Welcome to episode 248 where we explore how our brains impact our ability to set boundaries in the moment.

In this episode, we explore the impact of childhood coping mechanisms—fight, flight, freeze, and fawn—on adult boundary-setting behaviors. The limbic system, our emotional brain, often guides our immediate reactions in boundary-setting situations, stemming from survival strategies developed in childhood. These automatic responses can lead to patterns of behavior that might not always align with our best interests as adults.

 

However, by understanding these childhood coping mechanisms, we can begin to navigate boundary-setting with greater awareness and intentionality. Engaging our prefrontal cortex—the thinking brain—allows us to pause, reflect, and make conscious decisions about our boundaries. Through reflection, self-compassion, and aligning boundaries with our values, we can move away from automatic survival strategies and toward healthier, more assertive ways of setting boundaries.

 

Key Takeaways:

Pause and Reflect: When faced with a boundary-setting situation, take a moment to pause and breathe. This allows you to disengage from automatic reactions and engage your thinking brain for more intentional responses.

 Align with Values: Consider your values and well-being when setting boundaries. Aligning your boundaries with what matters most to you gives you clarity and purpose in your decisions.

 Practice Self-Compassion: Setting boundaries can be challenging, especially when breaking old patterns. Remember to be gentle with yourself and acknowledge that growth takes time. Self-compassion encourages learning and growth in your boundary-setting journey.

 

  

When you react with fear,

you're handing over power to others.

It's time to take back control

 and finally own your strength.

 

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