00:00 A question comes in00:05 “I think my wife needs therapy, but it hurts her when I bring it up”00:24 A common trend: spouses diagnosing each other00:48 When you’re unhappy or angry, labels feel easier01:04 Real issues exist, but I’m not a doctor01:19 The better move: work on yourself01:50 See her goodness and her perspective02:10 Care more, listen more, help more02:25 Feel with her instead of getting angry02:46 When men change, “the diagnosis disappears”03:10 Hashem can heal, and doctors are for diagnosis and treatment03:59 Submit more questions + disclaimer
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A husband asked: “I know my wife needs therapy, but when I bring it up it hurts her. I feel stuck and I have to watch her suffer.”

In this episode, Rabbi Eisenberger explains a common pattern: when we feel hurt, angry, or unsafe, we sometimes jump to labels and diagnoses instead of working on the relationship.

This is not medical advice and not a diagnosis. If someone has a real mental or physical concern, they should speak to a licensed professional.

What you will learn:
• Why “diagnosing” your spouse often makes things worse
• The healthiest first move: work on yourself
• How to see her goodness and her perspective
• How to listen, feel with her, and stop running away
• How caring more can rebuild love and calm the home

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Stop Diagnosing Your Spouse: What Helps More Than Labels | Ep. #96

Stop Diagnosing Your Spouse: What Helps More Than Labels | Ep. #96

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