Female by Design
Female by Design

Female by Design

Francie Winslow

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An honest space for female flourishing. Together we'll explore sexuality and spirituality by God's design, healing our relationship with pleasure, our bodies, and our identity as image-bearers. Let's take a deep breath and step into God's invitation to live fully alive—mind, body, and spirit.

Recent Episodes

245. Stressed Out, Touched Out
DEC 1, 2025
245. Stressed Out, Touched Out

When life feels overwhelming, sex is usually the last thing on our minds.

Between overstimulation, nonstop to-do lists, and caring for everyone else, many of us feel touched out—like our bodies have nothing left to give. But what if instead of avoiding touch, we could reimagine it as a source of nourishment, not depletion?

"I used to think I needed to escape my body to rest. Now I know, nourishing touch can bring me back home to myself."

In this episode, Francie unpacks a tender and practical reframe of what it means to reconnect with your body (and your spouse) in the middle of real-life exhaustion. Through story, prayer, and science-backed insight, she shares why touch, when rightly timed and received, can restore your nervous system, renew your energy, and deepen intimacy in the messiest seasons.

You'll hear: – Why women often feel "touched out" and how to name it with compassion – A simple nervous system check-in to tune into what your body really needs – The four kinds of touch (and how to ask for them without shame) – How sensual connection can actually lower cortisol and raise oxytocin – Why pleasure isn't a performance—it's a reset

This isn't about adding sex to your to-do list. It's about receiving the kind of intimacy that truly replenishes you.

Resources Mentioned: – Women's Anatomy of Arousal by Sheri Winston (non-Christian lens, rich body insight) – Francie's masterclass: Confidence with Sexy Talk

– Mentorship: Join The Circle

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244. I Didn't Know How to Be Sexy
NOV 17, 2025
244. I Didn't Know How to Be Sexy

If sex has ever felt like something you're supposed to perform, instead of something you can enjoy, you're not alone.

If you've ever felt awkward in your body… unsure how to initiate… or disconnected from desire… this episode is for you.

Francie shares the tender, true story of how she moved from disconnection and insecurity into a deeper sense of embodiment, pleasure, and playful confidence in her marriage.

"I used to think sexy was something I had to put on. But now I know, it's something I carry when I'm connected to myself."

You'll discover: Why feeling "off" or uncertain in your body is more common than you think How to gently reawaken pleasure and presence (even after years of disconnection) What it looks like to cultivate feminine energy and confidence in your own way Simple, grace-filled ways to start feeling more at home in your body and more alive in your marriage

This isn't about pressure or performance. It's about reclaiming the goodness God designed for you… body, heart, and soul.

✨ Want to take the next step? Join Francie's new 90-minute masterclass: Becoming Confident with Sexy Talk, your guide to finding your voice before, during, and after intimacy.

Resources and Invitation to Go Deeper:

Growth Courses

101 Strong Foundations for Married Sex, here

201 Pleasure and Orgasm: Passion and Practicals, here

Before (And After) I Do, here

Get Connected Inside the Circle Group Mentorship

Keep learning and get direct access to Francie! Join the Circle group mentorship. Inside the Circle, we talk practicals and get support to grow. Learn more here: The Circle

Donate to keep the message moving:

Your one time donation will allow us to continue to produce and distribute teaching and resources. Thank you for partnering with us! Donate here.

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243. Finding Connection in the Middle of the Mess
NOV 10, 2025
243. Finding Connection in the Middle of the Mess

What happens to intimacy when everything falls apart?

This week, Francie opens the door wide into her real life…hospital visits, mold in the ceiling, special needs parenting, and emergency back surgery. In the middle of it all, she shares a raw and redemptive truth: sexuality isn't just for the easy seasons. It's a God-designed gift for the hard ones too.

"I used to think sex was about the mood and the lighting. Now I know, it's about survival. Connection. Healing."

Iintimacy can be a sacred source of strength, even when everything around you feels broken.

You'll hear: What Francie is walking through right now in her home and marriage How she and Wyatt are learning to lean into physical intimacy after surgery and through trauma Why our bodies need connection in times of stress and suffering A reframe of sexuality as a gift for healing, not just for romance

Whether your life feels overwhelming or just a little upside down, this episode will remind you: your body, your marriage, and your intimacy are not disqualified by struggle. They may actually be strengthened in it.

Let's keep growing. Check out Francie's new masterclass: Becoming Confident with Sexy Talk to help you grow in freedom and find your words in the bedroom.

Resources and Invitation to Go Deeper:

Growth Courses

101 Strong Foundations for Married Sex, here

201 Pleasure and Orgasm: Passion and Practicals, here

Before (And After) I Do, here

Get Connected Inside the Circle Group Mentorship

Keep learning and get direct access to Francie! Join the Circle group mentorship. Inside the Circle, we talk practicals and get support to grow. Learn more here: The Circle

Donate to keep the message moving:

Your one time donation will allow us to continue to produce and distribute teaching and resources. Thank you for partnering with us! Donate here.

Connect with Francie:

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242. Beyond Rules: A Fresh Vision of Freedom for Sexual Wholeness
NOV 3, 2025
242. Beyond Rules: A Fresh Vision of Freedom for Sexual Wholeness

If you've ever been taught that purity means ignorance… That modesty means shrinking back… Or that submission means silencing your voice…

This episode is a breath of fresh air, and a bold invitation to something better.

Francie picks up where she left off in "The Lies We've Believed" series with a powerful reframe: moving beyond fear-based rules toward a new foundation of sexual wholeness. One that honors God, blesses your body, and invites joy.

She shares her journey of healing from shame and disconnection, and the three pillars that are reshaping her, and so many women's, sexual discipleship:

Education – Learn the beauty of your body, your design, and God's intent Celebration – Say thank you for what God made good Integration – Bring your sexuality into your spiritual life, every day

If you're ready to let go of fear and legalism, and live fully as a woman made in God's image, this episode is for you.

Want to keep going? Check out Francie's new masterclass: Becoming Confident with Sexy Talk to help you grow in freedom and find your words in the bedroom.

Resources and Invitation to Go Deeper:

Growth Courses

101 Strong Foundations for Married Sex, here

201 Pleasure and Orgasm: Passion and Practicals, here

Before (And After) I Do, here

Get Connected Inside the Circle Group Mentorship

Keep learning and get direct access to Francie! Join the Circle group mentorship. Inside the Circle, we talk practicals and get support to grow. Learn more here: The Circle

Donate to keep the message moving:

Your one time donation will allow us to continue to produce and distribute teaching and resources. Thank you for partnering with us! Donate here.

Connect with Francie:

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23 MIN