There is no job like parenting. It will give you the highest of highs and some frustrating lows. But the hardest part is that you’re always learning on the fly. Because no matter how many books are written, it can feel impossible to keep up with the rapidly changing environment, technological shifts, and — of course— social media. That’s why on this episode, we want to help you get ahead of the game and help you feel more confident and in control of raising kids. In this episode, clinical psychologist Dr. Becky Kennedy and award-winning interior designer and TV personality Nate Berkus walk you through their own parenting experiences and share the most effective ways to raise happy, healthy kids.

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Where to Nate Berkus: 

• Twitter: https://twitter.com/NateBerkus

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nateberkus

• Website: https://nateberkus.com/

Where to Find Dr. Becky: 

• Twitter: https://twitter.com/goodinside

• Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside/

• Website: https://www.goodinside.com/

Where to find First In Line and Brit Morin:

• Twitter: https://twitter.com/brit

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brit/ & https://www.instagram.com/firstinline/

• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@firstinline_pod

• Website: http://firstinlinepod.com/

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In this episode, we cover:

(03:08) Welcome Nate Berkus and Dr. Becky to the show

(07:00) Nate’s extremely independent childhood, and how he’s parenting his kids differently

(09:46) Dr. Becky’s thoughts on independence and why struggle is good for kids

(15:25) How does birth order impact mental health and personality

(18:40) The importance of connection and attachment and how our devices are getting in the way

(20:22) How Nate’s family handles screen time

(23:00) Dr. Becky’s strategies for controlling your screen usage 

(26:30) Why Brit leans into tech with her kids

(28:30) Why learning to tolerate frustration is important and why active screen time is better than passive

(30:50) Why Nate prefers age-appropriate cartoons with a positive focus over video games

(32:46) The value of video games 

(35:10) The importance of developing independent play skills 

(36:50) What it’s like for Nate raising his kids under the public eye and balancing activity and rest time

(40:45) How Brit teaches her kids a growth mindset 

(42:28) The beginning of Nate’s parenthood journey and his inspiration from Brenė Brown

(45:10) Why a daily reminder of your values can help maintain your mission

(46:20) Brit’s quarterly check-ins and how she monitors and plans her time with family

(48:33) How to carve out time for all your important relationships 

(56:54) Brit’s closing

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Referenced:

• Examining the effects of birth order on personality: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4655522/

• Screen Time: It's Not All Bad News: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/parenting-neuroscience-perspective/202001/screen-time-its-not-all-bad-news

• Does Video Gaming Have Impacts on the Brain: Evidence from a Systematic Review: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6826942/

• FDA-approved game for the treatment of ADHD: https://www.hcpendeavorrx.com/

• Brenė Brown’s wholehearted parenting manifesto: https://brenebrown.com/resources/the-wholehearted-parenting-manifesto/