<description>&lt;p class="font-claude-response-body"&gt;You walk out of a rehearsal replaying every mistake. You sit down to practice and the voice in your head says, &lt;em&gt;it should be better by now.&lt;/em&gt; You open Instagram and somehow everyone else seems more confident, more established, further along. This episode is for that moment. Renée shares a short, honest pep talk for musicians navigating doubt and the uncomfortable gap between where they are and where they wish they were.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="font-claude-response-body"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;What you'll take away:&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="whitespace-normal" style= "margin-left: .5in; text-indent: -.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in;"&gt; &lt;!-- [if !supportLists]--&gt;&lt;span style= "font-size: 10.0pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol;"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-list: Ignore;"&gt;·&lt;span style="font: 7.0pt 'Times New Roman';"&gt;        &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt; &lt;!--[endif]--&gt;Why accepting where you are is not the same as giving up and how that distinction changes everything about how you move forward&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="whitespace-normal" style= "margin-left: .5in; text-indent: -.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in;"&gt; &lt;!-- [if !supportLists]--&gt;&lt;span style= "font-size: 10.0pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol;"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-list: Ignore;"&gt;·&lt;span style="font: 7.0pt 'Times New Roman';"&gt;        &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt; &lt;!--[endif]--&gt;The arrival fallacy: why telling yourself "I'll feel better when I reach that level" is a trap that keeps postponing your peace indefinitely&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="whitespace-normal" style= "margin-left: .5in; text-indent: -.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in;"&gt; &lt;!-- [if !supportLists]--&gt;&lt;span style= "font-size: 10.0pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol;"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-list: Ignore;"&gt;·&lt;span style="font: 7.0pt 'Times New Roman';"&gt;        &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt; &lt;!--[endif]--&gt;A simple gratitude practice for when doubt shows up mid-practice not as a feel-good exercise, but as a way to literally retrain your brain's attention&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="whitespace-normal" style= "margin-left: .5in; text-indent: -.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in;"&gt; &lt;!-- [if !supportLists]--&gt;&lt;span style= "font-size: 10.0pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol;"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-list: Ignore;"&gt;·&lt;span style="font: 7.0pt 'Times New Roman';"&gt;        &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt; &lt;!--[endif]--&gt;How to receive difficult feelings without sinking into them, using the same returning-to-breath logic you already know from practice&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="whitespace-normal" style= "margin-left: .5in; text-indent: -.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in;"&gt; &lt;!-- [if !supportLists]--&gt;&lt;span style= "font-size: 10.0pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol;"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-list: Ignore;"&gt;·&lt;span style="font: 7.0pt 'Times New Roman';"&gt;        &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt; &lt;!--[endif]--&gt;Why the doubts will come back even after a good day and why that means nothing is broken&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="whitespace-normal" style= "margin-left: .5in; text-indent: -.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in;"&gt; &lt;!-- [if !supportLists]--&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;span style= "font-size: 10.0pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; font-style: normal;"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-list: Ignore;"&gt;·&lt;span style="font: 7.0pt 'Times New Roman';"&gt;        &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/em&gt; &lt;!--[endif]--&gt;The one question worth asking yourself when your mind starts to spiral: &lt;em&gt;what will I do with this next precious minute?&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="whitespace-normal" style="margin-left: .5in;"&gt; &lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: center;" align="center"&gt; &lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style= "font-family: 'Aptos',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman';"&gt; If you're ready to step on stage with confidence, perform at your best, and finally feel secure in your playing, let's talk! 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The Mind Over Finger Podcast

Dr. Renée-Paule Gauthier

253 Your Pep Talk for When Things Feel Heavy - A reminder for musicians navigating comparison, doubt, and the ups and downs of growth

MAR 13, 202622 MIN
The Mind Over Finger Podcast

253 Your Pep Talk for When Things Feel Heavy - A reminder for musicians navigating comparison, doubt, and the ups and downs of growth

MAR 13, 202622 MIN

Description

You walk out of a rehearsal replaying every mistake. You sit down to practice and the voice in your head says, it should be better by now. You open Instagram and somehow everyone else seems more confident, more established, further along. This episode is for that moment. Renée shares a short, honest pep talk for musicians navigating doubt and the uncomfortable gap between where they are and where they wish they were. What you'll take away: · Why accepting where you are is not the same as giving up and how that distinction changes everything about how you move forward · The arrival fallacy: why telling yourself "I'll feel better when I reach that level" is a trap that keeps postponing your peace indefinitely · A simple gratitude practice for when doubt shows up mid-practice not as a feel-good exercise, but as a way to literally retrain your brain's attention · How to receive difficult feelings without sinking into them, using the same returning-to-breath logic you already know from practice · Why the doubts will come back even after a good day and why that means nothing is broken · The one question worth asking yourself when your mind starts to spiral: what will I do with this next precious minute? If you're ready to step on stage with confidence, perform at your best, and finally feel secure in your playing, let's talk! Book a free discovery call and let's create a plan to get you there. Are you ready to take your playing and career to the next level and create a life that feels purposeful and joyful? Let's connect and explore how personalized coaching can support your journey. Click here to schedule your free consultation, and let's start turning your goals into reality. Book your FREE Music Mastery Experience Discovery call with Renée HERE Book your free consultation with Renée HERE Download the transcript from this episode HERE Mind Over Finger Click www.mindoverfinger.com/coaching to book your free consultation with me. Visit MindOverFinger.com for my online courses as well as free resources on peak performance. Grab my free workshops and PDF downloads by going to www.mindoverfinger.com/resources. Connect: https://www.youtube.com/@MindOverFinger https://www.facebook.com/mindoverfinger/ https://www.facebook.com/groups/mindoverfinger https://www.instagram.com/mindoverfinger/ THANK YOU: Most sincere thank you to composer Jim Stephenson who graciously provided the show's musical theme: Concerto #1 for Trumpet and Chamber Orchestra – Movement 2: Allegro con Brio, performed by Jeffrey Work, trumpet, and the Lake Forest Symphony, conducted by Jim Stephenson.