Atheists in Recovery

Welcome to today's show!

In today's episode, I talk about how to tell when your pain is protecting you by dialoguing with our emotions. And the pain that I will be referring to is guilt, shame, remorse, maybe judgment, self judgment caused by the inner critic.

1. What are the types of pain? The pain of guilt or shame, remorse or judgment caused by the inner critic.
2. Who is the Inner protector is and what is its purpose.
3. How to listen to the healing signals through writing (what can they be signifying or letting us know we need to pay attention to?)
4. I give a homework exercise: Prompts - to lead down the path to get to know these undesirable parts.

"Never let a good crisis go to waste." Winston Churchill

In today's episode, I list 3 ways to build your resilience in the face of pivotal events.

I announce a new project I'm excited about and invite you to join me on my new journey!

1. What types of events are pivotal (e.g. arrest, loss of a job, divorce/break up, big birthday, pandemic/languishing, loss, trauma, realization that I'm on the wrong path and life is passing me by).
2. How do these events impact us?
3. Understanding the Window of Tolerance.
4. What do we need at this time? What can you do with these pivotal events?

"You had someone to go places with. You had a date on national holidays!" -Marie, When Harry Met Sally, 1989

Welcome to today's show!

Loneliness is a feeling that I know a lot of us try and avoid. And the thing is, we've all felt lonely at different points in our life. So it's an important topic. I've described loneliness as an epidemic in previous shows (and so has the 19th Surgeon General of the U.S. Vivek Murthy). It's so prevalent and it's also so destructive mentally, and physically. So let's dive in.

WHAT WE'LL LEARN

1. What does society tell us about loneliness (hint: it's all wrong!)
2. The difference between loneliness and solitude.
3. What is healing, what is harmful, what must be lived through?
4. We can use loneliness for self-exploration
5. I give a few writing prompts to get us started on self-exploration through loneliness.

"Man is least himself when he talks in his own persona. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth."

-Oliver Wilde

Welcome to today's show!

In today's episode, I talk about the masks that do more harm than good. The masks we wear because we are afraid; we are afraid that it anyone see's how incompetent we are at our job, relationships, parenting, at anything we feel is part of our identity, the costs will be too great.

WHAT WE'LL LEARN

1. I talk about the top 3 masks: the social mask, the emotional mask, The "Who AM I" Mask.
2. I give you a challenge to about the masks you wear and commit to letting them slip off now and again.
3. What if fear didn't get in the way, who would you like to be? I suggest a writing prompt.

People who are resilient allow themselves to be changed by the experience of adversity. To be resilient is not to avoid difficulty but to play an active role in how difficulty transforms you. -Kelly McGonigal, PhD, health psychologist, Stanford University

Welcome to today's show!

I've found that if one can focus their attention on resilience in these trying times, it shows that they can handle almost anything-it's a learned capacity to cope!

Resilience is as important to our well-being as Josh allen is to the Buffalo Bills. :)

WHAT WE'LL LEARN

1. Skills and strategies of resilience are always trainable.
2. The core of resilience is flexibility.
3. Choosing how you respond to resilience is essential.