Positively Real Podcast

Hello, my beautiful friends! Today, we're diving into a habit that's sneaky, sticky, and oh-so-familiar: shoulding on ourselves.

In this episode, we're talking all about the "shoulds" that weigh us down—the external pressures, internal beliefs, and societal narratives that tell us we should be doing more, achieving faster, or feeling differently than we do. Sound familiar? Don't worry—I've got you covered with practical steps to shift from "should" to want and feel more aligned and present in your life.

What You'll Learn:

• What "shoulding" actually means: Why we place unrealistic expectations on ourselves and how it leads to guilt, frustration, and burnout.
• The sneaky sources of "shoulding": From family expectations to social media comparisons, we'll explore where these patterns come from.
• How to break free from the "should" cycle: Learn how to notice, question, and reframe your "shoulds" into authentic desires that align with your core values.

Key Takeaways:

• Awareness is everything: Start by noticing your "should" statements. Where are you placing pressure on yourself to meet someone else's standards?
• Shift from "should" to "choose": Instead of "I should go to yoga," try "I choose to go to yoga because it makes me feel good." Feel that difference?
• Curiosity over guilt: When you catch a "should," get curious: "Where did this belief come from? Is it mine, or did I inherit it?"
• Redefine success on your terms: Your success isn't measured by how much you do but by how aligned, present, and fulfilled you feel.

Here’s a challenge for you: Make a list of every "should" that pops into your head this week. Then, question each one: Why do I feel this way? What would I choose instead? And remember my favorite mantra: You are exactly where you're meant to be.

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Welcome back, my beautiful friend! Today’s episode is about something we all face—the unknown—and how to lean into self-trust when things feel uncertain. Uncertainty is always present in relationships, careers, motherhood, or personal growth. But here’s the thing: you don’t need to have it all figured out. You just need to trust yourself to figure it out as you go.

I share my journey of embracing the unknown, especially in motherhood, and how perfectionism can sneak in and make us believe we need to have a perfect plan. Spoiler alert: we don’t! I also share a powerful client story about how they embraced the unknown and came out stronger than ever.

We wrap up with a guided exercise to help you anchor into self-trust and a few key takeaways to help you shift your mindset around uncertainty. Let’s lean into the messy middle, release perfectionism, and remind ourselves that the unknown is where all the magic happens.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• How motherhood (and life!) constantly invites us to embrace the unknown
• Why perfectionism holds us back and how to release it
• The power of trusting yourself through uncertainty
• A guided breathwork exercise to help you cultivate self-trust
• Three actionable takeaways to help you move forward with confidence

3 Key Takeaways:

1. Practice Presence: Shift your focus from controlling the outcome to fully showing up in the moment.
2. Reframe Self-Doubt: Instead of thinking, “I don’t know enough,” remind yourself, “I am learning as I go.”
3. Lean into Trust: Ask yourself, “Where in my life am I waiting for certainty instead of taking the next step?”

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I'm excited to share my conversation with Dr. Keiko Finnegan of Kinfolk Optimal Living, a health studio in Scottsdale, AZ. I had the honor of being interviewed by Dr. Keiko for Kinfolk’s YouTube channel, and I can't wait to share our conversation with you! 

Our conversation is all about transformation—personal, emotional, and deeply subconscious. I talk about my business journey, from walking away from my job in 2018 to becoming a full-time coach, and the pivotal experiences that reshaped how I see mindset work, healing, and motherhood. Dr. Keiko and I discuss the beliefs we unknowingly carry, how they shape our lives, and why true change starts with the body, not just the mind.

If you feel like you’re constantly falling back into old patterns or navigating major life shifts—especially in motherhood—this episode is for you. I share the tools that helped me break cycles, regulate my nervous system, and step into my most aligned self. Because when we heal ourselves, we change everything.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Why subconscious beliefs hold more power than we realize
• The role of breathwork in emotional and nervous system regulation
• How motherhood can be the greatest invitation for healing
• Practical tools for processing emotions instead of suppressing them
• How to reconnect with yourself when life feels overwhelming

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Well, hello, my friends! I’m here with a quick dose of inspiration to brighten your day. Let’s talk about something we all experience—stress. It’s easy to feel like stress runs the show, but guess what? It doesn’t have to. Today, I’m here to remind you that you hold the power to navigate life’s chaos with ease and confidence.

By shifting how we think about stress, we can take simple, effective steps to feel more grounded and in control. We’re busting the myth that calm is the goal and embracing the truth: a healthy nervous system is about adaptability, not perfection. I’ll share practical, easy-to-use tools to help you move through those moments of fight or flight and return to a place of peace. Let’s dive in, because you are so much more capable than you think.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Why chasing calm isn’t the goal.
• How to get from stressed out to feeling safe and steady.
• My favorite regulation tools: double exhalation breathing, orienting to your environment, grounding with your senses, and shaking it off. 

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