The Christian Mindset Coach with Alicia Michelle

Is it possible to stop people pleasing when you have spent your entire life seeking approval from others? If you were raised in chaos and dysfunction, you probably spent your childhood years searching for connection and security in your life - and have now carried this pattern with you. Author Courtney Burg and I discuss helpful strategies for people pleasers, the impact of staying tethered to our family of origin, and how to build God-centered confidence. 

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN:

[03:13] Where Does The Pattern of People Pleasing Come From?

[08:44] Implementing Healthy Confrontation Instead of Gossip

[11:48] Are You Wrapped Up in The Narrative of What it Means to be Caring, Hardworking, and Loyal?

[15:40] We Aren’t Meant to Stay Unhealthily Tethered to Our Family of Origin

[19:43] “There's A Lot of Freedom When We Unhook From Being Each Other's Messiah”

[21:35] How Did Jesus Manage The Line of Pleasing God versus Not Pleasing Man?

[26:42] Ways We Can Start to Work Through People Pleasing 

[32:02] Alicia’s Reflections: Can We Implement God-Centered Confidence and Move Forward With Change in Our People Pleasing Patterns?

RESOURCES:

Have you ever found yourself pushing past the point of exhaustion even though you are completely overwhelmed and tired? So many of us are experiencing burnout and mental exhaustion yet we feel as if something is wrong with us for needing rest or we are scared of slowing down. Today I am joined by Jess Connolly, author of “Tired of Being Tired”, to talk about the importance of giving things over to God, ways that we can implement rest into our lives, and self-care for women (which goes much deeper than quick fixes). 

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN:

[03:27] “Receive God's Realistic Rest for Your Soul-Deep Exhaustion”

[07:58] We Need to Be Renewed by God Before Realistic Rest Can Work

[11:51] Equating Our Spiritual Worth in How Much We Can Do - Pushing Past The Point of Exhaustion 

[19:59] Giving Things Over to God - Practicing for Heaven

[23:11] You Aren’t Broken If You Can’t Carry The Weight of The World or Handle The Pace of Our Culture

[27:01] It’s Scary to Slow Down and Rest - Rest Takes Courage and Bravery

[30:19] What Are Some Real Ways That We Can Make This a First Step of Change? 

[34:51] Alicia’s Reflections: Where in Our Lives Do We Need Rest in This Season?

RESOURCES:

Do you find yourself staying in your comfort zone because of anxious thoughts and fear of the future? I have seen so many women wanting to move toward what God has called them to do but have not learned how to move with fear. Join business coach and best-selling author Jennifer Allwood and I as we share about moving forward despite fearful thoughts, including how courage and confidence build as we work through fear (not vice versa).

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN:

[03:27] We Must Choose to Work Through Fear Instead of Run from Fear

[08:10] We Have Been Trained to Not Trust Ourselves 

[11:39] If We Pay Too Much Attention to Our Feelings, They Will Always Steer Us in The Wrong Direction

[15:27] “Confidence is a Crock of Crap”

[25:54] “You Cannot Ask God to Show You What He Wants You to Do If You've Been Ignoring What He's Been Whispering in Your Ear for Years”

[35:58] Alicia’s Reflections: Am I Letting Fear Get In The Way of What God Has Planned For Me?

RESOURCES:

We often hear about the fear of failure but there are so many more types of fear such as the fear of success that play a role in holding us back from our dreams. Listen in as I share Bible stories about fear, why it is important to face fear rather than run from it, and a few personal stories around how I am navigating my fear of success. 

Have you ever thought about how developing different character traits could make your current life transition easier? The traits we have ingrained in us are automatic responses, which can save us time and energy. Join me today as I talk about four different character traits with practical examples of how they can help us, why we need to be mindful of our thoughts, and how we can develop new character traits.