The Alli Worthington Show

Apply Now to Join the Catalyst Mastermind - catalystmastermind.org There’s something you keep coming back to: a city, a business, a first appointment, the email you’ve avoided since spring. You’ve explained why it can’t happen for you so many times that the explanation started to sound like wisdom. In this conversation, Annie F. Downs and I talk about the difference between fear and wisdom, why so many of the nos we live by never came from real evidence, and what it looks like to keep moving when you feel uncertain, discouraged, and not at all sure how the story ends. If you’ve been telling yourself no for years without ever finding out whether the no is real, this conversation can help you question that no and keep moving forward. What You'll Learn in This Episode: Why the fear that feels like wisdom is usually just fear, and how community helps you tell the difference How to move past the "I could never" story by researching step one instead of panicking about step ten What it looks like to keep going, or "plod," when you're discouraged, uncertain, or being criticized Why building anything worthwhile takes a healthy relationship with uncertainty, not certainty How faith reframes the whole thing: you can't break a woman who gets her strength from God Timestamps: (02:34) — The painting at the Met and the moment she realized "you are not a portrait yet" (08:38) — The lie about herself that died while she was writing (11:09) — Alli's one regret, and Annie's reminder that "there's a yes available" (13:52) — The seven-year sabbatical, and why going quiet isn't the same as being forgotten (15:55) — How New York changed her: stop saying no without doing the research (18:37) — The Craigslist desk, the fourth-floor walk-up, and "I can do hard things" (21:22) — When fear starts sounding like wisdom (24:51) — Is your fear chemical or spiritual? Why she says talk to your doctor (25:57) — The thing you're afraid of is step ten. Find step one. (28:13) — Where the title came from: a Broadway run-through and the 1% who didn't stop (31:44) — Getting called a hack in 2008, and being discouraged without stopping (34:07) — Plodding, the armor of God, and "when you've done everything to stand, stand" (36:57) — Building companies and making peace with uncertainty (38:43) — The one thing she wants you to remember: just try (39:35) — Fun questions: Enneagram, Ella Langley, The Pit, and a Trader Joe's find (44:47) — Why you need this book: the world needs you living wide open Links to great things we discussed: Annie's new book: Don't Let That Hold You Back That Sounds Fun Podcast Annie’s Music Recommendation: Dandelion Annie’s TV Recommendations: The Pitt, Ted Lasso, & The Dink Trader Joe's Dewy Skin Serum, Marula Facial Oil, & Marula Oil Cream Cleanser Function Health Uplift App Join me on Substack: Wise Woman Method Alli on YouTube I hope you loved this episode! 🎉Don’t forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you never miss a thing. And guess what? We're on YouTube! If you're loving the content, show us some love by leaving a review and giving us some stars. It means the world to me! Take care, and stay fabulous! xo, Alli

Apply Now to Join the Catalyst Mastermind - catalystmastermind.org Have you ever prayed for growth, watched God answer, and then wondered why everything suddenly felt harder instead of easier? When the moves that always worked stop landing, that doesn’t mean you missed God or took a wrong turn. It’s one of the clearest signs you’re growing. In this solo episode, I talk about the core takeaway: the habits and beliefs that built your current life won’t always carry you into the next, and you need to set down what’s finished so your hands are free for what God is giving you next. What You'll Learn in This Episode: The difference between a failure problem and a promotion problem, and why the women I coach aren’t stuck. They’ve outgrown what worked before. Why people-pleasing, perfectionism, and doing everything alone made sense in an earlier season, and how to recognize when a strategy has reached its shelf life. How to spot the hidden cost of an old habit before it quietly drains your capacity, the subscription you forgot you signed up for. Why releasing an old version of yourself can feel like grief, and how to honor her instead of shaming her. The one question I ask the fastest-growing women I coach: What version of me finished her assignment? A simple practice for this week: name one strategy to set down, then watch the space it opens. Timestamps: (00:00) - Praying for growth and watching it get harder, not easier (00:28) - When your reliable playbook quits on you (and why that's a sign of growth) (01:06) - The habits that built this life won't build the next one (01:25) - Failure problems vs. promotion problems (02:04) - New levels, new devils: why growth needs a different version of you (03:00) - Honoring what got you here: people-pleasing, perfectionism, and going it alone (03:46) - Are these strategies still serving you, or are you serving them? (04:49) - Sarah's story: the habit that made her couldn't free her (06:04) - Why letting go feels like grief, and the little funeral nobody warned you about (07:10) - The question the fastest-growing women learn to ask (08:11) - The fear underneath: what if the next version of me is less sharp? (08:30) - Growth is subtraction (08:40) - Your assignment this week: name one thing and set it down (09:31) - Who the Catalyst Mastermind is for (10:12) - This week's recommendation: check your inputs (11:40) - The becoming happens in the ordinary days (12:42) - Coming home to yourself in a new season Links to great things we discussed: Apply NOW for the Catalyst Mastermind Function Health - Use code AWORTHINGTON10 for a discount on comprehensive lab testing Join me on Substack: Wise Woman Method Take the Secret Superpower Quiz Join the Uplift Community Follow me on Instagram Alli on YouTube I hope you loved this episode! 🎉 Don't forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you’re always in the loop. And hey, while you're at it, why not pop over to our YouTube channel and check us out? If you're feeling the love, leave a review and sprinkle some stars because your support truly means the world to me! Take care, and keep shining bright! xo, Alli

Apply Now to Join the Catalyst Mastermind - catalystmastermind.org You shared what you’re working toward, and you watched her face go from polite to a little puzzled. So you made it smaller. You called it a side thing. And somewhere along the way, you stopped mentioning it at all. Real loneliness comes with having a calling, and most women won’t say it out loud because it feels like complaining about something you’re supposed to be grateful for. In this episode, I’m talking with three women from the same Catalyst Circle: Erin Port, Shawna Yarbrough, and Charlotte Edwards. We’re having an honest conversation about what it costs to keep explaining your calling to people who love you but still don’t understand you, and what happens when you finally find women who do. What You'll Learn in This Episode: Why the loneliness of a calling is so common, and why naming it is the first step out of it The difference between being capable on your own and being genuinely connected, and why capable will only carry you so far How to tell a safe circle from a draining one, and why vulnerability should be earned in stages instead of given away all at once What it looks like to disentangle your worth from your work, so a slow month is information and not a verdict on you Why setting boundaries and being clear is a form of kindness, not selfishness How a midlife season can become an awakening: deciding what you want for your life now that you're not managing everyone else's Timestamps: (00:00) — Meet the circle: Erin, Shawna, and Charlotte (03:14) — Erin: "I thought I was broken," and finding women who spur you on (05:07) — Shawna: going from shared intention to real friendship (07:26) — Charlotte: grateful for the life you have and still wanting more (08:41) — When you share a dream and get the blank stare (or worse) (10:32) — "How long are you going to keep doing this little thing?" (12:20) — You don't have to apologize for your calling (14:17) — The loneliness of women who carry a lot with a smile (15:34) — When a mastermind doesn't work, and what makes the difference (17:31) — The no jerks policy and how women get placed with care (18:34) — How much time does this actually take? (the honest answer) (20:31) — "Being capable and being connected are two different things" (22:19) — Erin: the year of disentangling worth from work (24:17) — Shawna: boundaries, and why being clear is kind (26:17) — Charlotte: letting yourself be seen while you're still trying (28:07) — What are you proud of yourself for this year? (31:08) — Charlotte: a midlife awakening, and what you want now (32:07) — Why women need a safe place to be cheered on (33:35) — Testing the water: vulnerability is earned, not automatic (35:05) — For the woman who finds friendship with women hard Links to great things we discussed: Apply NOW for the Catalyst Mastermind Erin on Instagram Shawna on Instagram Charlotte on Instagram Function Health Uplift App Join me on Substack: Wise Woman Method Alli on YouTube I hope you loved this episode! 🎉 Don't forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you’re always in the loop. And hey, while you're at it, why not pop over to our YouTube channel and check us out? If you're feeling the love, leave a review and sprinkle some stars because your support truly means the world to me! Take care, and keep shining bright! xo, Alli

Join Me on Substack https://wisewomanmethod.com/ You already know the choice in front of you. It’s been sitting in your heart for a while. If you’ve felt stuck, waiting to feel confident or ready or brave enough to move, ask yourself what you’re still waiting for. It takes the drama out of changing your life and brings it back to something simple and freeing. Transformation isn’t a lightning bolt. It’s one small decision, made again on ordinary mornings when no one is watching and the excitement has faded. What You'll Learn in This Episode: Why the decision that changes your life is quieter than the dramatic leap you've been waiting for, and why you're closer to it than you think The real reason smart women stay stuck (it's not a knowledge problem, it's the gap between knowing and becoming) How to meet "Becky," the part of your brain that mistakes your growth for danger, and stop letting fear cast the deciding vote Why the decision always comes before the evidence, and how to make confident choices before you feel confident The two questions on Alli's office whiteboard that turn overthinking and procrastination into action The becoming statement exercise that helps you honor a decision even on the flat, gray mornings when inspiration doesn't show up Timestamps: (00:00) – The decision that changes your life isn't the dramatic leap you're picturing (00:47) – Why being "one decision away" is a daily thing (01:18) – How a different life gets built from a few hundred ordinary decisions (02:19) – The knitting metaphor: one stitch is never the sweater (02:45) – The gap isn't information. It's between knowing and becoming (03:30) – Meet Becky (your amygdala) and why growth feels like danger (04:13) – Why the decision comes before the evidence (04:56) – The two questions on Alli's whiteboard (05:31) – Partnering with God, and what turning 50 taught Alli about future you (06:52) – The 2008 bankruptcy, $42, and the decision that changed her trajectory (07:42) – The bravest decision: choosing to stop doing it alone (08:35) – Your assignment: make one decision and name the woman it makes you (10:07) – Why most women quit by March (the January gym problem) (10:29) – Why doing it alone fails, and the story behind Catalyst (10:51) – Inside the Catalyst Mastermind (12:11) – You already know the decision. Let's make it Links to great things we discussed: Catalyst Mastermind Standing Strong Function Health - Use code AWORTHINGTON10 for a discount on comprehensive lab testing Wise Woman Method on Substack Take the Secret Superpower Quiz Join the Uplift Community Follow Alli on Instagram Don’t forget to watch Alli Worthington on YouTube! I hope you loved this episode! 🎉 Don't forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you’re always in the loop. And hey, while you're at it, why not pop over to our YouTube channel and check us out? If you're feeling the love, leave a review and sprinkle some stars because your support truly means the world to me! Take care, and keep shining bright! xo, Alli

Join Me To Build Your Best Fall – https://buildyourbestfall.com/ You can name my attachment style, your Enneagram number, and your diagnosis over dinner without blinking. But when the house goes quiet and nobody needs anything from you, you feel strangely unreachable to yourself. That gap between knowing the language and feeling connected is the question I want to explore: what does it take to feel secure from the inside out? Therapist and author Dr. Alison Cook is back with me to walk through her new book, The Secure Soul, and the three parts of me that are running the whole operation, whether I realize it or not. In this episode, we look at how to understand those parts, move toward a more secure life from the inside out, and find what it takes to feel secure from the inside out. What You'll Learn in This Episode: Why we're the most psychologically informed generation ever and still feel so alone, and how information becomes actual transformation The three parts of you running the show: the Controller, the Shadow, and the Young One, and how to tell which one is driving Why shame and self-condemnation never create lasting change, and the one thing that does A gentle, practical process for uncovering what's underneath a habit you keep wishing you could stop How to hear from the youngest version of yourself, and why she holds your creativity and courage What it means that you're not the single parent of your own soul Timestamps: (00:42) – Why the most psychologically informed generation still feels so alone (01:20) – When head knowledge never becomes transformation (02:22) – The London prayer walk: getting curious instead of forcing (06:42) – The three parts of you: the Controller, the Shadow, and the Young One (10:01) – Running the whole operation and quietly resenting it (11:55) – The observing eye, agency, and bids for connection (14:12) – Why the Shadow gets wrongly cast as the villain (15:43) – A gentle process for uncovering what drives a habit you want to change (19:05) – How to hear from the youngest version of yourself (23:36) – Uncertainty, guilt, and the entrepreneurial woman (24:26) – The extra child inside you (28:04) – Mending a tear in your soul: rupture, repair, and the "if only" (32:57) – What a secure soul looks like on an ordinary day (34:04) – You are not the single parent of your soul (35:40) – Fun questions: The Artist's Way, movies, and a product she swears by Links to great things we discussed: The Secure Soul Alison’s Quiz Alison’s Book Recommendation: The Artist's Way Alison’s Movie Recommendation: Minions & Monsters & Survivor Alison’s Product Recommendation: HelloFresh Function Health Uplift App Join me on Substack: Wise Woman Method Alli on YouTube I hope you loved this episode! 🎉Don’t forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you never miss a thing. And guess what? We're on YouTube! If you're loving the content, show us some love by leaving a review and giving us some stars. It means the world to me! Take care, and stay fabulous! xo, Alli