Teach Us To Pray — “Father In Heaven” Introduction: Why We Need to Learn to Pray Coleton begins with a simple but relatable picture: his son Teddy not enjoying golf because he doesn’t know how to play. “I’d enjoy it more if I knew how to hit it.” That insight becomes the doorway into the entire series—many people don’t enjoy prayer because they don’t know how to do it. The goal of this teaching is not just to inform people about prayer, but to help them experience joy in it. Coleton introduces the Lord’s Prayer (Matthew 6:9–13) as the foundation—a short, 31-word prayer in its original language, yet deep enough to shape a lifetime of communion with God. Key Quote: “The Lord’s prayer is simple enough to be memorized by small children and yet profound enough to sustain a whole lifetime of prayer.” — Justin Welby Coleton explains that this prayer is both: A pattern (Matthew: “pray like this”) A prayer to be repeated (Luke 11:2: “when you pray, say…”) Key Quote: “We can either use each phrase as a handrail… or pray exactly these words thoughtfully.” — Frederick Dale Bruner This series will walk through the prayer line by line, beginning with the first phrase: “Our Father in heaven.” 1. Remember Who You’re Talking To (Matthew 6:9) Coleton emphasizes that Jesus begins prayer by reshaping our understanding of God. Before anything else, we must remember: we are speaking to a Father. A Radical Shift in Prayer Jesus adapts a traditional Jewish prayer (the Kaddish), which begins by magnifying God’s name—but instead of starting there, Jesus begins with relationship: Father. This is intentional. Jesus is not removing God’s holiness—He is making Him personally accessible. Key Quote: “Pray to God more intimately than you think you’re allowed.” — Tyler Staton The word Abba reflects deep closeness—not childish, but deeply personal. Coleton illustrates this with his son calling him “pop-pop”—a name that reflects relationship, not just title. Why This Matters How we perceive God determines how we pray: If we think He’s angry → we become guarded If we think He’s disappointed → we withdraw If we think He’s distant → we disengage Key Quote: “Most people’s biggest problem with prayer is God Himself… scowling, perpetually disapproving…” — Pete Greig Jesus corrects this: you are approaching the safest, most loving presence you’ve ever known. If we don’t start here, we won’t pray freely, consistently, or joyfully. 2. Because He is Father — It Shapes How We Talk to God Coleton addresses a common barrier: “I don’t know what to say.” Through a deeply personal story about his son’s speech delay, he reveals a powerful truth: a father doesn’t care how polished the words are—he just wants to hear his child’s voice. That becomes the central image Jesus wants us to carry into prayer. Freedom Over Formula While tools like A.C.T.S. or P.R.A.Y. can help, Coleton warns against turning prayer into a rigid system. We don’t talk to people we love using formulas—so why would we do that with God? Prayer is meant to be: Natural Relational Honest Free You can: Talk about your day Share your highs and lows Express frustration or confusion Sit in silence Even biblical examples support this: The Psalms are full of raw emotion Job questions and wrestles with God Coleton makes a key distinction: Complaining to God is prayer Complaining about God is grumbling God desires the first. 3. Because He is Father — It Shapes What We Expect from God Coleton then shifts from how we speak to what we expect. Expectation #1: We Should Expect More Scripture: “How much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!” — Matthew 7:9–11 Jesus teaches that God’s generosity surpasses even the best human parents. Coleton challenges a common hesitation: feeling guilty for asking God for things. Many people hold back because they think their needs are too small or too selfish. But a loving father doesn’t shame his child for asking. He shares a powerful story of rock climbing with his dad—choosing independence over accepting help. Instead of pride, it brought hurt. Why? Because relationship invites dependence. Key Quote: “Jesus is trying to bring us… to the Father with hands out.” — C.H. Dodd Not asking isn’t humility—it can actually be distance. Expectation #2: We Should Expect “No” A good Father doesn’t give everything His children ask for. God’s “no” is not rejection—it is protection and love. He sees what we don’t He knows what will harm or shape us He gives both yes and no as gifts Coleton reminds us: don’t let unanswered prayers convince you God doesn’t care. Sometimes His refusal is His deeper kindness. 4. Practicing Prayer as Children of the Father Coleton ends with practical application: What does it actually look like to pray this way? You can: Pray the Lord’s Prayer word-for-word Or use it as a starting point But most importantly, relate to God as a Father. Practical Ways to Pray Talk to Him about your day (even though He already knows) Share what you’re thinking and feeling Bring your worries and desires Celebrate what’s good and process what’s hard Sit quietly with Him Even fall asleep while talking to Him Coleton uses the image of his son talking as he falls asleep—what some might feel is “bad prayer,” a father sees as a gift. That’s how God sees you. Key Quote: “What comes into our minds when we think about God is the most important thing about us.” — A.W. Tozer If we see Him as Father, we will move toward Him—not away. Conclusion Coleton brings the message full circle: prayer begins not with technique, but with identity and relationship. When Jesus teaches us to pray “Our Father,” He is inviting us into: Freedom instead of fear Relationship instead of ritual Trust instead of hesitation God is not waiting for perfect prayers—He is waiting for His children. Discipleship Group Questions When you think about God, what is your immediate emotional response—and how does that affect your prayer life? Why do you think Jesus chose to begin prayer with “Father” instead of focusing first on God’s holiness or power? What tends to hold you back from praying honestly and freely with God? Which is harder for you to accept: that God wants to give you more, or that He lovingly says “no”? Why? What is one practical way you can begin relating to God more like a Father this week? Culture of Gospel Share this with someone in your life who doesn’t know Jesus What if God isn’t distant or disappointed in you—but actually wants a real relationship with you like a loving Father who enjoys hearing your voice? Jesus teaches that prayer isn’t about getting it right—it’s about coming home to Someone who already wants you.