The Art Of Coaching

In this episode, Brett breaks down why so many driven people feel behind, overwhelmed, or like they’re never doing enough — even when they’re already working hard, carrying responsibility, and trying to do things the right way. He talks about how easy it is to get pulled into the performative bullshit people post online, start comparing your real life to someone else’s curated season, and let your attention get hijacked by things that have nothing to do with your actual priorities. This episode is not about lowering your standards or giving yourself an excuse to coast. It’s about getting honest about what matters most right now, protecting your attention, killing the noise, and making sure your energy is going toward the things that can actually move your life, business, relationships, health, or purpose forward. Brett walks through seven practical reminders for getting back on track when you feel overloaded: 1.⁠ ⁠Audit your inputs2.⁠ ⁠Stop turning other people’s seasons into your standards3.⁠ ⁠Find the real needle mover4.⁠ ⁠Create more selfish moments5.⁠ ⁠Kill more low-value obligations6.⁠ ⁠Lower the scope without lowering the standard7.⁠ ⁠Get back into your own life If you’ve been overthinking, comparing, carrying too many open loops, or feeling like everyone else has it more figured out than you do, this episode is a direct reminder to return to your own priorities and stop letting everything act like it deserves equal access to you.   What You’ll Learn:   •⁠ ⁠ How to filter what deserves your attention •⁠ ⁠ How to shield yourself from distracting noise •⁠ ⁠ Tips for creating stronger boundaries •⁠ ⁠ Why more selfish moments are a good thing   ____________________     Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

In this episode, Brett breaks down some of the most common mistakes speakers and presenters make—and why those mistakes usually have nothing to do with intelligence or expertise. Most people don’t struggle because they’re unprepared or because they don’t know their material. They struggle because communication is more nuanced than that. Human attention is limited. Interpretation is messy. And if your message isn’t clear, structured, and relevant, even good ideas get lost. Brett walks through practical ways to distill your message, flesh out your core concept without rambling, and avoid the kinds of mistakes that make audiences tune out. He also shares several exercises to help you stop overthinking, get clearer on what you actually want to say, and communicate in a way that better connects with the people in front of you—whether you’re speaking to athletes, executives, students, clients, or a general audience. You’ll also hear how many speakers unintentionally self-sabotage through overexplaining, trying to say too much, or assuming that because something makes sense in their head, it’ll automatically land with others. If you want to become a more effective speaker, presenter, coach, or communicator—this episode gives you practical tools you can use right away. For more on this—and to actually practice these skills with real-time coaching and feedback—join us for Art of Coaching Speaker School on May 16–17 in Phoenix, Arizona. Go to artofcoaching.com/speaker for details.   What You’ll Learn:   •⁠  ⁠How to distill your message so you can actually connect with your audience •⁠ ⁠ How to flesh out your idea so you feel like you got your knowledge across •⁠ ⁠ Exercises to help you stop overthinking and get more clarity •⁠ ⁠ How to avoid self-sabotaging when you speak or present   ____________________     Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

It’s one of the most common ways that intelligent, thoughtful people can end up sending mixed signals and unintentionally cause misunderstandings.  And the irony is that the people who do it most often are usually the ones who care a great deal about being thorough, guiding others, teaching, and not being misunderstood.  In this episode, Brett breaks down the root causes of over-explaining and offers advice on how to both curb it and leverage it when it’s actually appropriate.  Most importantly, you’re going to get strategies that can help you in the workplace, when presenting to others, or simply to help you clarify and simplify your own thoughts so your credibility is never undermined.   What You’ll Learn   • The most common causes of over-explaining so you can recognize it in yourself   • Tactics you can use both proactively and retroactively — in the moment and after the fact   • Circumstances where over-explaining can actually help you, and how to know the difference   • Strategies for distilling your message so it lands the first time   ____________________     Follow Us:   Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

In this episode, Brett fulfills the request of a listener who asked him to go through some of his biggest gold nuggets — some of the one-liners, some of the distilled raw material that has mattered and inspired him the most over the years. Whether that had to do with communication, power dynamics, self-awareness — all the things he’s learned in those kinds of contexts — that’s what you’re going to get in this episode. Brett lists off some of the quotes and one-liners he loves most, that he constantly goes back to, and gives some context around why they still hold up. If you enjoyed this episode or those like it, you’re going to love Brett’s next book. Go to artofcoaching.com/book to preorder your copy of The Antihero Advantage — Brett’s latest work with Portfolio/Penguin Random House.   What You’ll Learn:   ∙ Why certain people rationalize their behavior even when it goes against their own values   ∙ The flaw most people make when trying to get lasting buy-in   ∙ How perception influences credibility and expertise — and what to do about it   ∙ Why doubling down on who you are is your biggest competitive advantage   ____________________     Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

We’ve all had somebody in our life we genuinely wanted to help — but couldn’t seem to get through to. Maybe they’re going through a rough season. Maybe they seem shut down. Maybe they’re stuck in a pattern they can’t see. Sometimes that person’s been us. This episode digs into what’s actually happening when someone won’t let you in, why logic almost never changes behavior, and what to do instead. We cover why most people default to the wrong influence tactics when they’re trying to reach someone, what people are really protecting when they put up walls, and how comparison — even when it comes from a good place — can make the problem worse. If you’ve ever said “they’re just not motivated” about someone you care about, this one’s going to reframe that for you.   “If you or someone you know is struggling with depression or thoughts of suicide, please seek professional help. You can reach the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline anytime by calling or texting 988.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​“   What You’ll Learn:   ∙ Strategies for breaking through when someone seems despondent or completely shut down   ∙ What to check yourself on when you catch yourself problem-solving instead of connecting   ∙ ⁠The one influence strategy you’re probably relying on too much — and why it’s making things worse   ____________________     Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb