Send us Fan MailThe fastest way to learn who you really are as a dad is to ask the people who live with you. So we did exactly that. Josh and Debbie bring JT, Kayla, and Gabby into the room for a Father’s Day roundtable that is funny, uncomfortable, and surprisingly practical if you care about real Christian parenting, not just good intentions. We unpack two very different parenting instincts: the drill sergeant who uses intensity to stop behavior now, and the shepherd who uses relationship to shape character over time. Along the way we talk about “command presence,” a scary family car crash, and why a stern voice can get attention but also create distance if it becomes the default. JT reflects on discipline as a teen, what correction feels like in the moment, and what actually helped long-term. Then Kayla and Gabby share how daughters experience the “dad voice,” why emotions can turn a quick correction into days of stress, and what kinds of conversations actually lead to growth. We also get honest about discipline versus punishment, why kids are resilient even when parents miss the mark, and the core principle we keep coming back to: your influence rises and falls on the relationship you build when nothing is “wrong.” If you’re a dad who wants to lead with clarity, protect without controlling, and raise kids who can function well when you’re not around, hit play. Subscribe, share this with a parent friend, and leave a review so more families can find it. When you think about your own home, do you default to drill sergeant or shepherd?https://www.missionsent.org/