The Unshakeable Self

In This Episode: Sometimes the medicine we teach is the medicine we need most. Seryna records this episode on the road (with imperfect audio and a whole lot of F-bombs) to share a raw, real-time story about what happened when a stranger moved her bag on an airplane and she completely lost it. This isn't a polished lesson about boundaries—it's the messy truth about what happens when old conditioning takes over, when survival self strategies kick in, and when you realize you've self-abandoned in a moment you thought you were past that pattern. This episode is about fawning responses, righteous anger, the patterns we inherit about deferring to men, and why it's okay that you're not going to get it right 100% of the time—even when this is literally the work you do. What You'll Discover: The fawn response: What it looks like when you prioritize someone else's comfort over your own needs and why it feels automatic How perfectionism is a survival self strategy (and why Seryna recorded this episode on AirPods anyway) The deeper truth beneath anger: How rage often masks feelings of vulnerability, shame, and self-abandonment Why safety is at the core of people-pleasing patterns (and what happens when you lose control to old conditioning) How reduced capacity changes your ability to respond from your unshakeable self The importance of having strategies in place for environments that typically shake you Why the work you do to heal yourself is never wasted—even when you "mess up" How to give yourself grace when you revert to old patterns under stress Episode Highlights: 00:00 - Recording on the road: Pushing through perfectionism to get the message out 01:15 - The airport incident: A stranger moves her bag and everything spirals 03:42 - The freeze and fawn response: Deferring to someone with zero authority 05:20 - Righteous rage kicks in: When the flight attendant validates she was right all along 07:35 - The spiral continues: Hangry, delayed, and ready to fight in the airport 10:18 - Recognizing the pattern: This isn't really about the purse 12:40 - The deeper wound: Self-abandonment and conditioning around deferring to men 15:25 - Safety as a core value: How people-pleasing protects but also costs you 18:10 - What happens when survival self takes control (and why it's so maddening) 20:45 - The cost of self-abandonment: When it becomes your default setting again 23:00 - Strategies for staying grounded when capacity is reduced 25:15 - Anger as a mask: Revisiting the medicine from Sacred Anger 27:30 - The medicine is for you too: Why this work makes a difference in her own life 29:00 - You don't have to get it right 100% of the time—just a little better than yesterday About Self-Abandonment and the Fawn Response: We talk a lot about fight or flight, but we don't talk enough about fawn and freeze—the nervous system responses that prioritize safety through appeasement and people-pleasing. The fawn response is what happens when your body decides that going along, deferring, accommodating, or self-abandoning is the safest strategy in a moment of stress or threat. It's the "yes, of course" when you mean "absolutely not." It's the automatic prioritization of someone else's comfort over your own needs. And it's often rooted in deep conditioning about whose needs matter more. For many people raised as women, this conditioning runs especially deep. We're taught to be accommodating, to not take up too much space, to defer to male authority (even when that "authority" is just some random guy on an airplane who has no actual power). This isn't about blaming anyone—it's about recognizing how these patterns get wired into our nervous systems and continue to run the show long after we've done years of healing work. What makes it so deeply maddening is when you know better. When you've done the work, when you teach this work, when you have a podcast literally called The Unshakeable Self—and then some stranger moves your bag and you freeze. Y

Sometimes our unshakeable self asks us to pause the things we love to create space for something even more aligned. After six months away, Seryna returns to share the truth about what happened during her ”break” – opening a physical sanctuary, rediscovering the power of face-to-face connection, and learning that inspiration doesn’t always look like we think it should. This episode is about honouring the seasons of your work, recognizing when the survival self is running the show (even in our most sacred projects), and trusting that your path is unfolding exactly as it needs to. In this episode you’ll discover why the ”New Year, New You” energy might be keeping you stuck in old survival patterns, the survival self pattern of needing external validation to feel worthy, and why exhaustion and inspiration can coexist when you’re truly living your unshakeable truth.

What happens when the life you planned stops matching the truth you're being called to live? This honest and grounded reflection is a soul-level invitation to pause, reassess, and let yourself shift. Seryna shares what it looks like to surrender to a new direction, release timelines that no longer feel aligned, and stay rooted in radical self-honesty—even when it means letting go of goals you once held close. This is about honouring what’s real, not just what was written on a vision board in January. It’s a reminder that rest is not a reward, truth can evolve, and you are allowed to change your mind.   This Episode Is Perfect For You If... You feel disconnected from the goals you set earlier in the year You’re struggling with guilt around pivoting, pausing, or slowing down You’re learning to listen to your body instead of the pressure to push through You want to lead your life with clarity, not just commitment You’re ready to trade hustle for honesty and choose what lights you up   "Let's ask ourselves the questions about if the things that we are pursuing... are actually the things that we want to do, or if we need a little nudge and a little course correction.”   In This Episode (00:58) – Why mid-year check-ins matter more than goal setting (02:14) – The difference between giving up and telling the truth (03:37) – Updates on Seryna’s community space and what’s being reimagined (06:28) – Summer fatigue, nervous system needs, and collective grief (08:59) – The inner dialogue around rest, shame, and productivity (10:49) – Naming burnout and reclaiming presence (12:11) – When doing the work means pressing pause instead of pushing through (14:15) – Releasing what no longer fits and choosing congruence over commitment (20:34) – A soulful invitation to check in, realign, and lead yourself forward   "Congruence is such an ugly word and it is like the highest praise for me, because congruence is something that I am looking for, for myself as a standard—more than joy, more than happiness, more than success."   About The Unshakeable Self The Unshakeable Self is your guide to building unwavering confidence and authentic self-trust. In each episode, we explore practical strategies and powerful insights to help you break free from self-doubt, embrace your true potential, and create a life that aligns with your deepest values. Whether you're navigating career transitions, relationships, or personal growth, you'll find the tools and inspiration to stand firmly in your power.   Need a moment to check in with yourself before you charge ahead? Download the Mid-Year Check-In Workbook for journal prompts, an oracle spread, and a permission slip to shift what no longer fits. If you're craving deeper clarity and embodiment, The Unshakeable Immersion is here to support your next bold move.   Seryna Myers Instagram: @serynamyers  Tiktok: @serynamyers  YouTube: @serynamyers  Website: www.seryna.caApply to work with me: seryna.ca/apply   Support The Show Love The Unshakeable Self? Here's how you can help: Leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear it Screenshot while listening and tag us @serynamyers Music by Artem Hramushkin from Pixabay

Pride isn't always parades and glitter. Sometimes it’s quiet, complicated, and hard-earned. This heartfelt episode weaves together intimate mini-interviews with voices from the LGBTQ+ community across generations, backgrounds, and lived experience. Seryna creates a space that celebrates truth in its many forms—raw, tender, funny, and fierce—while honoring the complexity of queer identity and joy. From confronting shame to claiming space, each voice brings something real and necessary to the conversation. This isn’t just about rainbow flags and parades. It’s about authentic truth, chosen family, and the deeply personal, sometimes messy, journey of becoming.   This Episode Is Perfect For You If... You’ve ever struggled to love the parts of yourself that others tried to silence You’re queer, questioning, or curious about what pride looks like beyond June You’ve been conditioned to play small and are learning how to take up space You’re craving stories that center humanity, wholeness, and truth You want to be a better ally through listening, learning, and unlearning   "The thing I love the most about being trans is that I am a fully customized person. Everything about me is my decision." — Dana In This Episode (00:29) – Seryna reflects on how her queerness has shifted and why this year’s Pride felt different (03:00) – Our six guests share what home means within their identities and bodies (06:37) – The long, layered process of learning to love the parts we were taught to hide (12:00) – The truth about queer joy and why it often sits beside grief and resistance (14:29) – Rules broken, shame shed, and the bold decision to be fully seen (18:00) – What their younger selves would be proud of and how far they’ve come (21:35) – What each guest is claiming for themselves this Pride season (24:47) – Seryna’s reflections on othering, belonging, and why sharing our stories matters "Real love isn't about who's approving you. It's about being authentic. It's about being yourself and honoring who you really are." – Pasquale   About The Unshakeable Self The Unshakeable Self is your guide to building unwavering confidence and authentic self-trust. In each episode, we explore practical strategies and powerful insights to help you break free from self-doubt, embrace your true potential, and create a life that aligns with your deepest values. Whether you're navigating career transitions, relationships, or personal growth, you'll find the tools and inspiration to stand firmly in your power.   Your Next Step: The Unshakeable Self Starter Kit Ready to deepen your journey? The Unshakeable Self Starter Kit includes: Soul-stirring journal prompts A grounding ritual guide Mindfulness coloring pages DOWNLOAD YOURS TODAY If you’re ready to meet the parts of yourself that have been waiting to be seen, take the Survival Self Quiz and begin the journey back to your truth.   Seryna Myers Instagram: @serynamyers  Tiktok: @serynamyers  YouTube: @serynamyers  Website: www.seryna.caApply to work with me: seryna.ca/apply   Support The Show Love The Unshakeable Self? Here's how you can help: Leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear it Screenshot while listening and tag us @serynamyers   Music by Artem Hramushkin from Pixabay  

What if being unshakable isn’t about getting it right, but staying open when everything in you wants to shut down? This conversation is a raw reckoning with harm, heartbreak, and the tender moments where growth meets grief. Seryna walks us through the pain of knowing your truth landed hard on someone else, and the courage it takes to keep showing up anyway. This is about the messy middle. The wobble. The moments that ask you to hold your humanity with both hands and lead yourself back to center, without bypassing what’s real.   This Episode Is Perfect For You If... You’re navigating a rupture and wondering how to stay in your truth without causing more harm You’re doing the work to unlearn perfectionism in how you show up and lead You’ve been carrying guilt or shame about a conversation that didn’t go how you hoped You want to practice accountability and self-compassion at the same time You’re ready to embrace emotional discomfort as part of your healing and radical authenticity journey   "My truth hurts people. And from 10 years old until my mid to late 30s, it meant I swallowed a lot."   In This Episode (01:50) – What it looks like to speak your truth and hurt someone in the process (05:45) – Unpacking harm, identity, and the challenge of being misunderstood (09:20) – The survival self, public accountability, and the desire to be perfect (14:30) – The cost of silence, the ripple of unintentional harm, and the need to witness others' pain (21:10) – Therapy sessions, dual perspectives, and the messy middle of growth (27:15) – A childhood memory that shaped the fear of telling the truth (34:05) – What it means to hold yourself with compassion while still owning your impact (39:20) – Closing prayer and a reminder to stay human, awake, and open   "Feeling the fear, doing it anyway. Feeling the shame, doing it anyway. And doing it with an undefended heart."   About The Unshakeable Self The Unshakeable Self is your guide to building unwavering confidence and authentic self-trust. In each episode, we explore practical strategies and powerful insights to help you break free from self-doubt, embrace your true potential, and create a life that aligns with your deepest values. Whether you're navigating career transitions, relationships, or personal growth, you'll find the tools and inspiration to stand firmly in your power.   Your Next Step: The Unshakeable Self Starter Kit Ready to deepen your journey? The Unshakeable Self Starter Kit includes: Soul-stirring journal prompts A grounding ritual guide Mindfulness coloring pages DOWNLOAD YOURS TODAY   If you’ve ever stayed silent to keep the peace—or spiralled trying to say it perfectly—you’ve met your Survival Self. The Unshakeable Shift Workbook helps you name the pattern, break the cycle, and speak your truth without apology. Start with the quiz and the prompts that follow. Your Survival Self won’t like it—but your truth will.  https://seryna.ca/shift/   Gabor Mate interview on Piers Morgan - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ph9XF39yjgU   Seryna Myers Instagram: @serynamyers  Tiktok: @serynamyers  YouTube: @serynamyers  Website: www.seryna.caApply to work with me: seryna.ca/apply Support The Show Love The Unshakeable Self? Here's how you can help:   Leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear it Screenshot while listening and tag us @serynamyers Music by Artem Hramushkin from Pixabay