Good Moms Bad Choices

What if being a single mother wasn’t something women had to defend—but something worth celebrating? This week, Erica and Milah sit down with writer, cultural critic, and author Jamilah Lemieux for an honest, hilarious, and unapologetic conversation about Black single motherhood, dating, co-parenting, raising daughters, friendship, sex, and letting go of the shame attached to being a “baby mama.” Jamilah opens up about her own journey as a single mother and how writing about Black single moms completely transformed the way she sees single motherhood. What started as a desire to defend single mothers turned into something much bigger: giving them their flowers. The ladies get into what actually makes someone a “single mom,” why having an active co-parent doesn’t erase the realities of running your own household, and why struggling should never be treated as a requirement for single motherhood. They also talk about the stigma attached to the words “baby mama,” why women are still judged by their relationship status, dating and sex as a mother, raising daughters without shame, and the freedom that comes when you stop performing motherhood for other people. Plus, Jamilah shares why she spent years thinking she needed a man when what she really needed was girlfriends, why your mother-led household is already a family, and why the single mother revolution may just be getting started. And because this is Good Moms Bad Choices, things get a little unhinged along the way—from sex work and stripper conversations with your kids to dating, dick size, motherhood, and everything women are usually told not to say out loud. FOLLOW JAMILAH LEMIEUX: Instagram: @jamilahlemieux FOLLOW GOOD MOMS BAD CHOICES: Instagram: @goodmoms_badchoices TikTok: @goodmoms_badchoices YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@goodmoms_badchoices JOIN THE GOOD MOMS COMMUNITY: Patreon/Discord: https://www.patreon.com/GoodMomsBadChoices/about FOLLOW ERICA: Instagram: @watcherica FOLLOW MILAH: Instagram: @milah_mapp Subscribe, rate, and review Good Moms Bad Choices wherever you listen to podcasts. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What if becoming the woman you want to be isn’t about waiting for your life to change, but learning how to be her now? This week, Erica and Milah sit down with Mimi Bouchard, founder of Activations and author of Activate Your Future Self, for a conversation about manifestation, self-image, motherhood, pregnancy, relationships, money, and becoming the version of yourself you actually want to be. Try Activations: activations.com/goodmoms Two-week free trial + special Good Moms offer Mimi opens up about the low point that pushed her into personal development, how she transformed her relationship with herself, and why visualization alone isn’t enough. She breaks down her two-step approach to transformation: getting clear on your future self and then finding ways to embody her in your everyday life. The ladies also get real about pregnancy and identity, preparing for motherhood, birth expectations, giving yourself grace when life doesn’t go according to plan, and the pressure women put on themselves to constantly have it together. Plus, Mimi shares why we need more “aliveness” and less numbing, how social media and constant consumption disconnect us from ourselves, why romanticizing the chapter you’re in matters, and how she and her husband grew into the relationship they have today. And, of course, we close with an affirmation and Tarot Time, and the cards have a very fitting message about money, abundance, and new beginnings. Follow Mimi Bouchard: Instagram: @mimibouchard Follow Good Moms Bad Choices: Instagram: @goodmoms_badchoices @TheGoodVibeRetreat @Good.GoodMedia YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@goodmoms_badchoices Join the conversation on Discord and catch up with us over on Patreon for full visual episodes, bonus content, early episode releases, and access to our private Discord community: https://www.patreon.com/GoodMomsBadChoices See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dating red flags, relationship scammers, social media personas, and trusting your intuition. Erica and Milah are breaking down how to spot the signs before you get got. This week, the Good Moms get into Erica’s return to dating, the lessons she’s already learning as a newly single mom, and whether men and women can really have platonic friendships. Then it’s time for the “news of the Instagrams,” including the fake NFL player accused of scamming women, Yada Awakening, performative relationships, internet experts, and the danger of believing everything someone sells you online. Plus, Erica and Milah react to Raven-Simoné and get into interracial relationships, cultural understanding, and what it means to be with someone who may never fully understand your lived experience. The lesson this week? Stop being a slave to the image, trust your gut, strengthen your “real nigga radar,” and sometimes… get off the internet and touch some grass. Watch this episode & more on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@goodmoms_badchoices Join the conversation on Discord and catch up with us over on Patreon for full visual episodes, bonus content, early episode releases, and access to our private Discord community: https://www.patreon.com/GoodMomsBadChoices Connect With Us: @GoodMoms_BadChoices @TheGoodVibeRetreat @Good.GoodMedia @WatchErica @MILAH_MAPP See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Divorce, single motherhood, dating after marriage, and rebuilding your identity after becoming a wife at 18—Kristel David is getting honest about starting over as a single mom of five. Kristel joins Erica and Milah to talk about becoming an NFL wife at 18, making over $400K teaching relationship advice centered around keeping men happy, and eventually confronting her own “pick me” beliefs. She opens up about decentering men, dating after divorce, reparenting herself while raising five daughters, and temporarily changing her custody schedule so she could rebuild mentally, emotionally, and financially. Plus, Kristel shares what it was like becoming the “Disneyland mom,” the guilt mothers carry when they need a break, and why sometimes putting your own mask on first is necessary. Watch this episode & more on YouTube! Watch this episode and more on YouTube. Come vibe with us on Patreon for full visual episodes, bonus content, and early releases. Join our private Facebook group and drop your anonymous advice questions, secrets, or mom vents. Connect With Us: @GoodMoms_BadChoices @TheGoodVibeRetreat @Good.GoodMedia @WatchErica @MILAH_MAPP See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Erica and Milah talk about single motherhood, dating, raising daughters, and parenting in the age of social media. As their girls get older, the Good Moms are officially entering their “stern mom era” and questioning how much parents should push their kids to succeed while still giving them space to become themselves. They get into kids and technology, education, social media, and beauty standards for young girls after seeing a second grader wearing a lace front. How young is too young for wigs, nails, and grown-up beauty trends? And what are moms unintentionally teaching their daughters through the way they talk about their own bodies? Then Erica is officially back outside. She joins Raya, accepts the Slutty Summer Challenge, talks about navigating dating as a single mom, and reveals why her daughter has decided her mother should remain a “Single Pringle.” In this episode: Single motherhood, dating, and getting back outside Erica joins Raya Raising confident, independent daughters Kids, social media, technology, and education Second graders, lace fronts, and beauty standards Body image and what mothers model for their daughters Dating someone your friend has already dated The Slutty Summer Challenge Bad Choices of the Week Tarot Time See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.