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Two sex addicts in long-term successful recovery are ALSO world-class Counselors who specialize in porn and sex addiction recovery. Drawing on 40 years of combined personal and professional experience, Mark and Steve get RAW and REAL about HOW to overcome addiction, heal betrayal trauma and save your marriage. If you're struggling with addiction—we get it. Recovery is hard. We've been there. We'll help you take the fight to your addiction like never before. If you're married to an addict—we KNOW what it's like to nearly destroy a marriage! We'll help you understand the world of your husband's addiction and begin healing your betrayal trauma, regardless of what he decides to do. You don't have to stay stuck. You don't have to keep suffering. We've made all the mistakes so you don't have to. Take back your life. Take back your marriage. Let's do this together! This is the PBSE podcast.

Recent Episodes

We Want a Family, But He Just Disclosed His Porn Addiction—Now What?

APR 21, 2026

We Want a Family, But He Just Disclosed His Porn Addiction—Now What?

In this episode (329), Mark and Steve address a submission from a betrayed wife whose husband has recently disclosed a porn addiction just as they were preparing to start a family. They acknowledge the immense emotional tension she is carrying: she deeply loves her husband, wants to support him, and has always dreamed of becoming a mother, yet now feels shattered by betrayal, comparison, insecurity, and fear about what pregnancy and parenthood would mean in the middle of such instability. The...

46 MIN

He Says He Chooses Me... So Why Is He Still Thinking About Other Women?!

APR 14, 2026

He Says He Chooses Me... So Why Is He Still Thinking About Other Women?!

In this episode (328), we address a powerful and heartbreaking question from a betrayed partner: how can her partner claim to love and choose her while continuing to have sexual thoughts about other women? We acknowledge the profound trauma this creates, especially given the timing during pregnancy and postpartum—a period of heightened vulnerability. The repeated disclosures of these thoughts have created a cycle of ongoing emotional injury, leaving her feeling humiliated, replaceable, and un...

46 MIN

He Turned Me Into Porn . . . Now I Don't Want Sex at All—Is This Normal?!

APR 6, 2026

He Turned Me Into Porn . . . Now I Don't Want Sex at All—Is This Normal?!

This episode (327) centers on a betrayed partner who, after uncovering her husband’s secret pornography use, finds herself increasingly sexually averse despite his apparent efforts toward recovery. Her experience is compounded by a history of childhood sexual trauma and objectification, making the betrayal not just painful, but deeply retraumatizing. When her husband admitted to mentally replacing her with pornographic images and even attempting to shape her into those fantasies, it reinforce...

42 MIN

The NECESSITY of Community in Recovery & Healing for Addicts and Betrayed Partners

MAR 31, 2026

The NECESSITY of Community in Recovery & Healing for Addicts and Betrayed Partners

In Episode 326, we highlight the critical truth that both addiction and betrayal trauma are fueled by isolation and secrecy, making community an essential part of the healing process. Addicts often withdraw due to shame and fear of judgment, while betrayed partners frequently feel alone, confused, and unable to share their reality with others. This shared isolation deepens pain on both sides and reinforces destructive cycles. However, when individuals step into a supportive recovery community...

40 MIN

Why Does My Heart Keep Moving Further Away . . . Even Though He’s Finally Trying?!

MAR 24, 2026

Why Does My Heart Keep Moving Further Away . . . Even Though He’s Finally Trying?!

Episode 325 centers on a betrayed partner who feels increasingly disconnected from her husband, even though he has recently begun making genuine recovery efforts. After ten years of repeated cycles of acting out, partial truth, gaslighting, and temporary repair, her nervous system has adapted to expect instability and harm. When full disclosure revealed that she had only known a fraction of the truth, it shattered her sense of reality and safety. As a result, her emotional distancing is not i...

43 MIN