the show. Now that's hurtful, America. But I get why you want her on here. Katherine was a guest on season 1, season 2, and now she's here for season 3. If you enjoy the show today, go back and listen to Katherine on season 1 and season 2 . Those are really great episodes.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;Katherine is a nurse practitioner who worked for many years at a very good OBGYN practice here in town. She left this practice to go work at the health clinic. A month later, she said it was one of the most fulfilling things ever. She's working with people and especially teenagers on the issues that are the most near and dear to her heart. Her work is about sex and our bodies. She hears stories in the clinic that are horrifying and heartbreaking. She is kind, knowledgeable, and sensitive. She speaks in a way that we get. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;The thing I like about her the most is that she really loves our kids. She just loves young people. She wants them to live safe, long, and healthy lives. She wants them to make smart decisions and feel valued. She wants them to know their worth in ways where they don't have to demonstrate it with their body. I have Katherine on every season because I trust Katherine. She's someone who you can believe in. This episode isn't for little ears, but it will be helpful for teens. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;h3&gt;Show Notes:&lt;/h3&gt; &lt;ul&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[03:39] On social media, Katherine is referred to as Nurse Katherine.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[04:13] We have listener questions for Katherine to answer.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[04:31] It's fine to use proper anatomical names for body parts. If you have special family terms it's fine to use those too, but it's good for kids to know the proper names of their body parts. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[07:51] Start the precedent early on to talk about all things.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[08:10] A question about establishing a more open relationship with kids and teens when it comes to talking about sex. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[08:50] Communication is everything. Rules without relationship equals rebellion. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[09:12] Open communication has got to start at ground zero. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[10:11] It's good to establish communication early and be comfortable and natural when it comes to talking about sex.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[11:34] There seems to be pressure on boys when it comes to sexual practices. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[11:59] People are wearing condoms less these days. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[12:23] It's when we shame kids or make them think we are disappointed that they shut down. We should keep trying to talk to them in a positive way. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[13:10] Each child has a different key that opens up communication. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[13:42] An eighth grade teacher calls in about wanting sex education taught in their school.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[14:04] This is an issue in schools and parents are divided on it. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[14:47] Don't bury your head in the sand. Talk about everything. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[15:16] Katherine goes into schools and talks to kids. She's a nurse practitioner and a parent. She now works in public health.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[16:09] Sex education has become so political that many states don't have programs. Many existing programs are dated and not realistic. The abstinence based education isn't always helpful for kids who need practical information about what they are already doing. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[20:48] When Katherine talks at high schools, there's always a group who stays behind and has questions. She said young women come up to her and say they think they might be pregnant, and they're scared, and they can't talk to their mothers.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[23:18] Is abstinence a pipe dream? No dream for your child is a pipe dream. You also have to be with your kid and talk through whatever is going on.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[24:11] You can't talk too much to your child. Find out what the issues are and talk to them. Reinforce safety when you need to.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[26:07] People are wearing less condoms these days. We still need to talk about safe sex. There is a stigma around getting condoms. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[29:09] Is a child's new preoccupation with sex normal? If there was abuse, it needs to be addressed immediately. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[30:30] If your kid has a sudden change of behavior, look at their browser history and see what they've been looking at.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[31:53] If your kid is acting out, they could be watching porn. Watching porn can become their normal expectation of sex. Find out and get help from counselors etc. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[33:33] Porn today is really graphic and humiliating. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[34:19] Find out where your child feels more comfortable and talk to them. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[35:18] Be aware of the incognito button on the browser. Kids can also get exposure from other kids and devices. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[36:32] You know something is going on. You need to get to the bottom of it. Do the hard work for them. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[37:23] HIV is still an issue. There are HIV positive teenagers who didn't know their status. Regular kids are becoming HIV positive. Get them tested, because there is treatment for it. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-weight: 400;"&gt;[39:26] We want our kids to have long and full lives. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;/ul&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;Thanks for joining us on Ordinary People Ordinary Things. Be sure to&lt;/span&gt; &lt;a href= "https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/ordinary-people-ordinary-things-with-melissa-radke/id1351641025?mt=2"&gt; &lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;subscribe to our podcast on iTunes&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt; &lt;span style="font-weight: 400;"&gt;and leave a nice review. 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She's back. I hope you all are happy. It does something to my psyche and my confidence level when I hear "could you have her on more often" or " tell Katherine to get her own podcast" after having Katherine Diggs on the show. Now that's hurtful,...

Nurse Katherine Answers Your Questions

My mom’s King Ranch Chicken casserole. My small hometown in East Texas. My eleventh grade choir teacher. Know what all of these things have in common? None of them are famous. None have been written about or sung about or reported on. You might call them “ordinary.” 

Welcome to Ordinary People. Ordinary Things. Where we talk about all the things that we see and touch and fear and feel and eat and hope for - every day. Because that’s what life is, you know? It’s one miracle after another - we just get so used to seeing them...we call them ordinary.  

“THE WORLD IS A SERIES OF MIRACLES. BUT WE’RE SO USED TO SEEING THEM WE JUST CALL THEM ORDINARY THINGS." - Hans Christian Anderson

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