The Art Of Coaching

Ever notice someone’s withdrawn, quiet, or clearly bothered—but when you ask “what’s wrong?” they shut down even more? You’re not alone. Most people approach these moments with good intentions but terrible execution, and it backfires every time.   In this episode, Brett breaks down why the classic “what’s wrong?” or “are you okay?” almost never works—and what to do instead. You’ll learn how to frame your approach so people actually feel safe opening up, rather than defensive or interrogated.   What You’ll Learn:   ∙ Why asking “what’s wrong?” triggers defensiveness and makes people clam up   ∙ The psychological principle behind why people withdraw when confronted directly   ∙ How to lead with intent so your concern lands as care, not criticism   ∙ Specific language frameworks to use with a spouse, colleague, or team member who seems off   ____________________     Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

In this episode, I give a real-time update on a few things I’ve been working on and thinking through lately — including the Non-Superficial Bullshit Conference, progress on my next book, and some hard-earned reminders for anyone building something of their own. I get a bit passionate in this one so be ready! More than anything, it’s a grounded conversation for people who are in the middle of it — business owners, leaders, parents, and anyone betting on themselves and trying not to crash and burn in the process. We touch on topics that are relatable for any coach, teacher, leader, entrepreneur and anyone else who puts skin in the game. Please send to a friend and kindly consider giving us a 5-star review in Spotify, Apple Music or wherever you get your podcasts.   ____________________     Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:     •  The strategies I've used when I went through some really rough times over the past five years     •  The critical business questions every entrepreneur needs to ask themselves if they want to protect their blindspots     •  An overview of what my next book is about and what you can expect from it     ____________________       Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

Let’s just say it: some of you are losing time, sleep, and opportunities because you’re afraid to speak up. Not because you don’t know what you want to say — but because you’re scared of saying it wrong. So you sit on it. You rehearse the conversation 20 times in your head. You rework the email draft. You “wait for the right time.” But the truth is, you’re not waiting for the right time — you’re avoiding the discomfort of being misunderstood, disagreed with, or making things awkward. This episode is for the person who’s tired of overthinking every sentence.Tired of holding it in, sugarcoating things, or walking away thinking, I should’ve said something. We’re not going to “boost your confidence.”We’re going to dismantle the lie that if you just say it the right way, conflict will magically disappear. I’ll walk you through where this fear actually comes from, what it costs you over time, and how to build real reps in communication that actually works — even if it’s messy, uncomfortable, or imperfect.   ____________________   Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:   •The real reason you’re scared to say the wrong thing   •What to say when someone gets frustrated so you don’t shut down or spiral   •How to stop overthinking every email, post, or tough conversation     ____________________       Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

Most people have a bunch of notes, voice memos, and half-baked thoughts scattered across their phone, laptop, or random legal pads. They tell themselves, “One day I’ll organize this…” but that day rarely comes. In this episode, I break down a skill that’s helped me think more clearly, communicate more effectively, and actually build the stuff I kept talking about. The tips in this episode will help you stress test your ideas, sharpen your thinking, and turn loose thoughts into something useful—whether that’s a resource for your staff, a framework for your clients, or just a clearer head.   ____________________   Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:   • A simple skill that helps you unload mental clutter and finally do something with all the knowledge and experience you’ve been sitting on   • How to better document what you’ve learned and structure it in a way so the people you lead—or help—can actually benefit from what you know   • Tips that helped me write my previous best-selling book and my upcoming one   ____________________     Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

This is a short, personal episode about a few things I’m intentionally doing more of in 2025—not because they sound impressive or productive, but because they’ve genuinely made my life calmer, healthier, and more grounded.   Rather than focusing on goals or systems, I talk through a handful of changes that have come from experience, reflection, and paying attention to what actually drains me versus what gives something back.   I share why I’m continuing to make my circle smaller without becoming closed off or cynical, why I’m done feeling uncomfortable asking for support, how I’m trying to be more mindful of how my excitement lands with different people, and why I’m working on not giving away my power just because I’m comfortable with conflict or ambiguity.   This episode isn’t about cutting people off or becoming harder. It’s about becoming more honest with myself—and more intentional with my time, energy, and relationships.   My hope is that as you listen, you reflect on where you might need to make similar adjustments in your own life.   What You’ll Learn in This Episode   •How I’m continuing to make my circle smaller without becoming closed off — and the criteria I use to decide which relationships are worth maintaining   •What helped me stop feeling guilty about asking for support (especially for big projects like my book) and how to ask in a way that doesn’t feel weird or needy   •How I’m getting better at reading how my excitement lands with different people so I don’t come on too strong when I don’t mean to   •How I’m working on not giving away power through over-accommodation — giving benefit of the doubt, deferring too much, and being “too nice” longer than someone’s earned   ⸻   Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb