Why is it such a crime to label perspectives and responses to cheating as the emotional reactions they often are? This episode is not about condoning, justifying or encouraging cheating; we can all agree that to be decided and betrayed is wrong and painful. Now, to cut a long story short, are you unhappy and/or are you possessive? Can you work past it or is your ego too bruised? I wonder…Anyways, the focal point is to loosely consider if this new age obsession with the topic of cheating is rooted in fear and insecurity? Is it really about discipline and integrity or power and control? Also, do people understand that you’re not asking the right questions, being manipulated or deceived (which are fundamental components of cheating) you aren’t actually being cheated on? Oh…and why, why does no one talk about “attention” being the currency most women use to cheat? Is there a cheating spectrum or do men and woman basically cheat according to their their design? Also, I didn’t say on the episode but, chances are, if a person lacks integrity and discipline it shows in other parts of their expression and more often than not we either don’t look hard enough or ignore such flags because we don’t consider that we could be subject to experiencing the given red flags personally AND, whilst we are hear let’s stop pretending that when it comes to relationships most people don’t cut their nose to spite their face because they do. Another day we can talk and compare who has more heart us, or our seniors but today, if anything, “men with happy wives and stable homes are at luxury to cheat” seen as women get their egos stroked everyday with attention. A theory? 

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October. Seventh

Naomi Mbelu

Dear Diary: Cheating…in context?

SEP 2, 202330 MIN
October. Seventh

Dear Diary: Cheating…in context?

SEP 2, 202330 MIN

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Why is it such a crime to label perspectives and responses to cheating as the emotional reactions they often are? This episode is not about condoning, justifying or encouraging cheating; we can all agree that to be decided and betrayed is wrong and painful. Now, to cut a long story short, are you unhappy and/or are you possessive? Can you work past it or is your ego too bruised? I wonder…Anyways, the focal point is to loosely consider if this new age obsession with the topic of cheating is rooted in fear and insecurity? Is it really about discipline and integrity or power and control? Also, do people understand that you’re not asking the right questions, being manipulated or deceived (which are fundamental components of cheating) you aren’t actually being cheated on? Oh…and why, why does no one talk about “attention” being the currency most women use to cheat? Is there a cheating spectrum or do men and woman basically cheat according to their their design? Also, I didn’t say on the episode but, chances are, if a person lacks integrity and discipline it shows in other parts of their expression and more often than not we either don’t look hard enough or ignore such flags because we don’t consider that we could be subject to experiencing the given red flags personally AND, whilst we are hear let’s stop pretending that when it comes to relationships most people don’t cut their nose to spite their face because they do. Another day we can talk and compare who has more heart us, or our seniors but today, if anything, “men with happy wives and stable homes are at luxury to cheat” seen as women get their egos stroked everyday with attention. A theory? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/pretty-girl-problems/message