How can technology help you connect, heal, and outgrow porn? In this episode, Chandler Rogers tells his story of finding freedom through connection with others (even online) and shares what he has learned from overseeing hundreds of online groups. You&apos;ll find out what you&apos;re missing out on if you track your sobriety without tracking your recovery—and what healthy, shame-free accountability looks like.Chandler Rogers is the CEO and co-founder of <a href='https://www.joinrelay.app/'>Relay</a>, a group-based program to break free from the unhealthy system of addiction and find lasting freedom.<ul><li>Join Relay at <a href='https://www.joinrelay.app/'>joinrelay.app</a> (App)</li><li>Listen to <a href='https://www.joinrelay.app/podcast'>Beyond Sexual Brokenness</a> (Podcast)</li><li>Download <a href='https://resources.joinrelay.app/pdf/ultimate-guide-to-overcoming-pornography.pdf'>The Official Guide To Overcoming Pornography</a> (PDF)</li></ul><a rel="payment" href="https://www.husbandmaterial.com/giving">Support the show</a> Take the Husband Material Journey... <ul> <li>Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on <a href='https://www.youtube.com/husbandmaterial'>YouTube</a> </li> <li>Step 2: Join the private <a href='https://www.husbandmaterial.co/'>Husband Material Community</a> </li> <li>Step 3: Take the free mini-course: <a href='http://outgrowporn.com/'>How To Outgrow Porn</a> </li> <li>Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: <a href='https://www.husbandmaterial.com/academy'>Husband Material Academy</a> </li> </ul> Thanks for listening!

<description>&lt;p&gt;How can technology help you connect, heal, and outgrow porn? In this episode, Chandler Rogers tells his story of finding freedom through connection with others (even online) and shares what he has learned from overseeing hundreds of online groups. You&amp;apos;ll find out what you&amp;apos;re missing out on if you track your sobriety without tracking your recovery—and what healthy, shame-free accountability looks like.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Chandler Rogers is the CEO and co-founder of &lt;a href='https://www.joinrelay.app/'&gt;Relay&lt;/a&gt;, a group-based program to break free from the unhealthy system of addiction and find lasting freedom.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;ul&gt;&lt;li&gt;Join Relay at &lt;a href='https://www.joinrelay.app/'&gt;joinrelay.app&lt;/a&gt; (App)&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Listen to &lt;a href='https://www.joinrelay.app/podcast'&gt;Beyond Sexual Brokenness&lt;/a&gt; (Podcast)&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Download &lt;a href='https://resources.joinrelay.app/pdf/ultimate-guide-to-overcoming-pornography.pdf'&gt;The Official Guide To Overcoming Pornography&lt;/a&gt; (PDF)&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a rel="payment" href="https://www.husbandmaterial.com/giving"&gt;Support the show&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br/&gt;Take the Husband Material Journey...&lt;/p&gt; &lt;ul&gt; &lt;li&gt;Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on &lt;a href='https://www.youtube.com/husbandmaterial'&gt;YouTube&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/li&gt; &lt;li&gt;Step 2: Join the private &lt;a href='https://www.husbandmaterial.co/'&gt;Husband Material Community&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/li&gt; &lt;li&gt;Step 3: Take the free mini-course: &lt;a href='http://outgrowporn.com/'&gt;How To Outgrow Porn&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/li&gt; &lt;li&gt;Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: &lt;a href='https://www.husbandmaterial.com/academy'&gt;Husband Material Academy&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/li&gt; &lt;/ul&gt; &lt;p&gt;Thanks for listening!&lt;/p&gt;</description>

How can technology help you connect, heal, and outgrow porn? In this episode, Chandler Rogers tells his story of finding freedom through connection with others (even online) and shares what he has learned from overseeing hundreds of online groups. You'll find out what you're missing out on if you track your sobriety without tracking your recovery—and what healthy, shame-free accountability looks like. Chandler Rogers is the CEO and co-founder of Relay, a group-based program to break free from...

How Technology Can Help You Connect And Heal (with Chandler Rogers)

What exactly is arousal? Is it more than just sexual? In this episode, you&apos;ll learn the four types of arousal (uppers, downers, all-arounders, and deprivation) and how we use addiction to avoid intimacy (&quot;into messy&quot;). Along the way, you&apos;ll also find out why recovery is not a &quot;don&apos;t touch your penis&quot; program and how the skill of &quot;tension holding&quot; can transform your relationships. Great conversation!Chris Chandler (LMHC, LPCC, EMDR, CSAT-S) is a licensed therapist, coach, and Clinical Advisor at Relay Health. He is also the founder of Christian Recovery Groups LLC, a national program helping men and women heal from compulsive and addictive behaviors through faith, community, and neuroscience-informed recovery practices. Over the past 20 years, Chris has led thousands through individual and group recovery experiences. His mission is simple: to restore people to wholeness by integrating clinical insight with authentic, Spirit-filled community because true recovery happens in relationship.Schedule a 30-minute consultation with Chris <a href='https://scheduler.zoom.us/chrischandler/30-minute-zoom-consultation-with-chris-chandler'>here</a>.Andrew Engstrom is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with Seattle Christian Counseling, where he helps individuals and couples heal by understanding themselves better first. Andrew is certified in MDFT (a holistic approach to counseling treatment) and uses PREPARE/ENRICH in pre-marital and marital counseling. He offers support and insight for overcoming obstacles that stand in the way of forming lasting, fulfilling relationships with others and God.Learn more and connect with Andrew <a href='https://seattlechristiancounseling.com/counselors/andrew-engstrom'>here</a>.See a preview of Chris and Andrew&apos;s intensives <a href='https://vimeo.com/1039769453'>here</a>.<a rel="payment" href="https://www.husbandmaterial.com/giving">Support the show</a> Take the Husband Material Journey... <ul> <li>Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on <a href='https://www.youtube.com/husbandmaterial'>YouTube</a> </li> <li>Step 2: Join the private <a href='https://www.husbandmaterial.co/'>Husband Material Community</a> </li> <li>Step 3: Take the free mini-course: <a href='http://outgrowporn.com/'>How To Outgrow Porn</a> </li> <li>Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: <a href='https://www.husbandmaterial.com/academy'>Husband Material Academy</a> </li> </ul> Thanks for listening!

<description>&lt;p&gt;What exactly is arousal? Is it more than just sexual? In this episode, you&amp;apos;ll learn the four types of arousal (uppers, downers, all-arounders, and deprivation) and how we use addiction to avoid intimacy (&amp;quot;into messy&amp;quot;). Along the way, you&amp;apos;ll also find out why recovery is not a &amp;quot;don&amp;apos;t touch your penis&amp;quot; program and how the skill of &amp;quot;tension holding&amp;quot; can transform your relationships. Great conversation!&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Chris Chandler (LMHC, LPCC, EMDR, CSAT-S) is a licensed therapist, coach, and Clinical Advisor at Relay Health. He is also the founder of Christian Recovery Groups LLC, a national program helping men and women heal from compulsive and addictive behaviors through faith, community, and neuroscience-informed recovery practices. Over the past 20 years, Chris has led thousands through individual and group recovery experiences. His mission is simple: to restore people to wholeness by integrating clinical insight with authentic, Spirit-filled community because true recovery happens in relationship.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Schedule a 30-minute consultation with Chris &lt;a href='https://scheduler.zoom.us/chrischandler/30-minute-zoom-consultation-with-chris-chandler'&gt;here&lt;/a&gt;.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Andrew Engstrom is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with Seattle Christian Counseling, where he helps individuals and couples heal by understanding themselves better first. Andrew is certified in MDFT (a holistic approach to counseling treatment) and uses PREPARE/ENRICH in pre-marital and marital counseling. He offers support and insight for overcoming obstacles that stand in the way of forming lasting, fulfilling relationships with others and God.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Learn more and connect with Andrew &lt;a href='https://seattlechristiancounseling.com/counselors/andrew-engstrom'&gt;here&lt;/a&gt;.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;See a preview of Chris and Andrew&amp;apos;s intensives &lt;a href='https://vimeo.com/1039769453'&gt;here&lt;/a&gt;.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a rel="payment" href="https://www.husbandmaterial.com/giving"&gt;Support the show&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br/&gt;Take the Husband Material Journey...&lt;/p&gt; &lt;ul&gt; &lt;li&gt;Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on &lt;a href='https://www.youtube.com/husbandmaterial'&gt;YouTube&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/li&gt; &lt;li&gt;Step 2: Join the private &lt;a href='https://www.husbandmaterial.co/'&gt;Husband Material Community&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/li&gt; &lt;li&gt;Step 3: Take the free mini-course: &lt;a href='http://outgrowporn.com/'&gt;How To Outgrow Porn&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/li&gt; &lt;li&gt;Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: &lt;a href='https://www.husbandmaterial.com/academy'&gt;Husband Material Academy&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/li&gt; &lt;/ul&gt; &lt;p&gt;Thanks for listening!&lt;/p&gt;</description>

What exactly is arousal? Is it more than just sexual? In this episode, you'll learn the four types of arousal (uppers, downers, all-arounders, and deprivation) and how we use addiction to avoid intimacy ("into messy"). Along the way, you'll also find out why recovery is not a "don't touch your penis" program and how the skill of "tension holding" can transform your relationships. Great conversation! Chris Chandler (LMHC, LPCC, EMDR, CSAT-S) is a licensed therapist, coach, and Clinical Advisor...

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How do you see yourself? Do you ever feel like a villain, like everything is your fault? Do you ever feel like a victim, overwhelmed and powerless to change your life? Do you ever feel like a hero, as if you have to succeed because the whole world is depending on you? Today, we’re talking about how to see yourself accurately and understand yourself better through three lenses: your villain story, your victim story, and your hero story. These categories are inspired by “The Karpman Drama Triangle” by Dr. Stephen B. Karpman. The original drama triangle describes common patterns in dysfunctional relationships. I’ve adapted it for the context of story work for men outgrowing porn.<a rel="payment" href="https://www.husbandmaterial.com/giving">Support the show</a> Take the Husband Material Journey... <ul> <li>Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on <a href='https://www.youtube.com/husbandmaterial'>YouTube</a> </li> <li>Step 2: Join the private <a href='https://www.husbandmaterial.co/'>Husband Material Community</a> </li> <li>Step 3: Take the free mini-course: <a href='http://outgrowporn.com/'>How To Outgrow Porn</a> </li> <li>Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: <a href='https://www.husbandmaterial.com/academy'>Husband Material Academy</a> </li> </ul> Thanks for listening!

<description>&lt;p&gt;How do you see yourself? Do you ever feel like a villain, like everything is your fault? Do you ever feel like a victim, overwhelmed and powerless to change your life? Do you ever feel like a hero, as if you have to succeed because the whole world is depending on you? Today, we’re talking about how to see yourself accurately and understand yourself better through three lenses: your villain story, your victim story, and your hero story. These categories are inspired by “The Karpman Drama Triangle” by Dr. Stephen B. Karpman. The original drama triangle describes common patterns in dysfunctional relationships. I’ve adapted it for the context of story work for men outgrowing porn.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a rel="payment" href="https://www.husbandmaterial.com/giving"&gt;Support the show&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br/&gt;Take the Husband Material Journey...&lt;/p&gt; &lt;ul&gt; &lt;li&gt;Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on &lt;a href='https://www.youtube.com/husbandmaterial'&gt;YouTube&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/li&gt; &lt;li&gt;Step 2: Join the private &lt;a href='https://www.husbandmaterial.co/'&gt;Husband Material Community&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/li&gt; &lt;li&gt;Step 3: Take the free mini-course: &lt;a href='http://outgrowporn.com/'&gt;How To Outgrow Porn&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/li&gt; &lt;li&gt;Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: &lt;a href='https://www.husbandmaterial.com/academy'&gt;Husband Material Academy&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/li&gt; &lt;/ul&gt; &lt;p&gt;Thanks for listening!&lt;/p&gt;</description>

How do you see yourself? Do you ever feel like a villain, like everything is your fault? Do you ever feel like a victim, overwhelmed and powerless to change your life? Do you ever feel like a hero, as if you have to succeed because the whole world is depending on you? Today, we’re talking about how to see yourself accurately and understand yourself better through three lenses: your villain story, your victim story, and your hero story. These categories are inspired by “The Karpman Drama Trian...

The Villain, The Victim, and The Hero

In this episode, Doug and Drew explain their powerful, unique approach to psychodrama: DIRECT. You&apos;ll learn how this powerful modality can help you experience deeper healing and freedom from porn.D.I.R.E.C.T. = Dynamic, Intuitive, Redemptive, Embodied, Communal Transformation.Come experience D.I.R.E.C.T. at a Husband Material Healing Weekend!  See all upcoming healing weekends and retreats at <a href='https://www.husbandmaterial.com/retreat'>husbandmaterial.com/retreat</a>January Healing Weekend in Florida: 4 spots left. <a href='https://www.husbandmaterial.com/florida-healing-weekend'>Apply here.</a>March Healing Weekend in Utah : FULL.<a rel="payment" href="https://www.husbandmaterial.com/giving">Support the show</a> Take the Husband Material Journey... <ul> <li>Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on <a href='https://www.youtube.com/husbandmaterial'>YouTube</a> </li> <li>Step 2: Join the private <a href='https://www.husbandmaterial.co/'>Husband Material Community</a> </li> <li>Step 3: Take the free mini-course: <a href='http://outgrowporn.com/'>How To Outgrow Porn</a> </li> <li>Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: <a href='https://www.husbandmaterial.com/academy'>Husband Material Academy</a> </li> </ul> Thanks for listening!

<description>&lt;p&gt;In this episode, Doug and Drew explain their powerful, unique approach to psychodrama: DIRECT. You&amp;apos;ll learn how this powerful modality can help you experience deeper healing and freedom from porn.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;D.I.R.E.C.T. = Dynamic, Intuitive, Redemptive, Embodied, Communal Transformation.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Come experience D.I.R.E.C.T. at a Husband Material Healing Weekend!  See all upcoming healing weekends and retreats at &lt;a href='https://www.husbandmaterial.com/retreat'&gt;husbandmaterial.com/retreat&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;January Healing Weekend in Florida: 4 spots left. &lt;a href='https://www.husbandmaterial.com/florida-healing-weekend'&gt;Apply here.&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;March Healing Weekend in Utah : FULL.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a rel="payment" href="https://www.husbandmaterial.com/giving"&gt;Support the show&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br/&gt;Take the Husband Material Journey...&lt;/p&gt; &lt;ul&gt; &lt;li&gt;Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on &lt;a href='https://www.youtube.com/husbandmaterial'&gt;YouTube&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/li&gt; &lt;li&gt;Step 2: Join the private &lt;a href='https://www.husbandmaterial.co/'&gt;Husband Material Community&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/li&gt; &lt;li&gt;Step 3: Take the free mini-course: &lt;a href='http://outgrowporn.com/'&gt;How To Outgrow Porn&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/li&gt; &lt;li&gt;Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: &lt;a href='https://www.husbandmaterial.com/academy'&gt;Husband Material Academy&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/li&gt; &lt;/ul&gt; &lt;p&gt;Thanks for listening!&lt;/p&gt;</description>

In this episode, Doug and Drew explain their powerful, unique approach to psychodrama: DIRECT. You'll learn how this powerful modality can help you experience deeper healing and freedom from porn. D.I.R.E.C.T. = Dynamic, Intuitive, Redemptive, Embodied, Communal Transformation. Come experience D.I.R.E.C.T. at a Husband Material Healing Weekend!  See all upcoming healing weekends and retreats at husbandmaterial.com/retreat January Healing Weekend in Florida: 4 spots left. Apply here. Marc...

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<description>&lt;p&gt;Why do adult men need sex education? What sexual changes do men&amp;apos;s bodies go through as we get older? In this episode, Dr. Doug Carpenter explains what men need to know about low testosterone, urinary flow, sperm production, and more. You&amp;apos;ll learn about the importance of prostate exams, the truth about penis size, the difference between sex in porn vs. sex in marriage, and other common misconceptions men have about sex.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Join us for sex education in person at the next Husband Material Retreat! &lt;a href='https://www.husbandmaterial.com/retreat'&gt;husbandmaterial.com/retreat&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Dr. Doug Carpenter is a clinical psychologist, author, and founding board member of Husband Material Ministries. Learn more at &lt;a href='https://www.douglascarpenter.com/'&gt;douglascarpenter.com&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Buy Doug&amp;apos;s books:&lt;/p&gt;&lt;ul&gt;&lt;li&gt;&lt;a href='https://a.co/d/hDNfX8a'&gt;&lt;em&gt;Secret Shame: A Survivor&amp;apos;s Guide To Understanding Male Sexual Abuse And Male Sexual Development&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;&lt;a href='https://a.co/d/0DCP91y'&gt;&lt;em&gt;Childhood Trauma and the Non-Alpha Male: Gender Role Conflict, Toxic Shame, and Complex Trauma: Finding Hope, Clarity, Healing, and Change&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a rel="payment" href="https://www.husbandmaterial.com/giving"&gt;Support the show&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br/&gt;Take the Husband Material Journey...&lt;/p&gt; &lt;ul&gt; &lt;li&gt;Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on &lt;a href='https://www.youtube.com/husbandmaterial'&gt;YouTube&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/li&gt; &lt;li&gt;Step 2: Join the private &lt;a href='https://www.husbandmaterial.co/'&gt;Husband Material Community&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/li&gt; &lt;li&gt;Step 3: Take the free mini-course: &lt;a href='http://outgrowporn.com/'&gt;How To Outgrow Porn&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/li&gt; &lt;li&gt;Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: &lt;a href='https://www.husbandmaterial.com/academy'&gt;Husband Material Academy&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/li&gt; &lt;/ul&gt; &lt;p&gt;Thanks for listening!&lt;/p&gt;</description>

Why do adult men need sex education? What sexual changes do men's bodies go through as we get older? In this episode, Dr. Doug Carpenter explains what men need to know about low testosterone, urinary flow, sperm production, and more. You'll learn about the importance of prostate exams, the truth about penis size, the difference between sex in porn vs. sex in marriage, and other common misconceptions men have about sex. Join us for sex education in person at the next Husband Material Retreat! ...

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