<a target="_blank" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/260160/open_sms">Send us a text</a>In this episode, we explore anchors and anchoring, a simple to complex process in NLP designed to change our moods and states. Discussed are the different types of anchors, stimulus-response, how anchors work, the importance of anchors, the use of kinesthetic anchors for change, and where to start. Included is an example of a collapsed reality: adding a resource to a problem experience.<a rel="payment" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/260160/support">Support the show</a>

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Send us a text In this episode, we explore anchors and anchoring, a simple to complex process in NLP designed to change our moods and states. Discussed are the different types of anchors, stimulus-response, how anchors work, the importance of anchors, the use of kinesthetic anchors for change, and where to start. Included is an example of a collapsed reality: adding a resource to a problem experience. Support the show 

EP # 91 Anchor Away! Everything about Anchors

<a target="_blank" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/260160/open_sms">Send us a text</a>It seems you can lead the horse to water and it will drink!  You need patience! Patience is what is necessary to influence and persuade: taking people&apos;s maps into new territories.Matching, pacing, and leading are foundational concepts in NLP, crucial for establishing rapport, understanding another person’s model of the world, and guiding them towards desired outcomes. It’s an important part of many NLP methods and processes, and can often be the key skill to making those processes effective. It’s also a very effective stand-alone tool for enhancing our own communication ability. BUT most people think of the mechanics of MPL, rather than MPL as an art.MPL is a critical and basic skill that communication is based on. No one is going anywhere if you aren&apos;t good at matching and pacing.Key Points:·       Matching, Pacing, and Leading work together·       If you lead too quickly or too strongly, you can lose rapport and will need to reestablish it through matching and pacing.·       You can match, pace, and lead someone in a brief interaction or over a series of longer interactions.·       You can apply these concepts with your friends and family, work relationships, sales interactions, consulting work, presentations, coaching, therapy, etc.·       Doing this successfully can reduce resistance to new ideas and perspectives, increase choice, and help us and others get what we want more easily.The podcast also describes an exercise to help strengthen your skills. <a rel="payment" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/260160/support">Support the show</a>

<description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;a target="_blank" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/260160/open_sms"&gt;Send us a text&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;It seems you can lead the horse to water and it will drink!  You need patience! Patience is what is necessary to influence and persuade: taking people&amp;apos;s maps into new territories.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Matching, pacing, and leading are foundational concepts in NLP, crucial for establishing rapport, understanding another person’s model of the world, and guiding them towards desired outcomes. It’s an important part of many NLP methods and processes, and can often be the key skill to making those processes effective. It’s also a very effective stand-alone tool for enhancing our own communication ability. BUT most people think of the mechanics of MPL, rather than MPL as an art.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;MPL is a critical and basic skill that communication is based on. No one is going anywhere if you aren&amp;apos;t good at matching and pacing.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;Key Points:&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;·       Matching, Pacing, and Leading work together&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;·       If you lead too quickly or too strongly, you can lose rapport and will need to reestablish it through matching and pacing.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;·       You can match, pace, and lead someone in a brief interaction or over a series of longer interactions.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;·       You can apply these concepts with your friends and family, work relationships, sales interactions, consulting work, presentations, coaching, therapy, etc.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;·       Doing this successfully can reduce resistance to new ideas and perspectives, increase choice, and help us and others get what we want more easily.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;The podcast also describes an exercise to help strengthen your skills. &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a rel="payment" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/260160/support"&gt;Support the show&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description>

Send us a text It seems you can lead the horse to water and it will drink!  You need patience! Patience is what is necessary to influence and persuade: taking people's maps into new territories. Matching, pacing, and leading are foundational concepts in NLP, crucial for establishing rapport, understanding another person’s model of the world, and guiding them towards desired outcomes. It’s an important part of many NLP methods and processes, and can often be the key skill to making those ...

EP #90 The Dance of Communication: A deep dive into Matching, Pacing, and Leading

<a target="_blank" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/260160/open_sms">Send us a text</a>Many people find that as they move through life that they have to shift gears…a new job, a new career, family, divorce, move. Many people are looking for that “new path” when they study NLP. As we prepare for these shifts, a great way to start is to develop a set of presuppositions and guiding questions to steer the change. This will ensure that the change will stay in place. This is the step before any planning or goal setting, or even belief changes.This episode is a 5-step process to help you develop these presuppositions and guiding questions. <a rel="payment" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/260160/support">Support the show</a>

<description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;a target="_blank" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/260160/open_sms"&gt;Send us a text&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Many people find that as they move through life that they have to shift gears…a new job, a new career, family, divorce, move. Many people are looking for that “new path” when they study NLP.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt; As we prepare for these shifts, a great way to start is to develop a set of presuppositions and guiding questions to steer the change. This will ensure that the change will stay in place. This is the step before any planning or goal setting, or even belief changes.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;This episode is a 5-step process to help you develop these presuppositions and guiding questions.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a rel="payment" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/260160/support"&gt;Support the show&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description>

Send us a text Many people find that as they move through life that they have to shift gears…a new job, a new career, family, divorce, move. Many people are looking for that “new path” when they study NLP.  As we prepare for these shifts, a great way to start is to develop a set of presuppositions and guiding questions to steer the change. This will ensure that the change will stay in place. This is the step before any planning or goal setting, or even belief changes. This episode is a 5...

EP #89 Guiding Change and Shifting Gears

<a target="_blank" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/260160/open_sms">Send us a text</a>NLP for Emotional RegulationWhat is Emotional Intelligence?Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is the capacity to recognize, understand, and navigate your emotions and those of others. It includes Self-Awareness, Emotional Regulation, Motivation, Empathy, and Social Skills.What is Emotional Regulation?Emotional Regulation (ER) is a component of EQ  strategies for managing their intensity and expression and intentionally creating emotional states you want. ER skills give you greater choice over your emotional experience.NLP provides a variety of simple, effective, and unique methods and strategies for achieving this.Why is ER Important?ER is important because so much of our human experience involves our emotional states. Having the right emotional state for a situation can help us perform better. NLP Methods for Regulating EmotionsLearning NLP4-TupleAnchoring Submodality Changes Swish Patterns Break State- pattern interrupt Meta ModelModeling: sit up straight, smile, look up.ReframingActing as if – one of the foundational pillars of NLPPleasant Emotional StatesIntentionally experiencing and amplifying states such as:-            Gratitude-            Appreciation-            Peace-            Confidence-            Curiosity: Having access to pleasant/resourceful states can help us maintain physical and emotional health and energize us during difficult situations or periods in our lives.         <a rel="payment" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/260160/support">Support the show</a>

<description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;a target="_blank" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/260160/open_sms"&gt;Send us a text&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;NLP for Emotional Regulation&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;What is Emotional Intelligence?&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is the capacity to recognize, understand, and navigate your emotions and those of others. It includes Self-Awareness, Emotional Regulation, Motivation, Empathy, and Social Skills.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;What is Emotional Regulation?&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Emotional Regulation (ER) is a component of EQ  strategies for managing their intensity and expression and intentionally creating emotional states you want. ER skills give you greater choice over your emotional experience.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;NLP provides a variety of simple, effective, and unique methods and strategies for achieving this.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;Why is ER Important?&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;ER is important because so much of our human experience involves our emotional states. Having the right emotional state for a situation can help us perform better. &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;NLP Methods for Regulating Emotions&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Learning NLP&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;4-Tuple&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Anchoring&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt; Submodality Changes&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt; Swish Patterns&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt; Break State- pattern interrupt&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt; Meta Model&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Modeling: sit up straight, smile, look up.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Reframing&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Acting as if – one of the foundational pillars of NLP&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;Pleasant Emotional States&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Intentionally experiencing and amplifying states such as:&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;-            Gratitude&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;-            Appreciation&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;-            Peace&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;-            Confidence&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;-            Curiosity: &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Having access to pleasant/resourceful states can help us maintain physical and emotional health and energize us during difficult situations or periods in our lives.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a rel="payment" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/260160/support"&gt;Support the show&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description>

Send us a text NLP for Emotional Regulation What is Emotional Intelligence? Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is the capacity to recognize, understand, and navigate your emotions and those of others. It includes Self-Awareness, Emotional Regulation, Motivation, Empathy, and Social Skills. What is Emotional Regulation? Emotional Regulation (ER) is a component of EQ  strategies for managing their intensity and expression and intentionally creating emotional states you want. ER skills give you gr...

EP #88 NLP for Emotional Intelligence and Emotional Regulation

<a target="_blank" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/260160/open_sms">Send us a text</a>The Not-So-Subtle Art of ComplainingMost of us complain, but is it good or bad? What makes it productive or toxic?Overview of what will be covered: <ul><li> Common language patterns of complaining</li><li>The benefits and downsides of complaining</li><li>How to shift from chronic complaining </li></ul> The Language of Complaints This was discovered by using AI to analyze posts on a social media platform that contained complaints. We then used the NLP Meta Model pattern to refine the search and find the 8 most common language patterns in complaints. Four of the most common patterns fit into the Meta Model, and AI discovered four patterns that are unique to complaining.Discuss the top 8 common language patterns of complaining​:<ul><li> Negative Personal Attribution (e.g., “He’s rude,” “They’re such idiots.”) Lost Evaluator or Lost Performative</li><li> Absolute Overgeneralization – Never, Always, Nothing, etc. (“They never listen”) Universal Quantifier </li><li>Modal Operators – Can’t, Should, Need to (“She should know better.”) </li><li>Cause/Effect Statements (“Because they lied, I’m mad,” “He’s late again, so it’s pointless now.”)</li><li>Rhetorical Venting Questions - Why and How (“Why are people so annoying?”)</li><li>Hyperbolic Adverbs – Totally, Absolutely, Completely (“This is totally unfair”)</li><li>“Keeps” Phrases - (“She keeps yelling.”  “This keeps happening.”)</li><li>Sarcasm - “Thanks/Good Job” (“Oh, great job!”)</li></ul> Recognizing these patterns can help us avoid chronic complaining, lessen its negative impact on ourselves, or better understand how to deal with people who complain to us.The Positive Side of Complaining <ul><li>Exploring how complaining can be beneficial​:</li><li>One of the NLP presuppositions is “All behavior is useful in some context.”  When does complaining serve a useful purpose? </li></ul>The Dark Side of Complaining Strategies to Overcome Chronic Complaining in Ourselves Key Takeaways:<ul><li>Complaining isn’t inherently bad—it depends on the purpose and frequency.</li><li>Recognizing language patterns can help us become more mindful of our complaints.</li><li>Finding balance is key - venting is okay, but chronic negativity is damaging.</li><li>Practical ways to shift from unhelpful complaining to productive problem-solving.</li></ul> <a rel="payment" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/260160/support">Support the show</a>

<description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;a target="_blank" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/260160/open_sms"&gt;Send us a text&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;The Not-So-Subtle Art of Complaining&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Most of us complain, but is it good or bad? What makes it productive or toxic?&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Overview of what will be covered: &lt;/p&gt;&lt;ul&gt;&lt;li&gt; Common language patterns of complaining&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;The benefits and downsides of complaining&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;How to shift from chronic complaining &lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;p&gt; &lt;b&gt;The Language of Complaints &lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;This was discovered by using AI to analyze posts on a social media platform that contained complaints. We then used the NLP Meta Model pattern to refine the search and find the 8 most common language patterns in complaints. Four of the most common patterns fit into the Meta Model, and AI discovered four patterns that are unique to complaining.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Discuss the &lt;b&gt;top 8 common language patterns of complaining&lt;/b&gt;​:&lt;/p&gt;&lt;ul&gt;&lt;li&gt; Negative Personal Attribution (e.g., “He’s rude,” “They’re such idiots.”) Lost Evaluator or Lost Performative&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt; Absolute Overgeneralization – Never, Always, Nothing, etc. (“They never listen”) &lt;b&gt;Universal Quantifier&lt;/b&gt; &lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;&lt;b&gt;Modal Operators&lt;/b&gt; – Can’t, Should, Need to (“She should know better.”) &lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;&lt;b&gt;Cause/Effect Statements&lt;/b&gt; (“Because they lied, I’m mad,” “He’s late again, so it’s pointless now.”)&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;&lt;b&gt;Rhetorical Venting Questions &lt;/b&gt;- Why and How (“Why are people so annoying?”)&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;&lt;b&gt;Hyperbolic Adverbs&lt;/b&gt; – Totally, Absolutely, Completely (“This is totally unfair”)&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;&lt;b&gt;“Keeps” Phrases&lt;/b&gt; - (“She keeps yelling.”  “This keeps happening.”)&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;&lt;b&gt;Sarcasm&lt;/b&gt; - “Thanks/Good Job” (“Oh, great job!”)&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;p&gt; Recognizing these patterns can help us avoid chronic complaining, lessen its negative impact on ourselves, or better understand how to deal with people who complain to us.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;The Positive Side of Complaining &lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;ul&gt;&lt;li&gt;Exploring how complaining can be beneficial​:&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;One of the NLP presuppositions is “All behavior is useful in some context.”  When does complaining serve a useful purpose? &lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;The Dark Side of Complaining &lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;Strategies to Overcome Chronic Complaining in Ourselves &lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;Key Takeaways:&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;ul&gt;&lt;li&gt;Complaining isn’t inherently bad—it depends on the purpose and frequency.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Recognizing language patterns can help us become more mindful of our complaints.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Finding balance is key - venting is okay, but chronic negativity is damaging.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Practical ways to shift from unhelpful complaining to productive problem-solving.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;p&gt; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a rel="payment" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/260160/support"&gt;Support the show&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description>

Send us a text The Not-So-Subtle Art of Complaining Most of us complain, but is it good or bad? What makes it productive or toxic? Overview of what will be covered:   Common language patterns of complainingThe benefits and downsides of complainingHow to shift from chronic complaining  The Language of Complaints  This was discovered by using AI to analyze posts on a social media platform that contained complaints. We then used the NLP Meta Model pattern to refine the s...

EP #87 The Not-So-Subtle Art of Complaining

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