<description>&lt;p&gt;When our kids are talking down about themselves, of course our first instinct is to push back. But even though we say “you’re so beautiful,” or “you’re so smart,” or “you’ll get better if you practice,” the message we send is “I’m not listening and understanding your experience.” If you want to know the secret to tackling your kiddo’s insecurities without undermining their agency and self-determination, this ep is for you! I just coached one of my fabulous Mastermind moms through this, and I know you’ll be inspired by how she stepped up for her child.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;In this episode, you’ll learn:&lt;/p&gt;&lt;ul&gt;&lt;li&gt;The tools you can use to reorient your child’s perspective when they’re feeling bad about themselves.&amp;nbsp;&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Why it’s so much more important to listen than to argue with a kid who’s struggling with their self-worth.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;How insecurities that are papered over with praise can turn into meanness.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;And much more!&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-285&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;About Randi Rubenstein&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Randi’s Web and Social Links&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;ul&gt;&lt;li&gt;Website: &lt;a href="https://mastermindparenting.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"&gt;https://mastermindparenting.com/&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Facebook: &lt;a href="https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"&gt;https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Instagram: &lt;a href="https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"&gt;https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Resources Discussed/Links&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! &lt;a href="https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"&gt;https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Live assessment: &lt;a href="https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"&gt;https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description>

Mastermind Parenting Podcast

Randi Rubenstein

I'm So Ugly! How Can You Handle Kids' Insecurities?

APR 16, 202421 MIN
Mastermind Parenting Podcast

I'm So Ugly! How Can You Handle Kids' Insecurities?

APR 16, 202421 MIN

Description

When our kids are talking down about themselves, of course our first instinct is to push back. But even though we say “you’re so beautiful,” or “you’re so smart,” or “you’ll get better if you practice,” the message we send is “I’m not listening and understanding your experience.” If you want to know the secret to tackling your kiddo’s insecurities without undermining their agency and self-determination, this ep is for you! I just coached one of my fabulous Mastermind moms through this, and I know you’ll be inspired by how she stepped up for her child.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • The tools you can use to reorient your child’s perspective when they’re feeling bad about themselves. 
  • Why it’s so much more important to listen than to argue with a kid who’s struggling with their self-worth.
  • How insecurities that are papered over with praise can turn into meanness.

And much more! 

As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-285

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links


Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/