This episode is all about theory, listener! Carmen Maria Machado is an author, essayist, and finalist for the National Book Award with her impressive body of work around queer identity, but today she’s in the apartment to put her genius towards solving age-old queer conundrums! We discuss topping vs. bottoming as a lesbian, what that actually entails, how it manifests in practice, and the Renaissance Faire. Ashley and Jen accidentally ask a man for a threeway. Lizzy experiences cinematic heartbreak.  FOLLOW CARMEN MARIA MACHADO: Check out her books: https://linktr.ee/carmenmariamachado?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carmenmmachado/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@carmenmariamachado  Website: https://carmenmariamachado.com/image  FOLLOW ASHLEY GAVIN @ashgavs TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ashgavscomedy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashgavs/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ashgavs Twitter: https://twitter.com/ashgavs Tour Dates & Newsletter: https://www.ashleygavin.com/#dates FOLLOW LIZZY CASSIDY @lizzycassidy TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lizzycassidycomedy  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lizzycassidy/  Twitter: https://x.com/lizzaster  Tour Dates & Podcasts: https://linktr.ee/lizzycassidy  FOLLOW JEN DAVIS @jenparkerdavis Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jenparkerdavis/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jenparkerdavis  FOLLOW ALEX VRAHAS @alvrahas Mailing List: https://forms.gle/t48AUUEYzrNagU1B9  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alvrahas/   SUPPORT OUR PODCAST: Watch this UNCUT: https://www.patreon.com/WHGS Merch: https://shop.merchcentral.com/collections/ashley-gavin Watch on this YouTube: https://youtu.be/12QVX_B1-4c  ______________________________________________ SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS: HERS: Get affordable and personalized treatment at https://www.forhers.com/gay Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices