FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity or Betrayal

You’re not a monster because you cheated— you are a hurting human who never learned how to feel, name, and heal what’s going on inside. And understanding that and forgiving yourself is the key to rebuilding trust, whether you stay together or not. This episode is a love letter—and a challenge—to the betrayer. Whether you’re the one who cheated or you’re the partner trying to understand how the person you love could hurt you so deeply, this conversation pulls back the curtain on what’s really going on inside the betraying partner. Lora shares honest, vulnerable insights from walking beside her husband through his infidelity, exploring why most men genuinely don’t know why they cheated, how shame and unresolved boyhood wounds fuel destructive coping, and what it actually takes to become trustworthy again. You’ll learn how to move from “I’m a monster” to “I made a devastating mistake—and I’m willing to change,” so both of you can stop walking on eggshells and start moving toward clarity, accountability, and healing.   Top 3 Takeaways Why “I don’t know why I did it” is often true—just not the whole truth.Most betrayers genuinely don’t know the root cause of their cheating because they were never taught to identify or communicate their emotions. Until they can name what they’re feeling—rejection, shame, emasculation, grief—cheating will continue to be a maladaptive coping mechanism, not a “character flaw problem” to shame away. Your actions don’t define your core—but your accountability does.There’s a profound difference between being a cheater and having cheated. Lora breaks down how to step out of the “cheater” identity and back into integrity through nervous system regulation, consistent follow-through (“do what you say you’ll do”), and small, repeated acts of honor that show you’re becoming truly trustworthy again. Healing requires feeling it all—without fleeing, fixing, or deflecting.From the sticky note that said “Feel it all” to simple somatic practices like standing in your integrity, brushing off old attachments, and speaking from your gut instead of your head, you’ll learn concrete ways to sit with your own shame, regret, and pain and hold space for your partner’s rage and grief—without collapsing, defending, or running away.   👉 Book Your Private Session for Men, women, or couples HERE:  https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/men-s-session If this episode spoke to you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs hope on their healing journey. Your voice helps other women (and men) find the support they deserve.   Favorite Quotes “This isn’t about getting your wife to trust you again. It’s about becoming a man who is truly trustworthy—and honoring yourself enough to live that way.” “You’re not a monster—you’re a human in pain who chose a harmful coping mechanism. Now the question is: who do you want to be from here?”   Free FLAUNT! Holiday Reset & Book Club If this episode hit home, your next step is simple: Join Lora on December 1st for a free live FLAUNT! Book Club & Workshop — a Holiday Reset designed to move you from performance to presence in real time. You’ll: Work with practices from FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy & Spiritual Self Get tools to break your performance scripts and over-functioning habits Have space to decompress after Thanksgiving and prepare for the rest of the season in a different way Practice embodying presence so you can actually feel the joy you’re creating 👉 Sign up free: TheFlauntBook.com You don’t need to be “caught up” or have read the whole book. Just bring yourself, your copy, and a willingness to show up as you are.   🔗 Resources & Links 🌟 Free FLAUNT! Book Club + Workshop (Dec 1): TheFlauntBook.com 📘 FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy & Spiritual Self – available wherever books are sold 🧩 Free Betrayal Recovery Toolkit: BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com 🌐 Learn more about Lora’s coaching & prog

From Performance to Presence: The Holiday Shift That Brings Back the Magic (Especially After Betrayal)   What would it be like to actually feel the moment you’re working so hard to create? In this powerful pre-Thanksgiving episode, Lora gets real about the way so many women — especially those healing after betrayal — kill themselves trying to stage the “perfect” holiday, only to feel numb, resentful, or empty inside. From Hallmark-movie expectations to Norman Rockwell Thanksgivings, Lora unpacks how performance, perfectionism, control, and emotional over-functioning have been culturally trained into women… and how betrayal often ramps those patterns up even more. You’ll learn why performance is actually a nervous system survival response (fawn/fix), how it quietly steals your joy, and what it means to shift into deep, grounded presence — so you can finally experience the love, connection, and magic you’ve been trying to manufacture for everyone else. Just in time for the holidays, this episode is your invitation to stop chasing the moment… and start feeling it.   Top 3 Takeaways Performance is how we manage love when we no longer trust it.After betrayal and in dysfunctional family systems, performance becomes protection. We over-do, over-give, and over-function to cover our fear that love, safety, or support won’t be there. Performance is a nervous system response — presence is where the healing happens.Beyond fight/flight/freeze, Lora explains the “fourth F”: fawn/fix. That impulse to keep everyone happy, keep everything perfect, and pretend you’re fine is actually a trauma response that blocks creativity, intimacy, and joy. Your joy was never stolen by betrayal — it was stolen by the patterns you learned before it.Betrayal doesn’t destroy your joy; it uncovers the truth about all the ways you’ve been stealing it from yourself through scripts, shoulds, and chronic performance. Presence is how you get it back.   Favorite Quotes “The harder we try to create the perfect experience, the further we drift from actually feeling it.” “Performance is how we manage love when we no longer trust it.” “Presence is our soul’s way of being felt.” “Your joy has not been stolen by betrayal. Betrayal simply uncovers the truth about the behaviors that were stealing your joy long before.”   Free FLAUNT! Holiday Reset & Book Club If this episode hit home, your next step is simple: Join Lora on December 1st for a free live FLAUNT! Book Club & Workshop — a Holiday Reset designed to move you from performance to presence in real time. You’ll: Work with practices from FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy & Spiritual Self Get tools to break your performance scripts and over-functioning habits Have space to decompress after Thanksgiving and prepare for the rest of the season in a different way Practice embodying presence so you can actually feel the joy you’re creating 👉 Sign up free: TheFlauntBook.com You don’t need to be “caught up” or have read the whole book. Just bring yourself, your copy, and a willingness to show up as you are.   🔗 Resources & Links 🌟 Free FLAUNT! Book Club + Workshop (Dec 1): TheFlauntBook.com 📘 FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy & Spiritual Self – available wherever books are sold 🧩 Free Betrayal Recovery Toolkit: BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com 🌐 Learn more about Lora’s coaching & programs: LoraCheadle.com  

After betrayal, you’re left asking impossible questions: Was it an addiction? A choice? Can it change? This powerful conversation with sexologist and social worker Cheryl Camarillo brings clarity, compassion, and grounded hope. Together, Lora and Cheryl unpack how to tell the difference between sexual addiction and acting-out behavior, what integrity abuse really means, and why empathy—not shame—is the foundation for healing. You’ll learn how to assess whether reconciliation is truly possible, what real accountability looks like, and why safety, trust, and emotional regulation must come before intimacy. Whether you stay or go, this episode will help you understand the path forward so you can heal on every level—mind, body, and soul. Top 3 Takeaways Addiction vs. Acting Out: Understanding the root of your partner’s behavior determines the right kind of help and prevents further harm. Integrity Abuse & Entitlement: When promises and empathy break down, healing can’t begin until accountability replaces defensiveness. Safety Before Sex: Real intimacy rebuilds through empathy, co-regulation, and emotional safety—not through “hysterical bonding” or performance.   Favorite Quote “You don’t go back to who you were before betrayal — you become someone wiser, clearer, and more grounded in truth.”     Special Offers $97 Introductory Session – “Hope Rebuild Session”One hour, 1:1 on Zoom to locate your stage of healing and map your next right step.Book at: IntroductorySession.com Free FLAUNT!® Book Club + Workshop (Dec 1)Walk through the five steps of FLAUNT! to move from collapse to expansion—and rekindle hope.Register free: TheFlauntBook.com (buy the book wherever books are sold) Free Betrayal Recovery GuideYour step-by-step companion for healing after infidelity.Download: BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com   LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don’t just listen—start healing.   Download your FREE Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit and take back your power with clarity, confidence, and support that meets you where you are. ✅ Calm the chaos ✅ Rebuild self-trust ✅ Stop the spiral of second-guessing ✅ Reclaim your worth and your future 👉 Download Now ➜ www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com (MAKE THIS A BUTTON) You deserve more than survival. You deserve sovereignty, peace, and joy.   📚 Books By Lora 📚   International Book Award, Finalist Motivational Self-Help 2021• Tattered Cover Bestseller 2019 Are you tired of living a life dictated by others? If you've felt trapped by expectations and long o be free, FLAUNT! is the key to unlocking who you are, expressing yourself authentically, and choreographing your life your way. Reclaim yourself with this transformative guide that empowers you to strip away societal expectations and reveal your smart, sexy, and spiritual self. Through a unique blend of humor, wisdom, and actionable steps, you can uncover your deepest desires and build the confidence to live a life full of passion and purpose. Buy Now on Amazon, or wherever books are sold.   It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive, is the essential guide for burnout and betrayal relief. Packed with insight and practical tools, this book is a must-have for individuals, teams, and leaders alike.   Available on Amazon. Learn more at www.itsnotburnoutitsbetrayal.com     📌 Hashtags:#BetrayalRecovery #InfidelityHealing #BetrayalTrauma #SexAddiction #RebuildTrust #Empathy #IntegrityAbuse #NervousSystemHealing #SomaticRecovery #WomenHealing #RelationshipAddiction #LoraCheadle #FLAUNTPodcast  

Hope After Betrayal: Rebuilding When Everything You Believed In Falls Apart “We don’t always realize it, but one of the hardest parts of betrayal isn’t the lies or even the loss of love—it’s the shattering of hope.” — Lora Cheadle In this intimate episode, Lora reframes hope as the bridge between devastation and a life rebuilt—not toxic positivity or waiting for someone else to change, but grounded, embodied hope rooted in your choices, compassion, meaning, and connection. You’ll hear the four stages of hope after betrayal (from false hope to grounded hope), how to spot the difference between wishful thinking and true hope, and five practical ways to bring hope back online in your body and your life—no matter which path your relationship takes. Top 3 Takeaways Name the real injury: The deepest wound of betrayal isn’t just the loss of trust—it’s the death of hope. Feeling hopeless is a nervous-system protection, not a personal failure. True hope vs. toxic hope: Toxic hope waits for someone else to change; true hope trusts you to create peace, safety, and joy again—regardless of the outcome. From flicker to foundation: Rebuild hope through Connection, Choice, Compassion, Meaning/Faith, and Embodiment—small, consistent actions that restore agency and let your body feel hopeful again. Favorite Quote “The deepest wound of betrayal isn’t just the loss of trust—it’s the death of hope.”   Special Offers $97 Introductory Session – “Hope Rebuild Session”One hour, 1:1 on Zoom to locate your stage of healing and map your next right step.Book at: IntroductorySession.com Free FLAUNT!® Book Club + Workshop (Dec 1)Walk through the five steps of FLAUNT! to move from collapse to expansion—and rekindle hope.Register free: TheFlauntBook.com (buy the book wherever books are sold) Free Betrayal Recovery GuideYour step-by-step companion for healing after infidelity.Download: BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com   LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don’t just listen—start healing.   Download your FREE Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit and take back your power with clarity, confidence, and support that meets you where you are. ✅ Calm the chaos ✅ Rebuild self-trust ✅ Stop the spiral of second-guessing ✅ Reclaim your worth and your future 👉 Download Now ➜ www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com (MAKE THIS A BUTTON) You deserve more than survival. You deserve sovereignty, peace, and joy.   📚 Books By Lora 📚   International Book Award, Finalist Motivational Self-Help 2021• Tattered Cover Bestseller 2019 Are you tired of living a life dictated by others? If you've felt trapped by expectations and long o be free, FLAUNT! is the key to unlocking who you are, expressing yourself authentically, and choreographing your life your way. Reclaim yourself with this transformative guide that empowers you to strip away societal expectations and reveal your smart, sexy, and spiritual self. Through a unique blend of humor, wisdom, and actionable steps, you can uncover your deepest desires and build the confidence to live a life full of passion and purpose. Buy Now on Amazon, or wherever books are sold.   It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive, is the essential guide for burnout and betrayal relief. Packed with insight and practical tools, this book is a must-have for individuals, teams, and leaders alike.   Available on Amazon. Learn more at www.itsnotburnoutitsbetrayal.com     📌 Hashtags:#HopeAfterBetrayal #HopeAfterInfidelity #InfidelityRecovery #BetrayalHealing #HealingJourney #BetrayalTrauma #SomaticHealing #FLAUNTFramework #LoraCheadle