Nichole Joy Show

In this episode, I guide you through the intricate subject of triggers. But first, a caveat: be sure to seek professional support as needed when triggered. Trust yourself here.

I delve into encountering conflicting beliefs on social media and share my personal approach to handling such situations. I’ll explain the concept of multiple truths and the futility of engaging in online arguments. Reflecting on my journey, I discuss growth, compassion, and discernment in navigating relationships with individuals of differing beliefs, both personally and professionally. Here’s where it gets sticky: I encourage you to take a look at yourself when triggered, explore your underlying beliefs and take responsibility for your reactions. Overall, I cover personal responsibility, boundary-setting, and maintaining compassion, even if it means disengaging from certain relationships for the sake of mental well-being. 

In outline form:

• Intro

• Setting the stage for discussing triggers

• Emphasizing the importance of seeking professional help for severe triggers

• Acknowledging Differing Beliefs

• Discussing encounters with conflicting beliefs on social media

• Introduction to my personal approach

• The Concept of Multiple Truths

• Exploring the idea that multiple truths can coexist

• Reflecting on personal experiences and beliefs

• Avoiding Online Arguments

• Stressing the futility of engaging in arguments on the internet

• Encouraging mindful response over reaction

• Personal Growth and Compassion

• Reflecting on personal growth journey

• Emphasizing compassion and meeting others where they are

• Navigating Relationships

• Discussing approaches to relationships with differing beliefs

• Personal anecdotes about family and business relationships

• Introspection and Responsibility

• Exploring the importance of introspection when triggered

• Taking responsibility for reactions and beliefs

• Evaluating Energy Investment

• Advising listeners to evaluate the worthiness of engaging in triggering situations

• Discussing personal energy management and boundary-setting

• Societal Trends and Conversations

• Lamenting the societal trend of avoiding conversations with opposing viewpoints

• Advocating for open dialogue and understanding

• Personal Responsibility and Compassion

• Emphasizing personal responsibility and boundary-setting

• Maintaining compassion even while disengaging from triggering situations

• Wrap up

• Encouraging you to reflect on your own approaches to triggers

Additional links and things:

In this episode, I guide you through the intricate subject of triggers. But first, a caveat: be sure to seek professional support as needed when triggered. Trust yourself here.

I delve into encountering conflicting beliefs on social media and share my personal approach to handling such situations. I’ll explain the concept of multiple truths and the futility of engaging in online arguments. Reflecting on my journey, I discuss growth, compassion, and discernment in navigating relationships with individuals of differing beliefs, both personally and professionally. Here’s where it gets sticky: I encourage you to take a look at yourself when triggered, explore your underlying beliefs and take responsibility for your reactions. Overall, I cover personal responsibility, boundary-setting, and maintaining compassion, even if it means disengaging from certain relationships for the sake of mental well-being. 

In outline form:

• Intro

• Setting the stage for discussing triggers

• Emphasizing the importance of seeking professional help for severe triggers

• Acknowledging Differing Beliefs

• Discussing encounters with conflicting beliefs on social media

• Introduction to my personal approach

• The Concept of Multiple Truths

• Exploring the idea that multiple truths can coexist

• Reflecting on personal experiences and beliefs

• Avoiding Online Arguments

• Stressing the futility of engaging in arguments on the internet

• Encouraging mindful response over reaction

• Personal Growth and Compassion

• Reflecting on personal growth journey

• Emphasizing compassion and meeting others where they are

• Navigating Relationships

• Discussing approaches to relationships with differing beliefs

• Personal anecdotes about family and business relationships

• Introspection and Responsibility

• Exploring the importance of introspection when triggered

• Taking responsibility for reactions and beliefs

• Evaluating Energy Investment

• Advising listeners to evaluate the worthiness of engaging in triggering situations

• Discussing personal energy management and boundary-setting

• Societal Trends and Conversations

• Lamenting the societal trend of avoiding conversations with opposing viewpoints

• Advocating for open dialogue and understanding

• Personal Responsibility and Compassion

• Emphasizing personal responsibility and boundary-setting

• Maintaining compassion even while disengaging from triggering situations

• Wrap up

• Encouraging you to reflect on your own approaches to triggers

Additional links and things:

In this episode, let’s go deeper into the concept of "staying in your own lane," building on last week's discussion about its potential harm when imposed on others. We’ll explore the nuanced perspective of when it's appropriate to embrace this mentality, particularly in the context of personal growth and innovation.

Nuanced Perspective:

I acknowledge the gray areas, recognizing both the dangers of projecting "stay in your own lane" onto others and its value in fostering authenticity and innovation. It's crucial to resist blindly conforming to industry norms while carving out our own paths authentically, especially when we see alternative, more efficient approaches.

Examples and Insights:

Drawing from my time in the doula industry, I illustrate the importance of courage and innovation in breaking away from conventional practices. From there, I expand the discussion to motherhood, where societal expectations often butt heads with our own unique needs. Goal: flex your discernment and create your own realities.

Navigating Industries:

I share personal reflections on removing myself from toxic environments and cultivating a tailored approach to business and life, particularly along my entrepreneurial journey. Heavy on maintaining focus amidst industry noise and controversies, and staying true to our missions and values.

Additional links and things:

In this episode, let’s go deeper into the concept of "staying in your own lane," building on last week's discussion about its potential harm when imposed on others. We’ll explore the nuanced perspective of when it's appropriate to embrace this mentality, particularly in the context of personal growth and innovation.

Nuanced Perspective:

I acknowledge the gray areas, recognizing both the dangers of projecting "stay in your own lane" onto others and its value in fostering authenticity and innovation. It's crucial to resist blindly conforming to industry norms while carving out our own paths authentically, especially when we see alternative, more efficient approaches.

Examples and Insights:

Drawing from my time in the doula industry, I illustrate the importance of courage and innovation in breaking away from conventional practices. From there, I expand the discussion to motherhood, where societal expectations often butt heads with our own unique needs. Goal: flex your discernment and create your own realities.

Navigating Industries:

I share personal reflections on removing myself from toxic environments and cultivating a tailored approach to business and life, particularly along my entrepreneurial journey. Heavy on maintaining focus amidst industry noise and controversies, and staying true to our missions and values.

Additional links and things:

Now, it's not my usual style to dive into internet drama, but sometimes, you come across something that hits close to home. Recently, I stumbled upon a post on Facebook where someone suggested that “Beyoncé should stick to her own lane and stay out of country music.” Now, this struck a chord with me, not just because I'm a fan of Beyoncé, but because it's reflective of a mindset that we should have left behind by now.

Let's break this down together and understand why such comments are not just harmful, but also a reflection of someone's own limiting beliefs. As we enter 2024, it's high time we move away from shrinking ourselves and others based on preconceived notions.

As a woman entrepreneur who has faced her fair share of challenges and risks, I feel a responsibility to address these harmful comments. Moreover, as a mother to black children, it's crucial to speak out against perpetuating stereotypes, especially when it's coming from one (white) woman about another (Black) woman.

The claim that someone should stay in their lane is essentially a projection of the individual's small perception of themselves. We shouldn't be putting people into boxes, whether it's about their music, their work, or even their role in motherhood. We are here to expand, evolve, and try new things.

Now, if you're in a position of influence, be it as an entrepreneur, mentor, or guide, remember the sacred responsibility that comes with it. Your words carry weight, and they can either inspire or discourage those who look up to you.

Putting someone in a box not only limits their creative expression but also goes against the universal commandment of being fully expressed as individuals. The journey to self-expression involves shedding old layers and making space for the new, for your soul's expression.

I'm currently diving into an audiobook on creativity, and it emphasizes that some of the best art can be polarizing. Not everyone has to like it, and that's perfectly fine. Our world needs a spectrum of voices, flavors, and expressions.

So, instead of limiting others, let's be aware of our reactions and thoughts when we encounter such statements. Here are a few questions for you to ponder: 1) Can you cheer for others when they take risks? 2) Can you allow yourself and others to step outside of boxes and labels?, and 3) Can you embrace people's highest possibilities?

It's time to break free from the old paradigm, hold visions of highest possibilities, and create a world where diversity and creativity flourish. 

And by the way, have you heard Beyoncé's latest country tracks? They're on repeat in my car, and yes, I'm officially a country music fan in 2024. #influenced.