As students navigate an increasingly complex, competitive, and costly path to medical school, parents often find themselves uncertain about how to help without hindering growth. Meanwhile, institutions maintain opaque admissions practices, amplifying anxiety for both students and families. In this episode, we explore what parents need to know to truly support, not sabotage, their aspiring doctors. Finally, we pull back the curtain on everything from shadowing to AI in essays, offering a brutally honest look at what really matters in the application process.
Guest bio: Dr. Ryan Gray, a former Flight Surgeon in the United States Air Force, is the founder of Medical School Headquarters and Meded Media, where he has become a leading voice in guiding pre-med and medical students toward careers in medicine. He is the author of The Premed Playbook series, including Guide to the Medical School Application Process, Guide to the Medical School Personal Statement, Guide to the Medical School Interview, and Guide to the MCAT. Dr. Gray also hosts several popular podcasts, including The Premed Years, OldPreMeds Podcast, The MCAT Podcast, and Specialist Stories.
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How can a person who’s clearly lucid still be deemed incapable of making their own medical decisions? The answer lies in the misunderstood yet critical distinction between competence and decision-making capacity. While these terms are often used interchangeably in clinical settings, they carry vastly different meanings in law and medicine—differences that can determine whether a patient is treated, restrained, or left alone. In this episode, we explore how doctors can (and should) assess capacity, the legal boundaries of competence, and how not to get destroyed on the witness stand. Finally, we unpack a story involving a dog, a scrotum, and a tour of Colorado’s emergency departments.
Guest Bio: Rich Orman began his legal career as a public defender before moving into private practice. He soon joined the district attorney’s office, where he spent most of his career and ultimately rose to the position of deputy district attorney. Over three decades in the courtroom, he tried some of the most complex and high-profile cases in the state. After retiring from law, Rich turned to filmmaking. He is the writer and director of the critically acclaimed Boundary Layer.
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