<description>&lt;p id="docs-internal-guid-45bf1336-7fff-c6a9-7f61-a49ef55a6724" dir="ltr" style= "line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"&gt; &lt;span style= "font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"&gt; Once you have grasp of the DEAR MAN skill, you might find yourself getting stuck when you try to use it in difficult interactions. Maybe the other person pushes back, tries to change the subject, or refuses to engage fairly.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr" style= "line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"&gt;  &lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr" style= "line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"&gt; &lt;span style= "font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"&gt; While we can't force anyone to do anything, we can continue to use our skills to stay as effective as possible during heated moments.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr" style= "line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"&gt;  &lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr" style= "line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"&gt; &lt;span style= "font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"&gt; For full show notes, visit our website:&lt;/span&gt; &lt;a href= "https://bayareadbtcc.com/podcast"&gt;&lt;span style= "text-decoration: none;"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #1155cc; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: underline; -webkit-text-decoration-skip: none; text-decoration-skip-ink: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"&gt; https://bayareadbtcc.com/podcast&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;h2 id="docs-internal-guid-43943931-7fff-4437-594a-8d048942a98d" dir="ltr" style= "line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 18pt; margin-bottom: 6pt;"&gt; &lt;span style= "font-size: 16pt; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"&gt; DBT Skills Discussed&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/h2&gt; &lt;ul style= "margin-top: 0; margin-bottom: 0; padding-inline-start: 48px;"&gt; &lt;li dir="ltr" style= "list-style-type: disc; font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;" aria-level="1"&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr" style= "line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;" role= "presentation"&gt;&lt;a style="text-decoration: none;" href= "https://bayareadbtcc.com/05-using-the-dearman-framework-to-say-no/"&gt; &lt;span style= "font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; color: #1155cc; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: underline; -webkit-text-decoration-skip: none; text-decoration-skip-ink: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"&gt; DEAR MAN&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;/li&gt; &lt;li dir="ltr" style= "list-style-type: disc; font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;" aria-level="1"&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr" style= "line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;" role= "presentation"&gt;&lt;a style="text-decoration: none;" href= "https://bayareadbtcc.com/09-introduction-to-distress-tolerance-the-stop-skill/"&gt; &lt;span style= "font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; color: #1155cc; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: underline; -webkit-text-decoration-skip: none; text-decoration-skip-ink: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"&gt; Introduction to Distress Tolerance &amp; the STOP skill&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;/li&gt; &lt;li dir="ltr" style= "list-style-type: disc; font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;" aria-level="1"&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr" style= "line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;" role= "presentation"&gt;&lt;a style="text-decoration: none;" href= "https://bayareadbtcc.com/03-the-what-skills-of-mindfulness/"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; color: #1155cc; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: underline; -webkit-text-decoration-skip: none; text-decoration-skip-ink: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"&gt; The "What" Skills of Mindfulness&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;/li&gt; &lt;li dir="ltr" style= "list-style-type: disc; font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;" aria-level="1"&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr" style= "line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;" role= "presentation"&gt;&lt;a style="text-decoration: none;" href= "https://bayareadbtcc.com/04-the-how-skills-of-mindfulness/"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; color: #1155cc; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: underline; -webkit-text-decoration-skip: none; text-decoration-skip-ink: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"&gt; The "How" Skills of Mindfulness&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;/li&gt; &lt;/ul&gt; &lt;h2 dir="ltr" style= "line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 18pt; margin-bottom: 4pt;"&gt; &lt;span style= "font-size: 17pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"&gt; Ask us a Question&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/h2&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr" style= "line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 12pt; margin-bottom: 12pt;"&gt; &lt;span style= "font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"&gt; We'd love to hear from you! Where are you getting stuck with your skills application? Ask us a question for the chance to have it answered on the podcast. Submit your question&lt;/span&gt; &lt;a style= "text-decoration: none;" href= "https://bayareadbtcc.com/podcast-questions/"&gt;&lt;span style= "font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #1155cc; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: underline; -webkit-text-decoration-skip: none; text-decoration-skip-ink: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"&gt; here.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p dir="ltr" style= "line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 12pt; margin-bottom: 12pt;"&gt; &lt;span style= "font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"&gt; Please note that questions, and this podcast in general, are not a substitute for individual mental health treatment.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description>

The Skillful Podcast

Bay Area DBT & Couples Counseling Center

#58: Applying DEAR MAN in Difficult Interactions

NOV 29, 202333 MIN
The Skillful Podcast

#58: Applying DEAR MAN in Difficult Interactions

NOV 29, 202333 MIN

Description

Once you have grasp of the DEAR MAN skill, you might find yourself getting stuck when you try to use it in difficult interactions. Maybe the other person pushes back, tries to change the subject, or refuses to engage fairly. While we can't force anyone to do anything, we can continue to use our skills to stay as effective as possible during heated moments. For full show notes, visit our website: https://bayareadbtcc.com/podcast DBT Skills Discussed DEAR MAN Introduction to Distress Tolerance & the STOP skill The "What" Skills of Mindfulness The "How" Skills of Mindfulness Ask us a Question We'd love to hear from you! Where are you getting stuck with your skills application? Ask us a question for the chance to have it answered on the podcast. Submit your question here. Please note that questions, and this podcast in general, are not a substitute for individual mental health treatment.