Reframe & Reclaim with Dr. Jordan Fairley

I've kept it a secret for 9 months and i'm ready to share it with the world. I'm a DAD! 

Dr. Lance von Stade came up with the idea of interviewing me, to take a snapshot in time of what my hopes, fears, values, wishes, intentions, expectations are BEFORE having a baby. 

This is recorded 6 days before our baby's due date. 

My wife and I decided to not make any social media posts, we only told friends and family. Now I get to share it with all of you, if this podcast was posted, it's because we have a baby!

We go deep into what my fears are, what fatherhood role models would I like to emulate, what are my intentions for for the birth process, who do I hope my child becomes, who do I want to be for my child. 

This is a very conscious step into setting the intention for "Conscious Fatherhood" 

I'm very happy to share this with you. 

Thank you Dr. Lance von Stade for facilitating this interview. 

We try to work hard, we show up for others, we maintain good values and habits and yet still we feel frustrated, annoyed, fearful, or disappointed in our life. When things don’t go the way we planned or other people continue to let us down; it’s often because our expectations are not being met. So what can we do? First, I believe it’s important to understand the difference between INTENTIONS AND EXPECTATIONS And second, if we can get in the habit of SETTING CLEAR INTENTIONS we will be more in charge of our life, rather than just reacting to how life happens to us. To put it simply INTENTIONS are structure and direction of the energy and actions we put out into the world; and EXPECTATIONS are the thoughts, hopes and wishes that we attach to the energy we put out. Ie. what we hope happens. Whenever we feel disappointment, it is often because we are attached to the desired result, the expectation. Though the reality is we DON’T HAVE CONTROL over the actions of others, we can’t control things outside of ourselves, other people, or our surroundings. What WE DO HAVE CONTROL OVER is our own intention, our own actions, inactions, thoughts, and presentations to the world. So, what are your intentions? How are you starting your day? Can you relinquish your expectations?

You're probably a lot like me, in that you are seeking an even greater life experience, you want to create a change in the world, and you love to create things that serve humanity. 

AND also like me you probably get stuck in wanting to make things PERFECT. 

These two questions have helped me gauge when something is complete, and also how to get my creation out to the world. 

The first question is "Am I Proud of It?" and the second "Is it Good Enough, For Now?" 

these have helped me find balance between releasing something I am really proud of, and knowing that I can always update, add to, or change something in the future without getting stuck in the procrastination of ideation. 

Your experiences and the emotions that you have will shape and mold the person you become. 

It's important to know that it's ok to feel sadness, anger, hurt, AND it's important to know that if you don't process these thoughts or emotions then these thoughts will become our emotions, these emotions will become our mood, our mood will become our temperament, this temperament will become our personality, over time our personality will shift our personal REALITY.

If your personality isn't serving you, know you have the opportunity to create change. 

This change will occur when you can go through a process of UNDERSTANDING what has shaped the stories you tell yourself, the experiences that shaped your personality, and the environment that molded your personal reality. 

with this understanding you get to rewrite the stories you tell yourself.