Erectile dysfunction has long been treated with guesswork and one-size-fits-all solutions. But new technology is changing that by making erections measurable. In this episode, we explore the FirmTech TechRing, a wearable that tracks erection data during sleep and sex, and what insights from over 136,000 erections reveal about erectile fitness, overall health, and the future of data-driven sexual medicine.
I am joined once again by Dr. Elliot Justin, the CEO and founder of <a href="https://myfirmtech.com/justinlehmiller">FirmTech</a>, a sextech company focused on keeping men fit and firm for a lifetime of lovemaking. He is an Emergency Medicine specialist and health care technology consultant who has spent 25 years practicing emergency medicine and directing ERs.
Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:
<ul>
<li>How is the TechRing different from a traditional penis ring?</li>
<li>What can real-time erection data tell men about their health?</li>
<li>How does using an erection ring compare to taking an ED medication?</li>
<li>How can an erection ring make sex better?</li>
</ul>
<a href="https://myfirmtech.com/justinlehmiller">Check out FirmTech&#8217;s website</a> to learn more and use code JUSTIN15 for 15% off your purchase. 
Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at <a href="http://speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology">speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.</a>
***
Thank you to our sponsors! 
Thread &amp; Tether is a therapy practice dedicated to helping couples rebuild trust, strengthen intimacy, and heal after betrayal. Led by AASECT-certified sex therapist Jason Powell, the practice offers virtual sessions in multiple states and in-person intensives in Boston and Manhattan. Visit <a href="https://www.threadandtether.com">threadandtether.com</a> to learn more.
***


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Listen and stream all episodes on <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-and-psychology-podcast/id1505460817" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Apple</a>, <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/6DCIGjOUaenoKdY71N7NqI" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Spotify</a>, or <a href="https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/13619d2a-d69f-4d05-949b-5c1f19eb1995/Sex-and-Psychology-Podcast" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Amazon</a>. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast!
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<description>&lt;p data-start="91" data-end="249"&gt;Erectile dysfunction has long been treated with guesswork and one-size-fits-all solutions. But new technology is changing that by making erections measurable. In this episode, we explore the FirmTech TechRing, a wearable that tracks erection data during sleep and sex, and what insights from over 136,000 erections reveal about erectile fitness, overall health, and the future of data-driven sexual medicine.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I am joined once again by Dr. Elliot Justin, the CEO and founder of &lt;a href="https://myfirmtech.com/justinlehmiller"&gt;FirmTech&lt;/a&gt;, a sextech company focused on keeping men fit and firm for a lifetime of lovemaking. He is an Emergency Medicine specialist and health care technology consultant who has spent 25 years practicing emergency medicine and directing ERs.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ul&gt;
&lt;li&gt;How is the TechRing different from a traditional penis ring?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;What can real-time erection data tell men about their health?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;How does using an erection ring compare to taking an ED medication?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;How can an erection ring make sex better?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ul&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;a href="https://myfirmtech.com/justinlehmiller"&gt;Check out FirmTech&amp;#8217;s website&lt;/a&gt; to learn more and use code JUSTIN15 for 15% off your purchase. &lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at &lt;a href="http://speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology"&gt;speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;***&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;Thank you to our sponsors! &lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Thread &amp;amp; Tether is a therapy practice dedicated to helping couples rebuild trust, strengthen intimacy, and heal after betrayal. Led by AASECT-certified sex therapist Jason Powell, the practice offers virtual sessions in multiple states and in-person intensives in Boston and Manhattan. Visit &lt;a href="https://www.threadandtether.com"&gt;threadandtether.com&lt;/a&gt; to learn more.&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;***&lt;/p&gt;


&lt;p class="p1"&gt;Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click &lt;a href="https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/" target="_blank" rel="noopener"&gt;here &lt;/a&gt;for previous articles or follow the blog on &lt;a href="http://www.facebook.com/psychologyofsex" target="_blank" rel="noopener"&gt;Facebook&lt;/a&gt;, &lt;a href="https://twitter.com/JustinLehmiller" target="_blank" rel="noopener"&gt;Twitter&lt;/a&gt;, or &lt;a href="https://bsky.app/profile/justinlehmiller.bsky.social"&gt;Bluesky&lt;/a&gt; to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on &lt;a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCm8JQt7it3re8SypKf-mT2Q" target="_blank" rel="noopener"&gt;YouTube&lt;/a&gt; and &lt;a href="https://www.instagram.com/justinjlehmiller/" target="_blank" rel="noopener"&gt;Instagram&lt;/a&gt;.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p class="p1"&gt;Listen and stream all episodes on &lt;a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-and-psychology-podcast/id1505460817" target="_blank" rel="noopener"&gt;Apple&lt;/a&gt;, &lt;a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/6DCIGjOUaenoKdY71N7NqI" target="_blank" rel="noopener"&gt;Spotify&lt;/a&gt;, or &lt;a href="https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/13619d2a-d69f-4d05-949b-5c1f19eb1995/Sex-and-Psychology-Podcast" target="_blank" rel="noopener"&gt;Amazon&lt;/a&gt;. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast!&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Credits: &lt;a href="https://precisionpodcasting.com/"&gt;Precision Podcasting&lt;/a&gt; (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.&lt;/p&gt;</description>

Erectile dysfunction has long been treated with guesswork and one-size-fits-all solutions. But new technology is changing that by making erections measurable. In this episode, we explore the FirmTech TechRing, a wearable that tracks erection data during 

Erectile dysfunction has long been treated with guesswork and one-size-fits-all solutions. But new technology is changing that by making erections measurable. In this episode, we explore the FirmTech TechRing, a wearable that tracks erection data during sleep and sex, and what insights from over 136,000 erections reveal about erectile fitness, overall health, and the future of data-driven sexual medicine.
I am joined once again by Dr. Elliot Justin, the CEO and founder of FirmTech, a sextech company focused on keeping men fit and firm for a lifetime of lovemaking. He is an Emergency Medicine specialist and health care technology consultant who has spent 25 years practicing emergency medicine and directing ERs.
Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:

How is the TechRing different from a traditional penis ring?
What can real-time erection data tell men about their health?
How does using an erection ring compare to taking an ED medication?
How can an erection ring make sex better?

Check out FirmTech&#8217;s website to learn more and use code JUSTIN15 for 15% off your purchase. 
Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.
***
Thank you to our sponsors! 
Thread &amp; Tether is a therapy practice dedicated to helping couples rebuild trust, strengthen intimacy, and heal after betrayal. Led by AASECT-certified sex therapist Jason Powell, the practice offers virtual sessions in multiple states and in-person intensives in Boston and Manhattan. Visit threadandtether.com to learn more.
***


Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Bluesky to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram.
Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast!
Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

Episode 459: What 136,000 Erections Reveal About Men

What actually has to happen inside the body for an erection to occur? And what is the most common cause of erectile dysfunction (ED)? In today&#8217;s show, we&#8217;re diving into the science of how erections work, as well as why men sometimes struggle to get or maintain them. We&#8217;ll also unpack some common misconceptions about ED and discuss why the standard &#8220;just take a pill approach&#8221; overlooks a bigger issue.
My guest is Dr. Elliot Justin, the CEO and founder of <a href="https://myfirmtech.com/justinlehmiller">FirmTech</a>, a sextech company focused on keeping men fit and firm for a lifetime of lovemaking. He is an Emergency Medicine specialist and healthcare technology consultant who has spent 25 years practicing emergency medicine and directing ERs.
Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:
<ul>
<li>What are the biggest things people get wrong about erectile dysfunction?</li>
<li>What is venous leak, and why is it such an under-diagnosed contributor to ED?</li>
<li>Why do nighttime erections happen, and what do they tell us about men&#8217;s health?</li>
<li>What&#8217;s the problem with using pills as a one-size-fits-all solution to ED?</li>
</ul>
<a href="https://myfirmtech.com/justinlehmiller">Check out FirmTech&#8217;s website</a> to learn more and use code JUSTIN15 to save 15% off your purchase.
Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at <a href="http://speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology">speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.</a>
***
Thank you to our sponsors! 
The Kinsey Institute is where the world turns to understand sex and relationships. You can help continue its expert-led research by donating to the Kinsey Institute Research Fund. Learn more and make a donation here: <a href="https://give.myiu.org/centers-institutes/I380010749.html">https://give.myiu.org/centers-institutes/I380010749.html </a>
Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you&#8217;ll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit <a href="http://sexualhealthalliance.com/">SexualHealthAlliance.com</a> and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today.
***


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Listen and stream all episodes on <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-and-psychology-podcast/id1505460817" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Apple</a>, <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/6DCIGjOUaenoKdY71N7NqI" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Spotify</a>, or <a href="https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/13619d2a-d69f-4d05-949b-5c1f19eb1995/Sex-and-Psychology-Podcast" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Amazon</a>. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast!
Credits: <a href="https://precisionpodcasting.com/">Precision Podcasting</a> (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

<description>&lt;p&gt;What actually has to happen inside the body for an erection to occur? And what is the most common cause of erectile dysfunction (ED)? In today&amp;#8217;s show, we&amp;#8217;re diving into the science of how erections work, as well as why men sometimes struggle to get or maintain them. We&amp;#8217;ll also unpack some common misconceptions about ED and discuss why the standard &amp;#8220;just take a pill approach&amp;#8221; overlooks a bigger issue.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;My guest is Dr. Elliot Justin, the CEO and founder of &lt;a href="https://myfirmtech.com/justinlehmiller"&gt;FirmTech&lt;/a&gt;, a sextech company focused on keeping men fit and firm for a lifetime of lovemaking. He is an Emergency Medicine specialist and healthcare technology consultant who has spent 25 years practicing emergency medicine and directing ERs.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ul&gt;
&lt;li&gt;What are the biggest things people get wrong about erectile dysfunction?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;What is venous leak, and why is it such an under-diagnosed contributor to ED?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Why do nighttime erections happen, and what do they tell us about men&amp;#8217;s health?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;What&amp;#8217;s the problem with using pills as a one-size-fits-all solution to ED?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ul&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href="https://myfirmtech.com/justinlehmiller"&gt;Check out FirmTech&amp;#8217;s website&lt;/a&gt; to learn more and use code JUSTIN15 to save 15% off your purchase.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at &lt;a href="http://speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology"&gt;speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;***&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;Thank you to our sponsors! &lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;strong&gt;The Kinsey Institute is where the world turns to understand sex and relationships. You can help continue its expert-led research by donating to the Kinsey Institute Research Fund. Learn more and make a donation here: &lt;a href="https://give.myiu.org/centers-institutes/I380010749.html"&gt;https://give.myiu.org/centers-institutes/I380010749.html &lt;/a&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you&amp;#8217;ll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit &lt;a href="http://sexualhealthalliance.com/"&gt;SexualHealthAlliance.com&lt;/a&gt; and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today.&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;***&lt;/p&gt;


&lt;p class="p1"&gt;Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click &lt;a href="https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/" target="_blank" rel="noopener"&gt;here &lt;/a&gt;for previous articles or follow the blog on &lt;a href="http://www.facebook.com/psychologyofsex" target="_blank" rel="noopener"&gt;Facebook&lt;/a&gt;, &lt;a href="https://twitter.com/JustinLehmiller" target="_blank" rel="noopener"&gt;Twitter&lt;/a&gt;, or &lt;a href="https://bsky.app/profile/justinlehmiller.bsky.social"&gt;Bluesky&lt;/a&gt; to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on &lt;a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCm8JQt7it3re8SypKf-mT2Q" target="_blank" rel="noopener"&gt;YouTube&lt;/a&gt; and &lt;a href="https://www.instagram.com/justinjlehmiller/" target="_blank" rel="noopener"&gt;Instagram&lt;/a&gt;.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p class="p1"&gt;Listen and stream all episodes on &lt;a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-and-psychology-podcast/id1505460817" target="_blank" rel="noopener"&gt;Apple&lt;/a&gt;, &lt;a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/6DCIGjOUaenoKdY71N7NqI" target="_blank" rel="noopener"&gt;Spotify&lt;/a&gt;, or &lt;a href="https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/13619d2a-d69f-4d05-949b-5c1f19eb1995/Sex-and-Psychology-Podcast" target="_blank" rel="noopener"&gt;Amazon&lt;/a&gt;. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast!&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Credits: &lt;a href="https://precisionpodcasting.com/"&gt;Precision Podcasting&lt;/a&gt; (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.&lt;/p&gt;</description>

What actually has to happen inside the body for an erection to occur? And what is the most common cause of erectile dysfunction (ED)? In today&#8217;s show, we&#8217;re diving into the science of how erections work, as well as why men sometimes struggle 

What actually has to happen inside the body for an erection to occur? And what is the most common cause of erectile dysfunction (ED)? In today&#8217;s show, we&#8217;re diving into the science of how erections work, as well as why men sometimes struggle to get or maintain them. We&#8217;ll also unpack some common misconceptions about ED and discuss why the standard &#8220;just take a pill approach&#8221; overlooks a bigger issue.
My guest is Dr. Elliot Justin, the CEO and founder of FirmTech, a sextech company focused on keeping men fit and firm for a lifetime of lovemaking. He is an Emergency Medicine specialist and healthcare technology consultant who has spent 25 years practicing emergency medicine and directing ERs.
Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:

What are the biggest things people get wrong about erectile dysfunction?
What is venous leak, and why is it such an under-diagnosed contributor to ED?
Why do nighttime erections happen, and what do they tell us about men&#8217;s health?
What&#8217;s the problem with using pills as a one-size-fits-all solution to ED?

Check out FirmTech&#8217;s website to learn more and use code JUSTIN15 to save 15% off your purchase.
Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.
***
Thank you to our sponsors! 
The Kinsey Institute is where the world turns to understand sex and relationships. You can help continue its expert-led research by donating to the Kinsey Institute Research Fund. Learn more and make a donation here: https://give.myiu.org/centers-institutes/I380010749.html 
Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you&#8217;ll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today.
***


Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Bluesky to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram.
Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast!
Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

Episode 458: How Erections Really Work (And Why They Fail)

Most people think men’s sexual orientation is pretty straightforward: if you&#8217;re gay, you only sleep with men, and if you&#8217;re straight, you only sleep with women. But things aren&#8217;t always that simple. In today’s show, we’re exploring a reality that doesn’t fit the script—gay men who are out and confident in their identity, but who sometimes sleep with women.
I am joined once again by <a href="https://joekort.com/">Dr. Joe Kort,</a> the clinical director and founder of <a href="https://crsh.com/">The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health</a> in Royal Oak, Michigan. He is a board-certified clinical sexologist and author of multiple books, including <a href="https://amzn.to/3MgL1mi">Cracking the Erotic Code: Helping Gay Men Understand Their Fantasies.</a>
Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:
<ul>
<li>What are the main reasons why some gay men have sex with women?</li>
<li>Why might a woman want to have sex with a gay man?</li>
<li>Does your sexual behavior necessarily have to align with your sexual identity?</li>
<li>Why do people sometimes engage in behaviors that don&#8217;t seem to match up with their sexual orientation?</li>
</ul>
You can <a href="https://joekort.com/">visit Joe&#8217;s website</a> to learn more about his work.
Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at <a href="http://speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology">speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.</a>
***
Thank you to our sponsors! 
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If you&#8217;re ready to ditch the shady stuff and choose a libido supplement that’s effective and that you can feel confident about, it&#8217;s time to check out Drive Boost.  Visit <a href="https://vb.health/">vb.health</a> and use code JUSTIN for 10% off.
Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you&#8217;ll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit <a href="http://sexualhealthalliance.com/">SexualHealthAlliance.com</a> and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today.
***


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Listen and stream all episodes on <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-and-psychology-podcast/id1505460817" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Apple</a>, <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/6DCIGjOUaenoKdY71N7NqI" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Spotify</a>, or <a href="https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/13619d2a-d69f-4d05-949b-5c1f19eb1995/Sex-and-Psychology-Podcast" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Amazon</a>. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast!
Credits: <a href="https://precisionpodcasting.com/">Precision Podcasting</a> (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

<description>&lt;p&gt;Most people think men’s sexual orientation is pretty straightforward: if you&amp;#8217;re gay, you only sleep with men, and if you&amp;#8217;re straight, you only sleep with women. But things aren&amp;#8217;t always that simple. In today’s show, we’re exploring a reality that doesn’t fit the script—gay men who are out and confident in their identity, but who sometimes sleep with women.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I am joined once again by &lt;a href="https://joekort.com/"&gt;Dr. Joe Kort,&lt;/a&gt; the clinical director and founder of &lt;a href="https://crsh.com/"&gt;The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health&lt;/a&gt; in Royal Oak, Michigan. He is a board-certified clinical sexologist and author of multiple books, including &lt;a href="https://amzn.to/3MgL1mi"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Cracking the Erotic Code: Helping Gay Men Understand Their Fantasies.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ul&gt;
&lt;li&gt;What are the main reasons why some gay men have sex with women?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Why might a woman want to have sex with a gay man?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Does your sexual behavior necessarily have to align with your sexual identity?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Why do people sometimes engage in behaviors that don&amp;#8217;t seem to match up with their sexual orientation?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ul&gt;
&lt;p&gt;You can &lt;a href="https://joekort.com/"&gt;visit Joe&amp;#8217;s website&lt;/a&gt; to learn more about his work.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at &lt;a href="http://speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology"&gt;speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;***&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;Thank you to our sponsors! &lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;strong&gt;If you&amp;#8217;re ready to ditch the shady stuff and choose a libido supplement that’s effective and that you can feel confident about, it&amp;#8217;s time to check out Drive Boost.  Visit &lt;a href="https://vb.health/"&gt;vb.health&lt;/a&gt; and use code JUSTIN for 10% off.&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;***&lt;/p&gt;


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Most people think men’s sexual orientation is pretty straightforward: if you&#8217;re gay, you only sleep with men, and if you&#8217;re straight, you only sleep with women. But things aren&#8217;t always that simple. In today’s show, we’re exploring a re

Most people think men’s sexual orientation is pretty straightforward: if you&#8217;re gay, you only sleep with men, and if you&#8217;re straight, you only sleep with women. But things aren&#8217;t always that simple. In today’s show, we’re exploring a reality that doesn’t fit the script—gay men who are out and confident in their identity, but who sometimes sleep with women.
I am joined once again by Dr. Joe Kort, the clinical director and founder of The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health in Royal Oak, Michigan. He is a board-certified clinical sexologist and author of multiple books, including Cracking the Erotic Code: Helping Gay Men Understand Their Fantasies.
Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:

What are the main reasons why some gay men have sex with women?
Why might a woman want to have sex with a gay man?
Does your sexual behavior necessarily have to align with your sexual identity?
Why do people sometimes engage in behaviors that don&#8217;t seem to match up with their sexual orientation?

You can visit Joe&#8217;s website to learn more about his work.
Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.
***
Thank you to our sponsors! 
Expand your sexual horizons with Beducated! Featuring more than 100 online courses taught by the experts, Beducated brings pleasure-based sex ed directly into your bedroom. Enjoy a free trial today and get 50% off their yearly pass by using LEHMILLER as the coupon code. To redeem this offer, visit: https://beducate.me/pd2550-lehmiller
If you&#8217;re ready to ditch the shady stuff and choose a libido supplement that’s effective and that you can feel confident about, it&#8217;s time to check out Drive Boost.  Visit vb.health and use code JUSTIN for 10% off.
Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you&#8217;ll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today.
***


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Episode 457: Gay Men Who Have Sex With Women

Although gay men are often seen as being pretty uninhibited when it comes to sex, their fantasy lives tell a more complex story. Like everyone else, many gay men experience shame, confusion, or conflict around their fantasies. In today’s show, we’re diving into common themes that show up in gay men’s fantasies, the psychology behind them, and how to drop the shame.
My guest is <a href="https://joekort.com/">Dr. Joe Kort,</a> the clinical director and founder of <a href="https://crsh.com/">The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health</a> in Royal Oak, Michigan. He is a board-certified clinical sexologist and author of multiple books, including <a href="https://amzn.to/3MgL1mi">Cracking the Erotic Code: Helping Gay Men Understand Their Fantasies.</a>
Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:
<ul>
<li>What do sexual fantasies actually mean or represent?</li>
<li>What kinds of things are gay men likely to fantasies about?</li>
<li>Why are taboo themes so prevalent in gay men&#8217;s fantasies?</li>
<li>How does porn shape gay men&#8217;s fantasies?</li>
<li>What do gay men who feel ashamed or confused about their fantasies need to know?</li>
</ul>
You can <a href="https://joekort.com/">visit Joe&#8217;s website</a> to learn more about his work.
Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at <a href="http://speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology">speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.</a>
***
Thank you to our sponsors! 
<a href="https://myfirmtech.com/justinlehmiller">Firmtech&#8217;s</a> Tech Ring will help you to track your sexual health&#8211;and keep it up. Visit <a href="https://myfirmtech.com/justinlehmiller">myfirmtech.com/justinlehmiller</a> and use code JUSTIN15 for 15% off your purchase. 
If you&#8217;re ready to ditch the shady stuff and choose a libido supplement that’s effective and that you can feel confident about, it&#8217;s time to check out Drive Boost.  Visit <a href="https://vb.health/">vb.health</a> and use code JUSTIN for 10% off.
The Kinsey Institute is where the world turns to understand sex and relationships. You can help continue its expert-led research by donating to the Kinsey Institute Research Fund. Learn more and make a donation here: <a href="https://give.myiu.org/centers-institutes/I380010749.html">https://give.myiu.org/centers-institutes/I380010749.html </a>
***


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<description>&lt;p data-start="118" data-end="366"&gt;Although gay men are often seen as being pretty uninhibited when it comes to sex, their fantasy lives tell a more complex story. Like everyone else, many gay men experience shame, confusion, or conflict around their fantasies. In today’s show, we’re diving into common themes that show up in gay men’s fantasies, the psychology behind them, and how to drop the shame.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;My guest is &lt;a href="https://joekort.com/"&gt;Dr. Joe Kort,&lt;/a&gt; the clinical director and founder of &lt;a href="https://crsh.com/"&gt;The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health&lt;/a&gt; in Royal Oak, Michigan. He is a board-certified clinical sexologist and author of multiple books, including &lt;a href="https://amzn.to/3MgL1mi"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Cracking the Erotic Code: Helping Gay Men Understand Their Fantasies.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ul&gt;
&lt;li&gt;What do sexual fantasies actually mean or represent?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;What kinds of things are gay men likely to fantasies about?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Why are taboo themes so prevalent in gay men&amp;#8217;s fantasies?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;How does porn shape gay men&amp;#8217;s fantasies?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;What do gay men who feel ashamed or confused about their fantasies need to know?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ul&gt;
&lt;p&gt;You can &lt;a href="https://joekort.com/"&gt;visit Joe&amp;#8217;s website&lt;/a&gt; to learn more about his work.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at &lt;a href="http://speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology"&gt;speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;***&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;Thank you to our sponsors! &lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;a href="https://myfirmtech.com/justinlehmiller"&gt;Firmtech&amp;#8217;s&lt;/a&gt; Tech Ring will help you to track your sexual health&amp;#8211;and keep it up. Visit &lt;a href="https://myfirmtech.com/justinlehmiller"&gt;myfirmtech.com/justinlehmiller&lt;/a&gt; and use code JUSTIN15 for 15% off your purchase. &lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;strong&gt;If you&amp;#8217;re ready to ditch the shady stuff and choose a libido supplement that’s effective and that you can feel confident about, it&amp;#8217;s time to check out Drive Boost.  Visit &lt;a href="https://vb.health/"&gt;vb.health&lt;/a&gt; and use code JUSTIN for 10% off.&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;strong&gt;The Kinsey Institute is where the world turns to understand sex and relationships. You can help continue its expert-led research by donating to the Kinsey Institute Research Fund. Learn more and make a donation here: &lt;a href="https://give.myiu.org/centers-institutes/I380010749.html"&gt;https://give.myiu.org/centers-institutes/I380010749.html &lt;/a&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;***&lt;/p&gt;


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Although gay men are often seen as being pretty uninhibited when it comes to sex, their fantasy lives tell a more complex story. Like everyone else, many gay men experience shame, confusion, or conflict around their fantasies. In today’s show, we’re divi

Although gay men are often seen as being pretty uninhibited when it comes to sex, their fantasy lives tell a more complex story. Like everyone else, many gay men experience shame, confusion, or conflict around their fantasies. In today’s show, we’re diving into common themes that show up in gay men’s fantasies, the psychology behind them, and how to drop the shame.
My guest is Dr. Joe Kort, the clinical director and founder of The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health in Royal Oak, Michigan. He is a board-certified clinical sexologist and author of multiple books, including Cracking the Erotic Code: Helping Gay Men Understand Their Fantasies.
Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:

What do sexual fantasies actually mean or represent?
What kinds of things are gay men likely to fantasies about?
Why are taboo themes so prevalent in gay men&#8217;s fantasies?
How does porn shape gay men&#8217;s fantasies?
What do gay men who feel ashamed or confused about their fantasies need to know?

You can visit Joe&#8217;s website to learn more about his work.
Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.
***
Thank you to our sponsors! 
Firmtech&#8217;s Tech Ring will help you to track your sexual health&#8211;and keep it up. Visit myfirmtech.com/justinlehmiller and use code JUSTIN15 for 15% off your purchase. 
If you&#8217;re ready to ditch the shady stuff and choose a libido supplement that’s effective and that you can feel confident about, it&#8217;s time to check out Drive Boost.  Visit vb.health and use code JUSTIN for 10% off.
The Kinsey Institute is where the world turns to understand sex and relationships. You can help continue its expert-led research by donating to the Kinsey Institute Research Fund. Learn more and make a donation here: https://give.myiu.org/centers-institutes/I380010749.html 
***


Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Bluesky to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram.
Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast!
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Episode 456: The Psychology Of Gay Men’s Sexual Fantasies

People&#8217;s definitions of cheating are evolving. Infidelity isn’t just about physical betrayal anymore. It’s emotional, it’s digital, and sometimes it doesn’t even involve another human at all. In today&#8217;s show, we&#8217;re diving into the new rules of cheating. We&#8217;re also going to talk about how modern technology is making it harder than ever to keep infidelity a secret.
I am joined once again by <a href="https://kinseyinstitute.org/about/staff/gesselman-amanda.html">Dr. Amanda Gesselman</a> a research scientist and head of the <a href="https://knsy.in/vibes">VIBES</a> research team at the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University. Digital intimacy is a major focus of her research, including how people use tools like camsites, AI companions, dating apps, and social media to navigate connection and desire.
Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:
<ul>
<li>What do people today think &#8220;counts&#8221; as cheating?</li>
<li>Is watching porn a form of infidelity? What about sexting with an AI chatbot?</li>
<li>How many people suspect a partner has cheated on them before?</li>
<li>What kind of detective work do people do to determine if a partner has cheated?</li>
<li>How do we balance the benefits and challenges of digital intimacy?</li>
</ul>
To learn more, you can <a href="https://www.datingadvice.com/studies/digital-affairs-kinsey-survey">read a brief report of this study here</a>.
Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at <a href="http://speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology">speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.</a>
***
Thank you to our sponsors! 
Thread &amp; Tether is a therapy practice dedicated to helping couples rebuild trust, strengthen intimacy, and heal after betrayal. Led by AASECT-certified sex therapist Jason Powell, the practice offers virtual sessions in multiple states and in-person intensives in Boston and Manhattan. Visit <a href="https://www.threadandtether.com">threadandtether.com</a> to learn more.
Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you&#8217;ll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit <a href="http://sexualhealthalliance.com/">SexualHealthAlliance.com</a> and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today.
***


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<description>&lt;p&gt;People&amp;#8217;s definitions of cheating are evolving. Infidelity isn’t just about physical betrayal anymore. It’s emotional, it’s digital, and sometimes it doesn’t even involve another human at all. In today&amp;#8217;s show, we&amp;#8217;re diving into the new rules of cheating. We&amp;#8217;re also going to talk about how modern technology is making it harder than ever to keep infidelity a secret.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I am joined once again by &lt;a href="https://kinseyinstitute.org/about/staff/gesselman-amanda.html"&gt;Dr. Amanda Gesselman&lt;/a&gt; a research scientist and head of the &lt;a href="https://knsy.in/vibes"&gt;VIBES&lt;/a&gt; research team at the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University. Digital intimacy is a major focus of her research, including how people use tools like camsites, AI companions, dating apps, and social media to navigate connection and desire.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ul&gt;
&lt;li&gt;What do people today think &amp;#8220;counts&amp;#8221; as cheating?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Is watching porn a form of infidelity? What about sexting with an AI chatbot?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;How many people suspect a partner has cheated on them before?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;What kind of detective work do people do to determine if a partner has cheated?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;How do we balance the benefits and challenges of digital intimacy?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ul&gt;
&lt;p&gt;To learn more, you can &lt;a href="https://www.datingadvice.com/studies/digital-affairs-kinsey-survey"&gt;read a brief report of this study here&lt;/a&gt;.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at &lt;a href="http://speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology"&gt;speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;***&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;Thank you to our sponsors! &lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Thread &amp;amp; Tether is a therapy practice dedicated to helping couples rebuild trust, strengthen intimacy, and heal after betrayal. Led by AASECT-certified sex therapist Jason Powell, the practice offers virtual sessions in multiple states and in-person intensives in Boston and Manhattan. Visit &lt;a href="https://www.threadandtether.com"&gt;threadandtether.com&lt;/a&gt; to learn more.&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you&amp;#8217;ll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit &lt;a href="http://sexualhealthalliance.com/"&gt;SexualHealthAlliance.com&lt;/a&gt; and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today.&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;***&lt;/p&gt;


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People&#8217;s definitions of cheating are evolving. Infidelity isn’t just about physical betrayal anymore. It’s emotional, it’s digital, and sometimes it doesn’t even involve another human at all. In today&#8217;s show, we&#8217;re diving into the new r

People&#8217;s definitions of cheating are evolving. Infidelity isn’t just about physical betrayal anymore. It’s emotional, it’s digital, and sometimes it doesn’t even involve another human at all. In today&#8217;s show, we&#8217;re diving into the new rules of cheating. We&#8217;re also going to talk about how modern technology is making it harder than ever to keep infidelity a secret.
I am joined once again by Dr. Amanda Gesselman a research scientist and head of the VIBES research team at the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University. Digital intimacy is a major focus of her research, including how people use tools like camsites, AI companions, dating apps, and social media to navigate connection and desire.
Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:

What do people today think &#8220;counts&#8221; as cheating?
Is watching porn a form of infidelity? What about sexting with an AI chatbot?
How many people suspect a partner has cheated on them before?
What kind of detective work do people do to determine if a partner has cheated?
How do we balance the benefits and challenges of digital intimacy?

To learn more, you can read a brief report of this study here.
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Episode 455: The New Rules Of Cheating

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