➡️ Get my free weekly newsletter (The Intentional Letter): https://courses.calwalters.me/signup Follow Jeff's work: https://www.jeffwetzler.com/ Dr. Jeff Wetzler, author of Ask, joins Cal Walters to unpack a leadership blind spot: the crucial information your team has… but isn't telling you. Jeff explains the "left-hand column" (what people think and feel but don't say), the four reasons honesty gets filtered, and the ASK Approach—a practical framework for choosing curiosity, building psychological safety, asking better questions, and closing the loop when feedback is hard to act on. If you want better decisions, healthier relationships, and fewer surprises, this conversation will give you a playbook. Episode Outline / Timestamps 00:00 The hidden information problem 00:41 Guest intro + what you'll learn 01:37 Chris Argyris + the "left-hand column" tool 08:07 Four reasons people don't tell you the truth 12:06 Why smart/successful leaders struggle to learn 13:55 Jeff's near miss: one question that revealed the truth 15:45 Psychological safety: why curiosity alone isn't enough 21:35 Reactivity: the biggest predictor of future honesty 22:18 Responding well to hard feedback 25:00 The ASK Approach: Choose curiosity 29:48 Curiosity killers + "When you're furious, get curious" 32:29 Busy leaders: "Pay now or pay later" 36:40 Quality questions vs. crummy questions 40:04 Better questions for feedback and performance reviews 44:07 Go-to questions for parties and relationships 47:48 Questions as a gift: helping others gain clarity 49:55 How to handle feedback you won't follow 51:08 Reflect & reconnect: sift it, turn it, and close the loop 53:13 Cal's takeaways and practical challenges Practical Challenges to Try This Week Replace: "Do you have feedback for me?" With: "What's one thing I could do differently that would make your life easier?" When you feel defensive, ask one question before making a statement. When someone brings hard truth, try: "That's hard to hear—and I'm really glad you told me."