How Married Are You?
Glen & Yvette Henry
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In this episode, we read an email from a listener who loves her boyfriend but doesn’t feel like his first choice. We talk insecurity vs. truth, attraction, healing from past relationships, and how to discern if you’re being chosen or just convenient.
Plus, Chocolate Baby Storytime with a family rap session, camping trip confessions, and updates on Premarital Advantage, Father Yourself First, and the Saturday men’s group for Black men.
✨ What You’ll Hear
When “I’ve got a wandering eye” is actually a confession
The difference between normal attraction and shopping for better options
Why journaling your story brings clarity
Feeling chosen vs. feeling like a backup plan
How past trauma shapes dating patterns
Why inexperience can actually be a dating superpower
Choosing your “hard” while still protecting your heart
📚 Resources & Links
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👉 Father Yourself First https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555
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🎧 Listen to Glen read Father Yourself First wherever audiobooks are available.
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Premarital Advantage:
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Dating to Marry – “The List” (FREE):
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Saturday Men’s Group (Black men, 7 a.m. PT)
Join the Father Meet-Up on Zoom https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81971875325?pwd=cY3k96A8j1b0WMLPHF5ym0bNSNaRdj.1
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💬 Join the Conversation
Have you ever felt like someone’s option instead of their choice? What brought you clarity? Drop it in the comments.
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A listener writes in about the woman he loves—smart, beautiful, and ready for marriage… except she believes a man should pay for everything while she saves her own money “for security.” She says a woman shouldn’t spend on an able-bodied man. He calls it an escape route. Now he’s wondering: is this financial boundary a red flag or just her way of protecting herself after trauma?
We talk:
💬 “You can’t build a marriage while keeping one foot out the door.” — Glen breaks down why financial distrust is often emotional distrust in disguise.
💰 How “wife allowance” culture and social media talking points are warping partnership into transaction.
❤️ The difference between protecting yourself and refusing to be a team.
🧱 Why unhealed trauma around money can become the foundation of your marriage — and eventually its fault line.
🙏🏾 Yvette shares how witnessing her own mother’s financial vulnerability shaped her drive for independence—and how healthy transparency healed that fear in marriage.
Would you marry someone who refuses to combine money with you? 🤔
Episode 267 of How Married Are You? is live—tap in and share your thoughts!
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What do you do when you catch your husband on the Ring camera talking about another woman… and realize the fairytale you’ve built together might’ve never been real? 💔
This week’s listener letter, “Broken Pieces,” comes from a wife and mother of four who discovered her husband’s long-term emotional affair—one that started years ago and only came to light by accident. Now, even after counseling, her trust is shattered and she’s asking: do I keep fighting for this marriage, or is it time to let go?
We talk:
💬 Why emotional affairs can be just as devastating as physical ones—and why men often underestimate their impact.
💔 Yvette on what it really takes to rebuild trust after betrayal and why healing can’t be rushed to “get back to normal.”
🧠 Glen breaks down why many husbands confuse regret with repentance—and the work required to earn back safety.
⚖️ How couples therapy can stall if both people aren’t equally honest about the damage done.
🙏🏾 The hard truth: forgiveness and reconciliation aren’t the same thing—and you can choose one without the other.
Have you ever stayed after discovering something you could never unhear? Episode 266 of How Married Are You? is live—tap in.