Intentional Living with Tanya Hale

Learning how to stay in your own lane can be tricky because so often what we see as being helpful and kind and of service, is actually getting in someone else's lane. In this podcast we're going to look at over 30 examples of what it looks like to get in other peoples' lanes to help us understand more clearly how tricky it can be and become more aware of and see our own tendencies to stray from our own lane. Thanks for listening! Want to learn more about this concept? Check out these podcasts: #38 Love is Minding Your Own Business on Apple on Spotify #99 Parenting Adult Children on Apple on Spotify #118 100% Responsibility on Apple on Spotify #153 The Manual on Apple on Spotify #164 How Being in Control is Destroying Your Life on Apple on Spotify #180 Better Relationships With Our Adult Children on Apple on Spotify #191 Why We Seek to Control Others on Apple on Spotify #223 It Really Is All About You on Apple on Spotify #236 None of Your Business on Apple on Spotify #239 How to Own Your Own on Apple on Spotify #257 Other People's Agency on Apple on Spotify #277 Your Spouse Is Not Your Responsibility on Apple on Spotify #304 Personalities, Preferences, and Perspectives on Apple on Spotify #390 You Can't Fill Their Bucket on Apple on Spotify Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion. You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in one-on-one coaching and a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

In this episode we explore the idea of staying in your own lane—taking responsibility for your own feelings, choices, and boundaries rather than trying to control or fix others. Though it can be easy to want to be 'helpful', when we invade others' responsibilities we risk creating resentment and undermining intimacy. So let's talk about some practical strategies to stop overstepping, set clear boundaries, and communicate from your own experience. Healthier relationships grow when partners honor each other's agency and do their own internal work, so let's practice staying in your own lane to build trust, autonomy, and deeper connection. Thanks for listening! Want to learn more about this concept? Check out these podcasts: #38 Love is Minding Your Own Business on Apple on Spotify #99 Parenting Adult Children on Apple on Spotify #118 100% Responsibility on Apple on Spotify #153 The Manual on Apple on Spotify #164 How Being in Control is Destroying Your Life on Apple on Spotify #180 Better Relationships With Our Adult Children on Apple on Spotify #191 Why We Seek to Control Others on Apple on Spotify #223 It Really Is All About You on Apple on Spotify #236 None of Your Business on Apple on Spotify #257 Other People's Agency on Apple on Spotify #277 Your Spouse Is Not Your Responsibility on Apple on Spotify #304 Personalities, Preferences, and Perspectives on Apple on Spotify #390 You Can't Fill Their Bucket on Apple on Spotify Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion. You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

We all get triggered, it's part of being a human with an imperfect past. That's not the problem. The problem can be figuring out what to do when these moments of being triggered start harming our relationships and breaking down our own self-worth. Learning how to respond to our triggers in healthy ways and address the underlying reasons for the triggers is the work we're discussing here today. Thanks for listening! Want to learn more about this concept? Check out these podcasts: #118 100% Responsibility on Apple on Spotify #126 Abdicating Our Emotional Responsibility on Apple on Spotify #130 Exploring Our Darkness on Apple on Spotify #136 How Coaching Helps on Apple on Spotify #139 Being a Martyr on Apple on Spotify #140 Still Being a Martyr on Apple on Spotify #152 Victim or Hero? on Apple on Spotify #188 A Safe Space For Awareness on Apple on Spotify #211 Why We Do This Work on Apple on Spotify #235 The Beautiful Mess on Apple on Spotify #242 Circling Back Around on Apple on Spotify #272 Stay In Your Lane on Apple on Spotify #327 Learning to Love Your Human Self on Apple on Spotify #346 How to Stop Reacting and Start Responding on Apple on Spotify Here are the triggering questions I used in the podcast: · What situations tend to bring out intense emotional responses from me? · Do these situations include specific themes, memories, or experiences? · What emotions do I feel most often when I feel triggered? · Has there been a pattern for what has upset me most throughout the course of my relationships? · What happens when I get triggered? · What do you notice? · What might the people around me notice? · What helps me feel more grounded after a trigger has occurred? · What happens when I see my loved one experiencing a trigger? · What helps us feel connected again after the trigger has occurred? Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion. You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in one-on-one coaching and a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

Research shows that the quality of our lives is dependent on the quality of our relationships. I have learned a lot over the past seven years of coaching clients on difficult relationships and in divorce situations, and today I'm sharing with you my top ten tips for having a better, more fulfilling relationship. They're simple, and yet so many of us overlook these tools. Let's get to work implementing them, shall we? Thanks for listening! Want to learn more about this concept? Check out these podcasts: #392 Vulnerability and Validation on Apple on Spotify #193 No Back-Burner Issues on Apple on Spotify #218 Honest Relationships on Apple on Spotify #309 What an Equal Relationship Looks Like on Apple on Spotify #272 Stay In Your Lane on Apple on Spotify #257 Other People's Agency on Apple on Spotify #342 What Does Vulnerability Look Like? On Apple on Spotify #298 Friendship in Marriage on Apple on Spotify #239 How to Own Your Own on Apple on Spotify #319 Get Ready to Rock The Boat on Apple on Spotify Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion. You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

Sione and I have been married four years. That seems like such a short time, and yet, I can hardly remember life without him in it. We have had so much to learn about ourselves and about each other and about our relationship, and as always, all of those are constantly evolving. In this podcast Sione joins me in talking about some of the big ah-ha's we have had this last year and how our relationship has shifted and grown. Thanks for listening! Want to learn more about this concept? Check out these podcasts: #193 No Back-Burner Issues on Apple on Spotify #216 One Up and One Down Relationships on Apple on Spotify #228 Our Relationship Rules on Apple on Spotify #239 How to Own Your Own on Apple on Spotify #240 Passive-Aggressive Behavior on Apple on Spotify #241 Forgiving Others on Apple on Spotify #242 Circling Back Around on Apple on Spotify #243 Having More Honest Communication on Apple on Spotify #248 Lessons From The First Year of Our Second Marriage on Apple on Spotify #300 Lessons Learned From The Second Year of Our Second Marriage on Apple on Spotify #304 Personalities, Preferences, and Perspectives on Apple on Spotify #326 Stop Being Right, Start Being Safe on Apple on Spotify #342 What Does Vulnerability Look Like? On Apple on Spotify #343 Greatest Hits - Why Vulnerability Matters on Apple on Spotify #344 Are You a Safe Place For Vulnerability on Apple on Spotify #352 Lessons Learned in Our Third Year of Marriage on Apple on Spotify Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion. You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/