The Imperfects
Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg
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It’s time for Announcement Number Three! A brand-new Imperfects Live Show (!!!!!!).
That’s right, we’re going on the road again. In October, November, and December of this year (2025), we’ll be performing a brand-new stage show, around the country!
It’s gonna be bigger, it’s gonna be better, and we promise we won’t let Hugh (or Chat GPT) write the show. All responsibility will henceforth be given to Random Word Generator!
We would love and adore to see you there!
🎟️ Click here to get your tickets – https://bit.ly/3EHPYkj
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🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned
- Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8
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Psychologist Maria Ruberto is back to talk about one of the most important parts of our day: sleep.
Starting off with the biology of sleep, Maria takes us through how we get to sleep, what happens when we sleep, and why we desperately need to sleep for good health and longevity. With metaphors galore to make the science as relatable as possible, we discuss the role of melatonin, the impact of screens on our suprachiasmatic nucleus and whether it’s worth cutting your sleep short to exercise?
In more practical terms, Maria shares what sleep hygiene actually looks like, and, to Hugh and Josh’s relief, how hormones released during parenthood act to buffer against sleep deprivation.
So set your sleep alarms, get comfy, and tuck yourself in for a BIG episode!
Sweet dreams x
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🫖 Other Imperfect’s episodes mentioned in this episode:
- Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity - https://apple.co/4e2Io05
- Dr Emily - Social Anxiety, They’ve Got It Too - https://apple.co/3COk1pd
💻 Things to check out:
- Salutegenics Psychology - https://bit.ly/3WuhOFG
- Resilience First Aid - https://bit.ly/4dEYzQT
- Matt Walker’s Website - www.sleepdiplomat.com
- Matt Walker’s QQRT assessment - https://bit.ly/4b0ErbF
🎧 Things to listen to:
- Jerry Seinfeld - The Tim Ferriss Show - https://apple.co/3CQc6Iv
📖 Things to read:
- Why We Sleep by Matt Walker - https://bit.ly/3COHNSv
- Michael Mosley’s Research - https://bit.ly/3WVkdKC
- Resilience First Peer Reviewed Research - https://bit.ly/3CB53n5
📺 Things to watch:
- Professor Jeff Ilaff - TedTalk on Sleep - https://bit.ly/3QhgB1G
- Matt Walker - REM sleep psychosis - https://bit.ly/4gJmv6J
- Matt Walker - MasterClass on Dreaming - https://bit.ly/3CQMkUs
💤 Melbourne Sleep Labs:
*please note, some of these require a referral from a GP or specialist
- Alfred Health - https://bit.ly/42SKw80
- Monash Health - https://bit.ly/3ECiLGM
- Epworth Sleep Centre - https://bit.ly/4hzylBI
- Melbourne Sleep Disorders Centre - https://bit.ly/4gDFcbS
- The Royal Melbourne Hospital Sleep Clinic - https://bit.ly/3ELbm7Y
The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.
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The stoke level is pretty high this week because we are joined by three-time world champion surfer, shark attack survivor, and maybe the nicest guy we have ever met, Mick Fanning.
We had high expectations for this chat (we mean, it’s Mick Fanning), but he absolutely blew us out of the water with his humanity, compassion, empathy, and positivity in the face of incredible tragedy.
Mick, we’ll definitely take you up on that offer of a surf (and lifelong friendship).
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🎧 Things to listen to:
- Brooke Blurton - The Path of Most Resilience - https://apple.co/4e8XmkP
- Michael Klim - The Race of His Life - https://apple.co/40PZZ7s
📺 Things to watch
- Mick’s encounter with the shark - https://bit.ly/3CQa76V
⛳️Things to check out
- Mick’s Charity Golf Day (all proceeds are donated to communities impacted by the 2022 Northern Rivers Floods) - https://bit.ly/4eWUJnl
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Well, well, well. We’re (officially) back for 2025, baby!
On Hugh’s agenda for today’s episode: nugatory chat, ghosts, general excitement for the new season and we also reveal THE SECOND BIG ANNOUNCEMENT!
That’s right, The Imperfects are bringing you a new show.
A Little More Imperfects, which can be found on Patreon, is bonus fortnightly episodes featuring everything that you know and love (Josh going deep, Ryan being hilarious and Hugh giving life changing advice / intense second hand embarrassment) PLUS early access to live show tickets and events and great discounts on our merch.
So enjoy this sneak preview, and we can’t wait for the season ahead.
If you would like to subscribe to our Patreon, follow this link - https://www.patreon.com/theimperfects
If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube (and catch a glimpse of organised Hugh for the only time this millennia), click here - https://bit.ly/4hC4XKI
🎧 Things to listen to:
- Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity - https://apple.co/4e2Io05
- Janelle Booker - Living with ADHD - https://apple.co/41nL456
📖 Things to buy:
- Our new journal, My Imperfect Life - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP
📃Things to subscribe to:
- Our newsletter, The Vulnerabilitea-mail - https://bit.ly/42bYguo
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It’s our last episode of Summer School, and today we welcome back clinical psychologist (and “clinical cousin” of Hugh and Josh), James van Cuylenburg.
In this episode, James tells us EVERYTHING we need to know about our relationships… well almost everything…there’s a lot to cover.
From attachment styles, to breaking trust, to learning how to own your feelings and navigating coupledom through life’s changing seasons.
Getting into the nitty gritty, Hugh asks James about intimacy and what happens when you’re not…. having any. And how to start a conversation with your kids about pornography.
Relationships make life worth living and whether they’re with an intimate partner, a friend, or yourself, they should be cherished and treated with care.
James, we thank you for your guidance.
If you liked this episode, and wanted to do some further reflection on it, each week our Vulnerabilitea-mail newsletter shares a question to get you thinking deeper. We’d love to hear from you, so please send your reflections in to the link provided. Subscribe here!
If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://bit.ly/3WwDguJ
🎧Things to listen to
- James’ new podcast (that he makes with ANOTHER van Cuylenburg) You’re a Good Kid - https://apple.co/3E54MZR
- James van Cuylenburg - Love Your Wonky Bricks - https://apple.co/3UYXmgt
- Esther Perel - Let’s Be Better Lovers - https://apple.co/3Af9OB6
- Chanel Contos - Consensual Healing - https://bit.ly/3RNKpEm
📖 Things to read
- Attached by Dr Amir Levine and Rachel S.F Heller M.A - https://amzn.to/3EeVDhe
💻Things to check out
- Teach Us Consent Website - https://bit.ly/3QVhlK0
- Three Sided Pillar (triangle of happiness) - https://bit.ly/42kntmc
🚨If you, or someone you know, has experienced or is at risk of domestic violence or coercive control, call the 24 hour national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you’re feeling unsafe, call 000.
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