How Married Are You?

This episode dives into one major listener question: Are we unequally yoked? A 31-year-old Christian single mom writes in, deeply in love and preparing for engagement — but scared that her Protestant faith and her partner’s Eastern Orthodox roots might create cracks later. We unpack theology vs. lifestyle, how beliefs show up in everyday routines, and what unity actually looks like when two people worship differently but love Jesus fully.We also share a joyful, chaotic Chocolate Baby Storytime from a commercial shoot involving $15k cameras, water balloons, and children who absolutely refused to listen 😂. And… BIG NEWS: Yvette is officially an author! We talk through her new 30-day devotional Release, Rest, Remain: A 30-Day Devotional to Embrace Abiding Over Striving and why this rhythm has helped her heal, surrender, and stay grounded.Plus, a vulnerable update from our “4th baby mama” listener and a needed reminder that shame from strangers online is not your inheritance.This one is heartfelt, thoughtful, funny, and full of real clarity for anyone navigating faith, family, and long-term commitment.✨ What You’ll HearChocolate Baby Storytime: commercial-set chaos, kids, cameras, and water balloonsYvette’s new 30-day devotional & the story behind Release, Rest, Remain: A 30-Day Devotional to Embrace Abiding Over StrivingIs this relationship truly unequally yoked? Breaking down Protestant vs. Eastern OrthodoxTheology differences vs. lifestyle differences — what actually impacts a homeThe “4th baby mama” follow-up + why the internet’s shame has no authority over you📚 Resources & LinksOrder Yvette’s Devotional:👉 Release, Rest, Remain: A 30-Day Devotional to Embrace Abiding Over Striving: https://a.co/d/4ATlBWOFather Yourself First (Glen’s Book):👉 https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555🎧 Audiobook:Glen narrates the full audiobook wherever audiobooks are sold.📍 Follow @beleafmel for tour dates, signings & updateshttps://www.instagram.com/beleafmel💍 Premarital Advantage (PMA):Tools for dating, engaged, or rebuilding coupleshttps://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2🖤 Saturday Men’s Group (Black men | 7 a.m. PT):Join the Father Meet-Uphttps://us02web.zoom.us/j/81971875325?pwd=cY3k96A8j1b0WMLPHF5ym0bNSNaRdj.1🌿 Patreon Community:Longer episodes + behind-the-scenes + mentorship tierswww.patreon.com/HMAY💬 Join the ConversationHave you ever dated someone from a different church tradition?What helped you find unity — or clarity that it wasn’t the right fit?Drop your story below. Your insight might guide someone today.❤️ If This Helped YouLike, subscribe, and share with someone navigating faith differences, parenting, or big relationship decisions.

This episode centers on two powerful listener emails — one from a man afraid his insecurity is destroying a healthy relationship, and another from a woman untangling herself from a four-year situationship filled with hidden children, heartbreak, miscarriages, and blurred co-parenting lines.We talk honestly about trust, emotional safety, soul-ties, red flags, and why some relationships can’t be prayed into health.Around the emails, we also share a hilarious family moment involving an accidental birds-and-bees talk at dinner, and a quick update on the book tour and Patreon goals.This one is vulnerable, grounded, and full of clarity for anyone trying to love better and choose wiser.✨ What You’ll HearHow insecurity dims your partner’s lightTaking thoughts captive vs. letting fear run the relationshipWhy “she’s too friendly” might be about you, not herWhat emotional safety looks like in datingA jaw-dropping story about hidden kids, lies, and postpartum abandonmentWhy F-boy patterns repeat — and how to break yoursThe truth about co-parenting with someone who won’t commitHow to protect your heart while still raising your child wellCommunity updates + how your support keeps the show going📚 Resources & LinksOrder the book:👉 Father Yourself Firsthttps://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555Audiobook:🎧 Glen narrates the full audiobook wherever audiobooks are sold.Tour dates & signings:📍 Follow @beleafmel for ATL, LA, NYC + morehttps://www.instagram.com/beleafmelPremarital Advantage (PMA):💍 Tools for dating, engaged, or healing singleshttps://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2Saturday Men’s Group (Black men | 7 a.m. PT):Join the Father Meet-Uphttps://us02web.zoom.us/j/81971875325?pwd=cY3k96A8j1b0WMLPHF5ym0bNSNaRdj.1Patreon Community:🌿 Longer episodes + ad-free + behind-the-sceneswww.patreon.com/HMAY💬 Join the ConversationWhat was the moment you realized a relationship wasn’t safe for your heart?Drop it below — your wisdom might free somebody.❤️ If This Helped YouLike, subscribe, and share with someone navigating trust, blended families, or heartbreak healing.

In this episode, we read an email from a listener who loves her boyfriend but doesn’t feel like his first choice. We talk insecurity vs. truth, attraction, healing from past relationships, and how to discern if you’re being chosen or just convenient. Plus, Chocolate Baby Storytime with a family rap session, camping trip confessions, and updates on Premarital Advantage, Father Yourself First, and the Saturday men’s group for Black men. ✨ What You’ll Hear When “I’ve got a wandering eye” is actually a confession The difference between normal attraction and shopping for better options Why journaling your story brings clarity Feeling chosen vs. feeling like a backup plan How past trauma shapes dating patterns Why inexperience can actually be a dating superpower Choosing your “hard” while still protecting your heart 📚 Resources & Links Order the book: 👉 Father Yourself First https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555 Audiobook: 🎧 Listen to Glen read Father Yourself First wherever audiobooks are available. Tour dates & signings: 📍 Follow @beleafmel https://www.instagram.com/beleafmel Premarital Advantage: 💍 Worksheets & guidance for dating, engaged, or newlywed couples https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2 Dating to Marry – “The List” (FREE): 📝 Available on the homepage https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.com Saturday Men’s Group (Black men, 7 a.m. PT) Join the Father Meet-Up on Zoom https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81971875325?pwd=cY3k96A8j1b0WMLPHF5ym0bNSNaRdj.1 Patreon Community: 🌿 Bonus convos & behind-the-scenes https://www.patreon.com/HMAY 💬 Join the ConversationHave you ever felt like someone’s option instead of their choice? What brought you clarity? Drop it in the comments. ❤️ If This Helped You Like, subscribe, and share with a friend navigating faith, dating, and emotional honesty.

We’re talking to a solo mom who wrote in real honest: should she try again with her son’s dad? We unpack trust after hurt, how healing changes what you want, and why “for the baby” is not a dating strategy. We keep it tender, tell the truth, and give some practical next steps. Plus, Chocolate Baby Storytime, cleanse life, and Lily the dog leaving sticky-note reminders like a tiny furry manager.This one is warm, real, and rooted in wisdom. Pull up a chair.✨ What You’ll Hear • Naming hurt without living in it • Signs of real change vs wishful thinking • Co-parenting well even if romance is paused • Why a no-dating season can be a reset for your soul • What a rebuild plan should include if you try again • A marriage quote that reframes starting over with the same person • Community updates, Patreon goals, and how to get plugged in📚 Resources & LinksOrder the book:👉 Father Yourself Firsthttps://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555Audiobook:🎧 Listen to Glen read Father Yourself First wherever audiobooks are available.Tour dates & signings:📍 Follow @beleafmel for ATL, NYC, LA and morehttps://www.instagram.com/beleafmelPremarital Advantage:💍 Questions and worksheets for dating, engaged, and newlywedshttps://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2Saturday Men’s Group (Black men, 7 a.m. PT)Join the Father Meet-Up on Zoomhttps://us02web.zoom.us/j/81971875325?pwd=cY3k96A8j1b0WMLPHF5ym0bNSNaRdj.1Patreon Community:🌿 Bonus convos and behind-the-sceneswww.patreon.com/HMAYhttps://www.patreon.com/HMAY💬 Join the ConversationWhat boundary or practice helped you heal after a breakup? Drop it in the comments. Somebody needs your wisdom.❤️ If This Helped YouLike, subscribe, and share with a friend who is navigating co-parenting, faith, and second chances.

She wrote in heartbroken: six months in, different faith practices, sex after planning to wait, and an “I love you” he stopped saying. Then her dad talked to the boyfriend who admitted he didn’t plan to marry her and wanted to “see what else is out there.” We respond with care and clarity: nothing was wasted, learn the lesson, forgive, and choose wisely next time.We also talk sibling dynamics at home, privileged kids and holiday expectations, Glen’s new book release, and practical ways to discern alignment before you get too far in.✨ What You’ll Hear💭 “Nothing was wasted” reframed: hurt, anger, embarrassment, and self-compassion💬 Saying “I love you” too soon vs living it with actions🙏🏾 Dating with different faith practices and holiday habits❤️ Why alignment on core values matters before marriage🧠 Premarital questions that save time, money, and heartbreak📖 Father Yourself First book release and tour👥 Community for Black men who need a safe place to land📚 Resources & LinksOrder the book:👉 Father Yourself Firsthttps://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555Audiobook:🎧 Listen to Glen read Father Yourself First wherever audiobooks are available.Tour dates & signings:📍 Check Glen’s Instagram for ATL, NYC, LA + more — @beleafmelhttps://www.instagram.com/beleafmelPremarital Advantage:💍 Questions and worksheets for dating, engaged, and newlyweds.https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2Saturday Men’s Group (Black men, 7 a.m. PT):Join the Father Meet-Up on Zoom 👇🏾https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81971875325?pwd=cY3k96A8j1b0WMLPHF5ym0bNSNaRdj.1Patreon Community:🌿 Access bonus convos and behind-the-scenes content — www.patreon.com/HMAYhttps://www.patreon.com/HMAY💬 Join the ConversationWhat is one lesson you learned from a relationship that didn’t work out? Drop it in the comments below.❤️ If This Helped YouLike the video, subscribe, and share it with someone who needs wise counsel on dating, faith, and commitment.