Why We're Lonelier Than Ever (And How to Actually Fix It) with Dr. Marisa G. Franco
In this episode, I sit down with psychologist, author, and friendship expert, Dr. Marisa G. Franco, to unpack why we've been taught to prioritize romance over friendship and what it actually takes to build deep, lasting connections at any age. We talk about how attachment styles show up in our friendships & why the "loneliness epidemic" started way before smartphones. We also dive into self-worth: why compliments can sometimes backfire on people with low self-esteem, how "implicit memories" shape our triggers without us even knowing it, and the tools we can use for healing old wounds. Key Takeaway / Points: What is actually making us lonely as a society How attachment styles show up in friendship (not just romance) Male vs. female loneliness: the crisis of intimacy in men's friendships How friendship is a skill that you need to keep practicing in adulthood The role self-worth plays in building connections What implicit memories are and how they quietly drive your triggers How memory reconsolidation, somatic work, and psychedelics can literally change the emotional charge of old memories Why the goal isn't to have a "secure" attachment, but rather "secure-ish" Order a copy of Dr. Marisa G. Franco’s books: Platonic: How The Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment Listen to these episodes that dive into attachment styles: You Can’t Be A Perfect Parent: Mother/Child Attachment Styles and More with Dr. Jaclyn Nofech-Mozes You Can’t Be A Perfect Parent Part II: Maternal Mental Health with Dr. Jaclyn Nofech-Mozes Visit Quiet Your Mind to shop Quiet Your Mind x WTF Is Happening To My Body edition. Follow Dr. Marisa: Instagram: @drmarisagfranco Substack: Attached Website: drmarisagfranco.com Follow me: Instagram: @cameronoaksrogers Substack: Fill Your Cup Website: cameronoaksrogers.com TikTok: @cameronoaksrogers YouTube: Cameron Rogers