This is My Voice

Welcome back to This Is My Voice.We’re starting 2026 with a question that doesn’t get asked enough. Why is being “easy” so often mistaken for being kind, respectful, or mature?In this episode, I talk about the fear that hides behind being agreeable, flexible, and endlessly accommodating. This episode is about noticing when ease is coming from fear rather than choice.

As the year winds down, This Is My Voice is stepping back to make space for rest, family, and the quieter moments that matter most once work finally frees us. In this short year-end reflection, I want to say thank you for listening, for sharing, and for sitting with the conversations we had this year. Whether you’re celebrating Christmas, another holiday, or simply the closing of the year, I wish you warmth, rest, and meaningful connection. And as we look ahead, I’m wishing you a peaceful close to this year and a hopeful start to the next. There will be no new episodes airing until 2026, making this a perfect time to revisit past episodes, sometimes they land differently when you listen again. Happy holidays, Merry Christmas to those who celebrate, and a very happy new year in advance.  

We’re bringing back the Find Your Voice Series, and this time, it’s clearer, and far more forthright than it was five years ago. In this episode, we break down the harsh reality most people pleasers never want to say out loud: that people pleasing isn’t kindness, but fear. And underneath that fear is a silent attempt to control how people see you, how they respond to you, and whether they stay. This conversation is about the emotional survival strategy behind being “the nice one,” the exhaustion that comes with constantly managing other people’s comfort, and the quiet manipulation that hides behind self-sacrifice. If you’ve ever found yourself shrinking to avoid conflict, apologizing for existing, or performing calm so no one gets upset with you, this episode opens the door to discussing and overcoming it. The Find Your Voice Series is officially back, and we’re starting at the top.  

Choosing peace sounds admirable… until you start realizing how often that “peace” is really silence, self-erasure, or emotional distancing disguised as maturity. In this episode of This Is My Voice, Lora Tia explores the cost of choosing calm at the expense of authenticity. From swallowing your feelings to shrinking your voice in the name of avoiding conflict, this conversation goes deep into the difference between genuine peace and the version of calm that slowly turns into isolation. If you’ve ever felt yourself drifting away from your own truth because speaking up felt too cumbersome, this episode offers clarity, honesty, and a reminder that peace shouldn’t require you to disappear.

Ever caught yourself saying, “I’m fine” when you know you’re just… stuck? Yeah, this one’s for you. In this episode of This Is My Voice, we’re talking about that quiet trap so many of us fall into; comfortable complacency. The space between “I’m okay with this” and “I stopped trying a while ago.”  We’ll discuss how comfort can disguise itself as contentment, why we stay in situations that no longer challenge us, and what it actually takes to start wanting more again. So, grab your coffee, your self-awareness, and maybe that little voice that’s been whispering “you were meant for more.” It’s time to have an honest conversation about what happens when we stop striving.